Girls, if you ask a guy you barely know if he has a girlfriend, are you interested?

[Anonymous]

So if you asked a guy you don’t really know well but just see around if he has a girlfriend, what’s the motive?

Interested

Just being friendly/curious

[Anonymous]

Usually for me it’s just making light conversation so I can get to know them.

[Asker]

So not necessarily that you’re interested.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly that, but then again that is just me as a person. Doesn’t mean it’s the same for this girl, so take my opinion with a grain of salt.

[Asker]

Hmm im not sure what to think. To give a bit of context what happened is that she noticed that i get nervous around her and then she asked me “why do you get nervous around me? Do you feel nervousness around girls? Dont you have a girlfriend?”

I’m not sure how she could tell i was nervous because we rarely talk and are close.

[Opinion Owner]

Ohhhh ok, given the context I believe she thinks you have a girlfriend and wondering why you’re nervous around her when you have someone (because if you have a girlfriend you should feel comfortable and friendly around her, not nervous like a crush would). But even with that aside, your gestures may be absentmindedly relayed nervousness without you even realizing it. Even minor things like pacing, freezing up, moving a lot, avoiding holding her gaze, fidgeting, etc, all relay you’re nervous.

[Asker]

Oh alright. Well i told her i dont have one. I think what you said is right, she asked me that in the sense that if i have experience with girls i shouldn't be nervous around them.

Another thing, do you think she knows why i get nervous?

[Opinion Owner]

I would assume you’re doing a specific thing that she’s interpreting as nervousness, even if you aren’t very aware or aren’t doing it intentionally. I does seem like she’s relating it to maybe you being awkward around women, even if that’s not the case at all. But since you two don’t know each other, it’d be easy for her to misconstrue your actions..

[Asker]

I do get nervous around her, the main thing which i think gives it away is that i look down and get quiet when she’s around.

And yes, i get super awkward around women, more so around the ones i find attractive.

As for the last part, wdym by my actions? What can she misconstrue about me?

[Opinion Owner]

Gotcha. Well if you know that you get really awkward around women, then she likely noticed that and it wasn’t her misconstruing anything. What I was referring to with that last part was that maybe she noticed something specific, and misinterpreted it for nervousness when that wasn’t the case. But since you’re saying it was, then I’m not surprised she noticed tbh.

[Asker]

Ah alright.

Do you think i should talk to her to see if she seems positive? Or should i not try, if she is just being friendly and not flirting.

There is some more stuff that happened.
During a different convo between us about some stuff what happened is that she started to touch my arm and later on she put her hand on my belly and she was really close to me. I got nervous and leaned away so her hand didn't touch me anymore but she moved her hand again to my tummy and leaned towards me to close the gap.

I’m not sure if she is just being friendly and touchy.

[Opinion Owner]

With my partner I always say that he is my friend first, so I definitely don’t think it’s a bad idea to open the lines of communication to at least become friends. It would also give you the chance to ask for her social media’s and see if there’s a man in the picture. But as for the touching, that’s tough for me to answer because personally I am pretty touchy lol. Not in a way to disrespect my boyfriend of course, but for instance I have a habit of patting one of my guy friends stomach, but in my mind it’s more joking.

[Asker]

Alright, gotchu.
Thanks for the time.

[Guy13]

Yes they are interested in you. Can't really know why but they are definitely interested. You may have been that night's target...

[Sarahr123]

Nope usually I am just curious