Do I miss him or the attention?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy and we hit it off great. We kind of rushed into things so before you knew it, we were together. We thought we had a lot in common but turns out it was just little things that really didn't matter. He thought I was perfect and always wanted to spend time with me, and I mean always... As time went on, he grew more and more attached and it was really a turn off. I got bored with all the cutesy stuff, don't get me wrong he was really sweet and all but I'm just not into that. Eventually it became obvious that I was losing interest, unintentionally. We started fighting more and it led to our break up. We fought all the time and I was somewhat annoyed with "us" anyway so it didn't bother me. But now that we're done completely, I'm thinking about him more. Do I miss him or am I just missing the attention?

[MissAonethree]

I just went through kind of the same thing. We rushed into a relationship and I eventually lost interest. He was a sweet, considerate, easy going guy. Things I like, but I just wasn't feeling it with him. We continued to talk, hang out and have sex for a couple of weeks. Now he is with someone else (just two weeks after our breakup) and I wish he was still around. Well, I wish someone was around. I miss having that one person to text throughout the day (my job is boring), the one person I can call up to go do something with any time/day of the week and someone to wake up next to. It isn't him I miss, it is all the things that come with having a boyfriend. It is the attention. They say time heals all wounds. How come knowing that, us girls and sometimes men, don't just hurry up and get over it now and use that time on things that make us happy? Try to occupy your time with your hobbies, friends or whatever it is you like to do.

[Anonymous]

there is a possibility that you miss him, because how a person acts and treats you defines that person as you know them. did he move in with you? or stay over or hang out a lot and in the beginning did you ask him too? that may be what you wanted then and miss it now, is him and his nice actions towards you, afterall it was him that acted this way towards you.

[kennyk]

The attention. Even now it doesn't sound like you authentically care for him

[silkshortshart]

The attention.

[Anonymous]

Attention