People always call me 'cute' or 'innocent'. So far from my experience all I am to most girls is a friend. Are there any girls out there that find guys who are 'innocent' as attractive?Do girls like 'innocent' guys?
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I'm a true christian, so naturally that leads me to be less deviant and I guess 'innocent'.
From what I can see, girls always say they do while guys say that they don't. Let me try to help identify these differences.
I can tell you from my own personal perspective (as well as that from many other girls) that there are plenty of girls who like the innocent type. As far as I can remember, most of my girl friends would crush on the innocent type. So why do you never see these girls? This is usually where the guys would then give up and claim that it's because those girls don't actually exist. This may be jumping to conclusions. From personal experience and observation as well as countless of experiences I've heard from other girls, those who like the innocent kind aren't usually the type to be so vocal about their crushes. Girls who are more vocal about it tend to be more outgoing and seem to prefer those bad boys.
But then what about those times when you've seen bad boys date good girls? Once again, going off of what I know and experience, this is because those bad boys made a move on those girls. Innocent guys are also not vocal about their crushes and therefore don't typically make moves. And when they do make a move, it's usually after a girl who is vocal and that usually doesn't end too well. Innocent guys would often ignore the less vocal girls in the background who are actually interested.
And just for kicks, those who argue that science is in the favor of the bad boys should rethink. Yes it does appear more favorable for females to go after "manly men" during the hunter-gatherer days but let's face it, humans are social creatures so that type of mindset would not have lasted long anyway. The nice guy (but more generally, nice people) who always appears to finish last actually have traits that are more evolutionary beneficial. Altruistic behavior as shown in nature from birds and bats is far more favorable as it helps the community thrive as a whole. This concept works in human society too. Be nice, help others benefit, and you will benefit too.
Well, this can be a complicated question to give an opinion about, because innocent is a multi-faceted word. Not all women will prefer an innocent man. As it has been stated many times, often girls will go for the "bad" type. Where I can see how the dominance or confidence (or whatever shiny factor it may be) can be attractive, I never really went through a bad boy phase (though I did end up with one as my first boyfriend, but that is only because i either apparently cannot judge people, or just get so caught up in illusions that I see something that isn't there. That aside...) Personally speaking, being with an innocent guy is my dream, if i am to be in a relationship at all. I would love to be in love with someone who is honest and sincere, down to earth, a little bit emotional and romantic. Not afraid to be a little vulnerable and share things. Talks a lot, even about small details and the little things in life. Shares his hopes and dreams along with that emotional connection. And one of the most important, does not have a dirty mind, or thinks of sex all the time, watches porn and just wants women for sex. I don't even think men like that exist at all. Another thing i like is for a guy to still be optimistic and hopeful about life, and not disillusioned. Because i'm that way, even though I get down sometimes, and would appreciate having a partner who thinks the same way. But i'm giving up hope now...
I ADORE innocent guys. I feel like they're so much more special because they're rare. By innocent I'm talking about still a virgin, doesn't swear or if he does it's not often, does not watch or has ever watched p*rn, never tried drugs, never smoked, doesn't drink, and is very obedient in the academics and with his family. I have only met ONE guy in my life like that. I always have, and always will be attracted to the innocent guy. Guys my age (I'm 19, I'll be 20 this Oct) are hardly ever that innocent. There's unfortunately this "standard" of what's deemed "attractive" to girls and that's the bad boy. I find it upsetting because generally speaking a guy will try to be that said bad boy to not only be accepted but to be liked by a girl. I'm a VERY innocent girl and naturally I'd fall for an innocent guy. Too bad I don't see them often but I know that I'm bound to meet one someday. So yes, to answer your question, there are girls who find the innocent guy attractive. Not only me, but I know 10 of my girl friends fall for the innocent guy too. Haha that's why all of us fell for the exact same guy xD.
Speaking for myself, I get the whole "cute" and "innocent" thing a lot so I tend to go for the alpha males who are pretty assertive and more dominant in the relationship, since I find it just evens things out nicely. But, a lot of my friends really swoon over "innocent"/"cute" type of guys so I don't think you have anything to worry about :)
would your friends actually date an innocent/cute guy or are they those kinda guys that your friends would just look at and say 'aw' and then completely forget about them?
