Can a guy genuinely intrigued by you even if he has a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Not saying he will act on it but can a guy be intrigued by you, stare in your eyes without breaking eye contact.. or is it about validation even if she doesn’t give him any

[236color]

To be intrigued is to be curious about someone or something. I can be intrigued by a bird I've never seen before. If you mean can he be romantically/sexually interested in someone other than his girlfriend, sure. Will he act on it? Not if he's committed to his partner

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

To me staring isn't a sign of romantic interest, more like a sign of cognitive lag, at least that's my experience with strangers stares lol. What constitutes being intrigued, to you, aside from stares?

[Asker]

Having something in common/same background.. mystery.. a women who doesn’t fawn over you

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I haven't seen a girl fawning over me yet and I'm pretty sure I would find that irritating enough to flee the scene lol. Mystery is so subjective so it's hard to talk about that. Something in common, same background would intrigue me yes, whether or not I'm with my girl, but that's absolutely not a sign of romantic interest tot me, just interest

[Asker]

For example.. I was distracted and quite sad after an ex made me feel like I was the gum at the bottom of his shoe… this guy I met at a store was nice. I didn’t pay much attention to him but I did notice how kind he was.

But he asked me what brought me here to this city and I told him I was an art teacher here for 2 years but now I’m pursuing nursing.. he said same.. He talked about his 180… he is also an self taught creative.. I actually had a degree in psychology and was a self taught artist who oil paints and draws… he’s a self taught cinematography who actually was self taught and majored in film production but is now pursuing aviation.. I told him that I actually went to an aerospace high school and learned to fly planes (Cessna 172) and learned about turbine engines and did like plane parts (rivets)

[Asker]

But you’re right it doesn’t signify anything I was just asking I just felt seen by him when I was at my lowest that day and was looking to be seen. I actually wanted to hide and I was deep in my own thoughts… he was just nice to me and maybe he just tried to be nice for his ego or to be “liked” but I appreciate the effort and attentiveness. Whoever he’s with is lucky

[Asker]

* I was NOT looking to be seen

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

It does feel really nice to get this attention, given the context. I've experienced that a few times after breakups. I take it as the sign of hope it is, but no more. And honestly, there's a chance I'd actually look for being seen, when I'm down, it's more or less unconscious. Plus it doesn't harm anyone, in moderation

Also, from experience, I'm not setting a lot of restrictions about who I talk with, whatever gender and regardless of my status

[Nikki1989]

Of course, this is especially true if you have similar interests. I have male friends I speak with most days of the week due to having the same interests and passions.

[queenofcardio]

It's possible yeah.. I would ignore it , he has a girlfriend

[Asker]

Oh I wouldn’t entertain a taken guy

[spartan55]

That's why you are posting this. Because you would never... 😂 😂

[Asker]

@spartan55 just asking for conversation

[spartan55]

@asker
Riiiight, and I'm an All Pro safety too.

[RedAlertAdvisor]

Yes, absolutely.

Having a girlfriend doesn't suddenly make a man incapable of noticing or being intrigued by another person.

The important distinction is that attraction, curiosity, and commitment are not the same thing.

A guy can find someone fascinating, enjoy eye contact, and even think about them while still choosing to remain loyal to his relationship.

The mistake many people make is assuming interest automatically means intention.

Sometimes it does.

Sometimes it's simply curiosity, attraction, or admiration.

That's why I pay more attention to actions than eye contact.

[Asker]

That’s very true.. he didn’t actually want me

[spartan55]

Inrrigued is just a word salad term for attractive. People with SOs can find other people attractive. As for validation, who knows, does it matter?

[Asker]

Yea I feel like if it’s for validation then it’s not genuine

[spartan55]

Why does it matter if it's genuine or not?

[AgentG111]

Intriguing question, are you so intriguing to him that he's expressed this to you? And your intrigueness is it on a level leaving what he has for you?

Is this something more of a conversation or sexual?

