I never had a boyfriend and I'm 23. Does that sound abnormal? Honest answers!

[Anonymous]

if a 23 year old girl has never had a boyfriend (no decent guys approach her), does that probably mean she's ugly or average looking?

with girls hooking up and having sex even before graduating high school in current times, what would you think about a 23 year old virgin?

what's the first thing that you think about her?

please be honest! :-)

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+1 y

AND what if she didn't choose to be single...

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+1 y

as much as I appreciate all of the answers, most of you guys are giving me personal answers like, oh I would love this kind of girl to be my girlfriend, oh it doesn't really matter,

are there any guys who don't like virgins or inexperienced girls?

[Anonymous]

Well I am a 23 year old virgin as well, but the difference is that I did have a boyfriend once. We didn't go all the way because he told me he hadn't had sex in a while and he wanted to try it because he forgot how it felt. He never had any real feelings for me, and it hurted.

When people ask me if I'm a virgin or not, I do not answer because that is none of their business. You should share that with people you trust.

I think if the person cares for you, he won't care if you are a virgin or not.

[Nicci]

It's nothing to be ashamed/worried of at least (I kinda got that feeling from your question).

Maybe a bit old fashioned perhaps, maybe she's the "waiting til I'm married" type, some of those girls still exist.

I'm personally not quite sure how good an idea that is, but in the end it's all down to you, if you choose for that, than it's all fine.

[Asker]

i am a bit old fashioned, actually I should say my parents are...

[Stuffhappens]

From what I've heard, you are the perfect girl next door that guys hope to settle down with once they are over their sex-induced young stage.

[Asker]

well thanks for the compliment...

[Anonymous]

Same guy as "maybe she is shy" below.

Inexperience is not an issue if she is eager to learn. Fun being first and caring about it.

Inexperience and reluctance/inhibition together are deal breakers.

Physical virginity is an issue for some guys who are impatient. Being first and caring is an expression of love right from the beginning.

[kespethdude]

I'm in a worse situation than you and am more likely to be a lost cause. I'm 37, thirty-freaking-seven and never had a girlfriend. And yes, it's the women who chose me not to have a girlfriend. That and the fact I can't read non-verbal cues so I don't know when it's OK to approach a woman so I don't.

[MissLeslie]

Buy a cute puppy and walk him around places women hang out more. They're all gonna be like "awww" and then you can start a conversation ;-)

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is shy. Maybe she has a weak self image. Maybe she was focusing on her education and future. Maybe she does not "need" a relationship. Maybe her sexuality is weak or ambiguous.

Does she masturbate?

[Asker]

rarely does she masturbate. in fact "she" feels guilty about it.

[Opinion Owner]

Appears she lacks confidence in her desirability and has sexual inhibitions. One fix would be to start working out at a stylish fitness place so she can display herself and see guys displayed in a very controlled but sexually charged environment. If she likes herself and her body more and can pleasure it without guilt, things should get a lot brighter for her. Other parts of her life may improve too.

[Tinyplaces]

Ill be 25 in a week. Never had girlfriend, no relationship nothing. I've only hooked up with girls. I'm still a virgin (NOT waiting for marriage). I would be fine dating a virgin regardless if they're close to my age or not as long they're not waiting for marriage. Others out there are in the same boat as you it's not a big deal as people make it seem.

[uglyvirgin]

What is "hooked up girls" then if your still a virgin? I'm just curious. I'm one too.

[Tinyplaces]

Hooked up as in I've made out, foreplay that kinda thing

[KingsOfleon88]

Believe it or not there are guys out there who are in a similar situation as you who have never had a girlfriend or have little to no experience. IMO it is not a big deal and you shouldn't worry about what people think about you or have to say. There is someone out there for everyone and you just have to find your match. If someone really loves you, this stuff won't even matter.

[ThatBritishLad]

*Reads update* Bugger, I can't make an English joke :<

Doesn't sound too strange, I know a few people who are considered good looking around your age who are yet to get in relationships (True, one is a Menophile... And the other one seems to be an Emetophilic Rugby player from Hull D:)

[ThatBritishLad]

Well, I don't like virgins or unexperienced girls, but yet again I hate everyone ;)

[Konnour]

Do you go to parties, do you have large friend-circle, vivid social life?

If yes - you have a problem.

If no - you simply had no chance given, that doesn't mean anything about you.

[Asker]

in my situation it's a no.

[Konnour]

Then you just need to put yourself out more to increase your odds of success, and not just 'increase' - it will dramatically skyrocket them!

[Anonymous]

well if she didn't drink, smoke cigs and most important doesn't do any (illegal) drugs and I also found her attractive I would freaking love it some much because I am still a virgin myself and would hope that she would also like me back :P

[Asker]

well she doesn't do any of those things, neither is she good at flirting or sex.

[Opinion Owner]

well to ask others about how to flirt or tips on how to flirt or use sites like this to learn common ways to flirt or Google that stuff and start to look for it and use it as a baseline and lastly if you like a guy why don't you try to ask him out insisted of waiting for someone to ask you and to tell you the truth I have found myself wishing some days that a girl would ask me out

[aMuse]

Nothing really. It's no big deal... If I'm attracted to her then I'm attracted to her. If I felt like I had chemistry with her and like her personality I'd be willing to be patient with her...

[aMuse]

@update: Same story... If we mesh we mesh. =P

[uglyvirgin]

Im 24 and have never dated. The only that would worry me was that she was really picky about guys or scared of them. Or had issues or hangups. But if none of those are true. Then its fine :)

[Asker]

by hooking up, I mean one night stands or making out heavily, usually what happens at parties filled with alcohol.

[sweet_18]

It is abnormal. But that doesn't mean you're socially-maladjusted. It means that you're either really picky or you don't put yourself out there enough.

[Anonymous]

i'm 24 and never had a girlfriend, I'm dead serious

[Opinion Owner]

i feel your pain

[ArrograntWarrior]

Typical first world problem

[Asker]

why?

[WavyCherry]

Really?

[WavyCherry]

Typical first world a**hole

[doctorwhofan23]

I am 23 and I have never had a boy friend.

[Asker]

haha, fail.

[doctorwhofan23]

Sorry meant girlfriend