Guys asking for pics before meeting

[dragonxlli]

I get why guys want pictures, kind of. But what about when they ask for pictures before you've even met? Is it to show off to their friends nd be like 'look who I've got a date w/' or what?

Cuz I read an excerpt from something somewhere that by the first pic they get they have some kind of scale thingy. Idr exactally how it went but basically to decide how slutty they were; or something like that.

True at all?

Updates

+1 y

Suppose I should have mentioned something allog the lines of us knowing each other off an online site. We both have profiles and pictures.

[MrEM4N]

I'm not shallow but I do have standards. If you're going out on a date and your not just pursuing a friendship it wouldn't definitely be a good thing to know if you are physically attracted to them. Granted, you don't have to give pics until after you've already developed a relationship and know each others personalities. But pics can definitely save you from heart break later on down the road. My friend is an online dating side maniac and he showed up at a concert to meet a girl he met online then made up an excuse about having to go to the bathroom and went home because she looked nothing like the pictures she put up online.

I'm not saying you're guilty of this but I do think that some women are secretly hoping that their amazing personality will win a guy over and if they could just have a conversation together he would forget that she looks nothing like what she described herself as. Guys will always be stimulated at some level by looks. We're genetically built that way. My own personal standards aren't very restrictive but I do expect someone to live a moderately healthy lifestyle and if all someone does is eat food, not exercise and make excuses why they can't change than that's unattractive. It's no different from showering every day or wearing clean clothes to me.

[Agameny]

I would definitely ask to gauge a girl. In my case, it wouldn't just be shallow, it would be to get a feel about her. I'd want to know what she looks like, how she dresses herself, what she puts around her. What she puts in the picture would be a snapshot of what she considers important. For instance, if it was a hot picture, I would think she is trying too hard to look good and would be likely to place too much of an emphasis on carrying the relationship with looks or touch instead of building a solid relationship base.

I might share the picture with a friend to show who it is I'm going out with, but it depends on the guy. Some would be more inclined to than others. That's just a risk with putting up your pictures anywhere on the Internet and shouldn't influence your doing it; just don't give them anything that you would be embarrassed to have shown to friends.

If the girl isn't the kind of person I want to go out with, I don't want to waste my time or my money on them. This would be part of attempting to making sure the lady is compatible with me, just as asking questions about them before meeting does. Hope it helps!

[StrawberrySuckers]

Just curious: Wouldn't you prefer receiving their picture before deciding to meet? Are you talking about online dating?

[dragonxlli]

U do have a good point. And it is off an online site.

[Rubzie]

Hmm ... I think it's just to check out the girl, to see if she's hot or not & then imagine her eating pot noodles.

[beerY33]

he might just want some idea of what to expect? I mean, any way you look at it, it's kind of shallow..

[Anonymous]

I insist/demand a girl has a few good and recent pictures up and sent to me. A webcam conversation would be even better. Why? Because I had a terrible experience with a close call online stalker who was actually a man who had some freaky ideas. Upon meeting him, saying no simply wouldn't work. I had to change my phone number. As you can imagine, he never sent actual pictures of himself to me at all; all he had was one low quality profile picture he found of a cute Pakistani girl.

So yes, it is for our own personal safety to get online photos. If you refuse, we'll assume you have something to hide (like a penis).

[bDizzie]

You absolutely need to know what the person looks like before you agree to meet them!

However, looking at your update, if you already have a picture on your profile page for him to see, then I don't know why he is asking for a pic.

[martyfellow]

Guys just wa to know beforehand what a girl looks like. Many are shallow and they decide from the picture if they want to even show up for the date at all, and yes, they want to show the pictures to their friends.

[Yesman69]

Pretty much what the other dudes said. Personality and a cute voice is great over the phone, but you've got to have something to work with in person.

[NerdInDenial]

They are curious if you are attractive or not. Ask for his picture.

[Anonymous]

They're shallow. They're judging you based off of some pictures, before they even know you.

[kheserthorpe]

If they're not attracted to you, dating is not going to work.

[Opinion Owner]

Apparently.

[dIO_oIb]

Curiosity I suppose.