I’m the one who saw him for him but another woman got his attention… does this mean women shouldn’t care about men?

[Anonymous]

He has no style, he’s quiet, older , to himself but he was kind, consistent, loyal to his sick mother … he’s all I saw and I couldn’t even keep his attention.. the woman didn’t even notice him

[Anonymous]

If he’s not attracted to you he’s not attracted to you. Stop being salty. You know how many dudes go through the same thing. Look at Forrest Gump. Gump would have died for that bitch but she used him after everyone else used her when he saw her for her. That’s life.

[Staximus]

Did you ever ask him to hang out with you, or go anywhere with you, or go out on a date, or give him your phone number, or even tell him you like him or any of that?

[Staximus]

Or did you just sit there like a bump on a log and expect him to read your mind?

[Asker]

No I never told him anything

[Staximus]

So what did you do to let him know that you like him?

[Asker]

If he is attracted to someone else then I wasn’t it for him doesn’t matter

[Staximus]

You don’t seem to understand this simple concept. Why would a guy waste time with a woman who acts like she’s not attracted to him?

[Asker]

I told about 8 people at work that I liked him… I’m sure he knew

[Staximus]

So what did you do to show him that you liked him, genius?

[Staximus]

If you didn’t tell him that you liked him and you didn’t do anything to let him know that you liked him then how the fuck is he supposed to know, fucking Einstein?

[Asker]

Well he doesn’t want me… I see him noticing and eyeing my coworker.. and she knows I liked him. I’m not competing

[Staximus]

Maybe he’s noticing your coworker because she acts like she likes him, unlike you.

[Asker]

That’s fine.. I’m not competing. And my coworker knows that I like him.. if it’s that easy to give someone else attention they were never interested in the first place.

He wasn’t interested in me enough.. I never ignored him, I always smiled… I always looked for his presence and we were slowly coming around he noticed me first and that’s what attracted me to him

If my coworker notices him now and wants the attention that’s fine… I can understand why he would gravitate towards her… he doesn’t see me as completely worth it so I won’t fight it.. he deserves to be with who makes him feel good

[Staximus]

Let me explain this again because you sound like you’re mentally slow. A guy is going to look for a girl that acts like she’s attracted to him, not a girl that acts like she’s not attracted to him. Your stupid games you are playing didn’t work. If you want a guy you need to make it known to him, not your coworkers or anybody else.

[Asker]

I wasn’t playing games with him I was simply matching the same energy he was giving me.. I see what you’re saying but I want a guy to show me he’s interested even if he’s unsure where I stand… I do have low self esteem and I am shy

[Staximus]

I don’t know why you can’t get this through your hammer head. If you act like you’re not attracted to a guy, he’s going to think you’re not attracted to him and that’s it. What don’t you understand about this?

[Asker]

I do understand but he knows I’m attracted to him!

[Staximus]

And how does he know this?

[Asker]

What aren’t you getting that he’s gravitating towards my coworker.

[Anonymous]

Guys are stupid. They always go for the popular girl they can’t have. Of course, every once in a while they get the popular girl and she turns out to be pretty nice too, but I guess that isn’t really helpful to your situation.

[spartan55]

I don't think 'popular' is a thing beyond high school.

[Kassandra1994]

Ok you are not goving us much more information I want to know more. Tell us spill the tea.

[Asker]

Well I was working at a nursing home as a housekeeper and this man who came to visit his mom often would always speak to me and made me feel less invisible…

I didn’t really pay much attention to him or think much about it and I told myself I wasn’t going to like anything unless they showed interest in me or asked me out…

He was consistent and I thought maybe he’s just nice.. he would wave at me from across the hall. I had to clean his mother’s room and he was there… he said that he liked my shoes and asked if they were comfortable..

His dad is a pain but one day he started being nicer and asked what I did … I told him I used to be an art teacher and wanted to get into health care..

His son is older.. quirky, to himself but I became very empathetic and attracted to him. I noticed he started wearing the brand shoes I was wearing (what he complimented me on)

I was too shy to make a full conversation and didn’t think it was appropriate.. so I thought he would start..

A new coworker starts working for our team and she’s very likable and we hit it off quick… I told her that I liked this guy… and she tries to connect us because he’s a 45+ shy man… but I think what ended happening is he started gravitating towards her and she knew it and she also knew how much I liked him… she ended liking the fact that he was more responsive to her than me and then I believe she also started noticing him

[Asker]

I also told her my secrets… how I never had a boyfriend, virgin… I was betrayed by a cousin who secretly started talking to a guy I had went on my first date with and had big feelings for… and it hurt me..

I’m not competing for his attention so I started avoiding him he noticed and now we are both just quiet…

And I stopped talking to her and I ended up quitting because I was getting ptsd bad.. but I found a better job that pays good

[Kassandra1994]

Yeah the dude likes you. Wjat happend here is you were playinh hard to get so the dude tough you were not intrested.

I would get into the shoe topic andntalk about shoes restaurants orneven tlak about art and what you enjoy.

[Kassandra1994]

So serious question is he a christian religous fanatic? Because if he is not I can share a love spell you can do.

[Asker]

I don’t want him…

My philosophy is if another woman thinks she has a chance with you over me then you’re playing the field… and it was feeling like a competition even though she said she didn’t want him (she wants his attention)

[Asker]

I don’t know but his dad is hard on him, his mom had a stroke and is mute, he seems so quiet maybe low self esteem… he’s always at the nursing home but he’s taking over his dad’s business

[Kassandra1994]

I see his dad is a narcisist I can sense it.

Well talk about church dig more información check and see if they are religous if they are not you win you can always try a love spell on him. Do you have know his full name and date of birth? Or a belongings of him?

[Asker]

I don’t want him lol she can have him… I want a man who is helplessly in love with me without a spell 😔

[Kassandra1994]

Are you christian?

[Asker]

Ig… I come from a Christian background

[Kassandra1994]

Yeah ok do not believe all the lies the chur h leaders have said about witch carft.

You can be evwn martied to this guy in months. Try the love spell message me if you want I can help you.

[Asker]

Oh wow I thought you were genuine.. no I don’t want to do a love spell

[Kassandra1994]

Oh please people have done way worst thing then a love spell.

[Asker]

Yeah but I feel like you’re not hearing me out plus I don’t know anything else about him but I want something organic

[Kassandra1994]

Well I try helping you , You repente my help. I dont know what to do. You are on you're own now. Bey!

[Asker]

Girl I went to go pick up my check and I saw his BMW so I knew he was there… I waited hours just to say bye for the last time to him and he waved and said hi how you doing I thought he would ask where I’ve been I was happy to see him

He leaves and goes the other way where his car is passing me and I’m outside waiting for a ride

I thought he would at least offer me a ride 🥺😔 I waited 4 hours just to see him one last time

[Abbycado]

Nope. That’s ridiculous. You’re just salty about losing out to another woman.

[Kassandra1994]

Wait she is salty? Girl tell me more about this wjat else do you know about this situation?

[gasman70]

no, this happens all the time where someone shows attention to another person and the other person actually finds someone else attractive.

[Anonymous]

No? You aren't entitled to other people. He is under no obligation to like you back.

[Asker]

Ik I just shouldn’t have told my coworker that I had liked him because now she’s noticing him and he’s paying more attention to her

[jahaims]

Lol you can't handle rejection in a healthy way

[Asker]

Well I stepped away the kicker was that the lady was my friend at work and she had already knew I liked him