Oh no, they'd definitely remember him and be willing to go out with him I think. Just because that type of guy isn't MY type, doesn't exclude that type of guy from being other girls' type. So yeah, they would go for him no problem. Try not to worry too much about it, a lot of girls find that type of personality rather endearing.
well I find it very attractive. bad boys might be fun at first but innocent guys have there's ups too. girls only like guys that are not so innocent or bad becasue its exciting its dangerous its a thrill.
not really sure, I just hear it every now and then, don't really know what they mean when they cal me 'innocent'. probably because I don't cuss, kinda quiet, don't make fun of people all that much, and stay outta trouble. that doesn't mean I don't joke around though or that I'm boring tho, people also think I'm funny, easy to get along with and fun to talk to.
than yes its attractive. you don't play the a**hole role. which guys think that being an a**hole will get a girl. lots of times yes but it doesn't keep them. I think someone like you would be able to keep a long relationship going better
sirspauldo... I looked at your pic, and to tell you the truth... just by looking at your pic, you do look innocent. And honestly, you look "too good". LOL. YOur being a true christian explains it. It brings out the goodness in your face. However, you do look too good. so there.
Girls don't like innocent guys. Know why? Go back to hunter gatherer societies and tell me where the innocent guy would be. They'd all be under the ground after an alpha trying to take advantage of them would crush his skull in.
While this isn't true right now, we haven't exactly 'evolved' sexuality quite yet and unless you're willing to wait millions of years, innocent, nice guys are just going to be everyone's play things.
Sure after she's done boinking all the 'alphas' she'll settle down with Mr. PaytheBills and what you'll get out of it is kids, a woman who is past her sexual prime, not much sex and lots more responsibility. While paying for all of it out your ass. Basically, you'll just be used.
I don't know about you, but I have no wet dreams about being used by women while being called 'innocent, sweet guy'. And I'm really not anyways, I embrace myself as I am rather than waste time trying to be mr.innocent whose only purpose exists to make your mommy proud.
I've been asking myself this question for a long time too. I'd also say I'm a pretty innocent guy, and unfortunately, a lot of times girls just consider me a "friend" too which really frustrates me. I just don't see the need to be obnoxious, mock everything, or pull off some pseudo-biker act or some fake ghetto nonsense. I can have a perfectly good time without breaking the law. And I'm not a pushover either.
I posted this question a while ago, but yeah same, the girls I hang out with now prefer more innocent guys cuz I hang around a lot of Christians like myself, so its been going well for me :)
Everyone has their preferences, some like innocent, some like bad, there's someone out there for everyone.
I would define innocent not as the absence of knowledge or wrong doing but as the presence of meekness - and there is social meekness and there is emotional meekness - you can be socially meek but not emotionally meek - or you can be spiritually meek but not socially meek - to be meek girls are desirable to good men - I also do not believe meekness is the same as timidity - to me a meek person is not timid - they are brave and full of power
YES innocent guys are perfect! bad boys can be fun and all but when it comes down to marriage and real life would you rather be with a party freak or a man who will pay bills and help clean and will start a family? i think the choice is obvious :)
I get the same thing! but I'm a girl haha, I'd much rather have an innocent and cute guys than a duche bag that has slept around. You're just keeping things fresh :D
Of course its not, but its the only way. That is provided you actually want women in the first place, and you don't feel like actually becoming that which is required of you (tough guy). The world is not fair bro, sorry.
ok thank for your help. I don't agree with it but I appreciate it. only because I know girls that do like innocent guys like me, they're just hard to find amongst all the sarcastic sluts in the world. I know there are girls out there that like guys like me, just wanted to see how many girls on here feel that way.
want to know my opinions? i hate bad boys. yes this is late but im a bit emptied at how little innocent there are or how some of the innocents i came across to are acting it and not actually one. a bit disheartening, i want a real one. because those are rare and the best, I hope you don't change, goodluck finding a woman.
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