Why are teenage girls so fickle and so immature?

[BigGuy223]

I'm 16 and every girl my age I've had a relationship, plays with my emotions and just throws me to the side like I'm nothing, they go and date me then say there confused and date another guy as soon as they break up with me. Then sometime they break up with me and keep trying to come back, all my friends that are girl say I deserve so much better from a girl, and deserve much better treatment l because I'm such a great, sweet guy. But every where I look girls act the same, then I find girls I like but are afraid to ask them out because I'm not skinny and I've been turned down because of this reason and I don't know at to do, or why teenage girls act so terrible towards me in our relationships

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I just wonder why they treat me so terribly, as if I don't have feelings, they would feel bad if treated them that whay but why do they jsut brush it off as as o he doesn't care,.

[Darkfairie17]

This is just how it is as a teenager. Lots of drama and no one knows what they want for sure and it seems that they are moving on to a new person every week. Not every teen is like that, but I know from high school that was how some of my friends were as well as the rest of the teen population in school. Teenagers are immature in general, not all but a good deal of them are because they lack life experience.

The Teens are a confusing time where you are trying to find out who you are and where you belong. You don't have a lot of responsibilities yet like bills of kids, but you are still expected to make mature decisions when you are incapable of knowing what you really want out of life yet.

I know it's hard, but don't feel bad. It's hard to find a meaningful relationship when you are that age. People are more about having fun and being with their friends than having a relationship. As you get into your late teens and early twenties, that will all start to change.

Also, people in their teens don't know who they are yet. Even some people I know in their late 20's are still not sure what they want out of life. It's normal and it's just the way life is for some people.

In college age, so 18-25 people are more apt to get in to more serious relationships. I say if you are getting frustrated, take a break. Go focus your time on something you enjoy doing and stop worrying about having relationships yet.

Relationships are better anyway when you are an adult because you can do more things and have more freedom to make choices about your life. Your time will come eventually, but in the meantime just focus on having a good time with your friends.

[JanJan]

You hit the nail on the head here. Young people can be VERY fickle and immature. Sadly, you can't do much to change the way other people act. But what you can change is the way you react to other people's behaviors. Instead of falling into the same old rut, go spend time with girls who aren't your usual type. And these female friends of yours? They might be a good place to start.

Just try to keep in mind that dating at your age is about learning who you are and having fun. You aren't going to be with your high-school sweetheart forever, so don't look for the love of your life. Just enjoy spending time with whoever you are with, and let each failed relationship be a learning experience on how to behave, what to do in certain situations, etc. Dating is a skill that you will need in the future, so let your high-school years be practice. Instead of looking for a relationship right away, date around until you are sure that you like the person. And it will also give the girl time to make up her mind.

And of course, you know the drill. No sexting, practice safe sex, don't break the law. You've heard it all already, I'm sure!

Don't worry, you're doing just fine!

[samhradh_leannan]

Young people tend to be less mature than older people- do we need to explain that concept? Many people of BOTH genders are immature, irresponsible, fickle, and superficial as teenagers. Many people also AREN'T that way- I've known many a warm, kind, responsible, and caring youth. I'm sorry you haven't been finding good relationships, but you can't blame the situation on "all" girls having certain traits, because girls are as different from each other as guys are. Maybe you're interested in the wrong, or maybe maybe there are other variables that you're not aware of influencing the situation. If you feel frustrated, take a break from dating for a while. Maybe when you start up again, you'll have better experiences.

[samhradh_leannan]

interested in the wrong PEOPLE* sorry

[MrFlirtatious1992]

I think you're too much of a nice guy. Many girls won't admit it but nice guys are boring and don't turn them on. It's true when they say nice guys finish last. Well I've become the nice guy that finishes first. I'm not overly nice but I tease the girl, make her laugh, don't give her all of my attention but I do treat them very well. Maybe you need a change in attitude. Don't be so nice because obviously as you have found out, they aren't nice back to you.

[BigGuy223]

yes you are very correct iam to much of a ncie guy, but I just don't un derstand why, girls dotn like nice guys, always goign for the guy who doesn't care abotu the girl and I don't know why, but yes a changre would help, any advice on that

[MrFlirtatious1992]

Don't know why I've got thumbed down twice, my answer was accurate and honest...ANYWAY...yeah put yourself in the shoes of a hot chick and picture a nice guy buying you gifts, taking you for dinner and being over complimentary. Of course it's nice to begin with but you would get bored pretty quick, There's no excitement. You need to trigger girls emotions and they don't' always need to be good ones. There's so much I could say but I'm running out of characters. Is there anything specific?