[RavVid]

Different parts of the brain deal with love and sex so it is possible to be in love with one girl and in lust with another

[PinkSchmetterling]

Oh I think most guys can be intrigued by a pretty girl anytime lol

[slatyb]

Absolutely he can. Being in a relationship doesn't blind us to others.

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

Yes. It happens.

He might even be thinking about you when he's with his girlfriend.

[RobRob74]

Yes you can have attraction to anothe woman if your in relationship. You dont have to act on it but if it happens you can chalk it up to the animal instinct to mate with others.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, yes it can happen. It happens with the other gender too.

[Iron_Man]

Who knows what a guy is thinking who knows how serious he is with his girlfriend

[cranberrycattoystory]

Short answer, yes. Especially, if the girl is really cute and/or hot.

[genericname85]

Sure. But would you want a guy like that?

[Asker]

True and no. I don’t entertain it I was just asking

[genericname85]

As you're probably well aware, men that aren't loyal do exist xD so this really is a no brainer.

[Caurav1997]

Yup I even slap her butt...

[WhitneySnow]

He can

[Asker]

But what’s the point if he has a girlfriend and can’t pursue

[Asker]

Or the looking while she’s not looking and when she catches him he doesn’t immediately look away

[spartan55]

@asker so what? People look at other people. I think it's very weird that you think if someone is in a relationship they shouldn't look at anyone else.

[Asker]

@spartan55 they shouldn’t look at them in a way that signals something more

[spartan55]

@asker who says they are 'signsling' anything? That's YOUR biased perception because you like the guy.

[Asker]

@spartan55 so looking at a woman while she’s not looking and then continues to look at her when she catches you

[spartan55]

What about it?

[WhitneySnow]

Sadly, I agree with @spartan55. This doesn’t mean much. And as long as they’re not openly staring at you in a predatory way, people have a right to look at whatever they want. Maybe he was just looking in your direction and you happened to be there.

[spartan55]

Sadly? 😂 Lol

[WhitneySnow]

@spartan55 sorry lol. We often disagree, but this time we agree with you 100%.

[WhitneySnow]

I agree

[Asker]

I was distracted and quite sad after an ex made me feel like I was the gum at the bottom of his shoe… this guy I met at a store was nice. I didn’t pay much attention to him but I did notice how kind he was.
I never wanted to be seen
But he asked me what brought me here to this city and I told him I was an art teacher here for 2 years but now I’m pursuing nursing.. he said same.. He talked about his 180… he is also an self taught creative.. I actually had a degree in psychology and was a self taught artist who oil paints and draws… he’s a self taught cinematography who actually was self taught and majored in film production but is now pursuing aviation.. I told him that I actually went to an aerospace high school and learned to fly planes (Cessna 172) and learned about turbine engines and did like plane parts (rivets)

But he was kind … tried to get me free art tickets and was just kind … you’re right it’s not romantic but he was just nice.. I guess I took the eye contact the wrong way

[WhitneySnow]

That was sweet of him. It’s possible he’s interested in you despite having a girlfriend, but it’s also possible he’s just being friendly. Either way, if he has a girlfriend you shouldn’t pursue him.

[Asker]

Oh no, because I wouldn’t want a guy to cheat on me but no boundaries were crossed

[WhitneySnow]

That’s great. Hope we were able to help you.

[spartan55]

@WhitneySnow
Who is we?

[WhitneySnow]

@spartan55 me lol

[spartan55]

@WhitneySnow
Don't start with the pronoun bullshit. If there is only one individual there is no 'we'. It's ME.

[WhitneySnow]

@spartan55 it was a typo!

[spartan55]

@WhitneySnow
I'm just giving you a hard time... 😂 😂

[WhitneySnow]

@spartan55 cool 😂

[Asker]

Now kiss

[RobRob74]

Then he is wanting you to notice him checking you out like looking you up and down , he is interested in having you too

[Asker]

@RobRob74 he wasn’t looking up and down just at my eyes/ face

[glennos89]

Yes 100%

[Anonymous]

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