[BigGuy223]

nothign really specific but just some thigns to change

[samhradh_leannan]

Many girls do like nice guys. You just don't notice those situations as much because they don't cause drama, and they aren't fodder for your generalizations. Being interesting isn't about whether or not you're nice. The ideal guy is both. But anyone can call themselves "nice"- it's a greatly abused term right now. In my experience, many guys who label themselves as "nice" and blame that for why they're single are in fact overlooking the real reasons why girls aren't attracted to them.

[BigGuy223]

im not saying I'm single because I'm "nice" I'm just don't know why they act this way towards me

[samhradh_leannan]

It's probably because of their age (being a jerk when you're young is common among BOTH genders, unfortunately), or you're just not meeting the right people.

[Baronace]

BigGuy, ignore samhradh_leannan... She wants to blame you, and all men for being abused by rotten women. Think about what the cruel women do to hurt you, and avoid girls who posses these traits. Pay attention to these red-flags and avoid at all costs. You may be instinctively looking for the wrong type of girl. Take time to think about it, and keep a positive attitude.

[Ymir-Rider-ru]

@Baronace Yo! I'm the NOT so nice girl here to drop my thoughts on this take. You sound braindead. Girls do in fact like nice guys and many actually PREFER the guys who show them genuine respect and the guys that they can connect with on a higher and MUCH DEEPER level than sex and to show off and flaunt looks and attractiveness. You're a teen kid you dont have to be looking of focusing on this right now, a stable life and future should be at the head of your brain-space right now. if relationships are that much of a pain and a burden and make you feel like less of a person than you actually are... wait... you can always hold off and focus on yourself and other things and then wait till you get to a more mature crowd of women, men or whatever ur into.

[Habakkuk]

teenage guys aren't much better.. mostly stupid and immature as well

[Baronace]

Teenage girls are treacherous! Notice that most of the female replies say "All" teenagers are this way (lol, Not). No, it's just the girls!!! Guys brains don't work that way. Guys aren't fickle and superficial, like most teenage girls are! Most teenage girls and many women will subconsciously respond positively (sexually) to "Power" in all forms. It's why they crave the Bad-Boys, Boy-Bands, The varsity Quarterback, etc.. These males all represent Strength and Power, and young girls are subconscious-slaves to it... If you're nice (all the time) to these girls, at some point they will instinctively see it as week and boring. It's demented, but then most teenage girls are! And once teenage girls realize they have power over the Male Sex-Drive, watch out!!! Forget that, and you will suffer...

There is a countermeasure however. Another form of strength & power is "Confidence". Unfortunately, confidence is not something one can just turn on like a light switch. It's a personality trait that's developed over time, sometimes over a long time. If you plan to date one of these good-looking (emotionally-psychotic) teenage girls, you had better be damn confident in yourself and who you are, as well as being in control of your environment. If not, you will likely be in for a roller-coaster ride that will go off the rails, and it will be painful.

Fortunately, while most teenage girls are like this, not all of them are. Some are mature beyond their years. Some aren't as pretty as the other girls, and some are insecure (be careful with the later). Look for girls who are happy most of the time, stay away from depressed and angry girls. Look for girls who show a genuine interest in the things you enjoy. Like you for who you are, and aren't trying to change you in any way. A girl who likes to do things with you, instead of always wanting to hang out with their friends. Look for girls that have long relationships in life, can be anything from family, pets, mementos, etc. Avoid girls who talk bad about "Anyone", or girls who have more than 1 guy friend (zero guy friends is best)...

The hard to find "mature" teenage girls are out there, you just have to look harder. They can still be dangerous (see insecure), but they can also be really great. And trust me, they may not seem to have cheerleader looks now, but many of them will turn out to be just as sexy as the hot-cheerleader, and even sexier in the long run! And without all the misery!

Don't wait till your 35 to find your confidence. Spend your time looking for the mature modest teenage girl. And if you can't find her right away, take your time and keep looking. It will be well worth it.

Here's a tip. Have any girl you like read my post ( cut this line out first ) and if she blows up, gets defensive or calls it all BS, then that's the type of girl to stay away from!

[Anonymous]

Teenage guys are the same maybe people should date when they're 17 or 18

[enlightenment]

because they are teenagers!