What girls ACTUALLY like smart guys?

Question

Yes, I hear it all the time that girls want an intelligent guy... BUT when it comes down to it, they usually pick a bunch of douchey and short-term guys that will never be able to sufficiently stimulate them mentally.  So what kind of girls ACTUALLY end up seriously with smart guys? I have to start refining my search.

JumpThenFall · Accepted Answer

In short, yes women do want intelligent men.

The problem is is that intelligent men are usually shy or not confident and that can be a tough barrier. I went through a phase from about age 17-21 where all I dated were the really hot jocks who had tire irons for brains. I am not a dumb person by any standards. However, I (like so many girls) were blinded by the muscles and the good looks. It wasn't until just recently that I discovered what I was missing out on when I started dating a nice, shy guy who was going to school for polticial science and international relations. He and I had so much to talk about and would get into really interesting talks about the world and our own idealologies and whatnot. Was he the most attractive guy I'm ever been with? No, but he was by far the most interesting and treated me the best. Even though we have recently broke up, I will NEVER go back to dating the tools that I went for before. With the old guys, they never were interested in talking about books or music or what I was studying in my theory classes.

I guess for some girls, looks are all that matter and a lot of girls could care less about school or reading or discussing ideas about how the world works. But you don't really know what you are missing out on until you go out of your comfort zone and try it. I think a lot of girls in high school and college don't want to go out with a certain type of guy because they are worried what other people will think, but getting over that comes with age. It's a maturity thing.

ashleynatasha · Accepted Answer

ok we always want someone to intellectually stimulate us!thats why we read romance novels !we get off on words..so some douchy guys might say the right things but if they lack substance I turn the other way because I read through there b.s also I was attracted to a douchy type at one point when I didn't know any beter..of  I was always seeking there approval I didn't feel worthy because they where so confident maybe I wasn't good enough in my mind but I didn't realize I was and they  manipulated me .and felt they could do better maybe at the core it hast to do with something within are selfs!

Temporary46 · Accepted Answer

Ones that come from good families. Wholesome and upper middle class, somewhat spoiled.

Ones that are very family focused.

complicated part of your question though is that I have met "douchy" guys who were very intelligent

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Shadowoftoday · Accepted Answer

Well, if the girl herself isn't very intelligent, she won't really look for a guy to intellectually stimulate her because she doesn't want to be intellectually stimulated. If she is intelligent, she will probably understand the laws of attraction and try to find a balance of beauty and intelligence- placing a slightly higher priority on intelligence. But, naturally, the average girl has average to mediocre intelligence (think Justin Bieber's fanclub) so they won't really value intelligence much in guys because in order to understand and value intelligence, you must first have intelligence yourself. To place a higher priority on beauty means you are looking for superficial qualities thus it indicates that you are relying more on your primal instincts and less on your intelligence. Hence, this is why so many girls don't like smart guys and refer to them as "nerds". That's my theory anyway. Not factual. Just pure speculation.

kheserthorpe · Accepted Answer

Its a plus, not a requirement for most.

Or it would be if most smart guys weren't neurotic in ways that self-sabotage, at least when young.

Most girls don't like being with guys who seem stupid to them, so smart girls will much more often go for smart guys, because ... they are ignoring dumb guys.

Friends_Alibis92 · Answer

I honestly go for the smarter guys who I can have a conversation with and will actually know what I'm talking about. I love new information, researching things, watching news, etc. and I want someone who will take what I tell them in stride and I will do the same.

Girls you gotta start looking for are the girls that don't always try to act perfect, will call her family just because she is close to them, one who isn't always worried about what other people think and that looks aren't everything.

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

Smart girls. I know guys like this and they always seem to end up with girls who are like them. The intelligent smart girls. So go out with girls who have similar interests to you that you can relate too.

Intelligence is icing on the cake though. Intelligence won't turn me on the way good looks do, it's not like I'd pick a guy just because he's smart, he has to have other qualities that draw me in. If the main thing he has going for himself is just the fact that he's smart, then what incentive do I have to go for him?

TheUglyOne · Answer

I think smartness is more like a condiment or icing. Few women actually FIND intelligence attractive, but many say they do. Status and physical attraction are still the primal attractors for women, and will probably always will be, and neither requires any brains.

And it's probably even more so for men.

When the day comes when a woman says "I noticed his genius from across a crowded room", then I will believe intelligence is considered attractive.

landingsight · Answer

In my experience, smart girls generally want smart guys. You'd be amazed by the number of Ph.D's in my department alone who met and married their partners in academia - although a big part of that, I think, is that they are going through the same hurdles, share similar values, and can empathize with one another's life experiences.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

I like smart guys. I've only ever dated nerds. Granted, my current boyfriend is a swimmer, but he is also a nerd. His body is not what attracted me. His wit, high level humor, and intelligence is what did. I like being able to have an in depth, intelligent conversation with him. He's well read, and I like that.

Yeahhbro · Answer

You really wanna know why douche bags get the girls, because they know what to say and they know how to act as simply as that...they are actually excelent actors. Girls say they want nice and inteliggent men which is actually true, but douche bags know how to push the right buttons and say the right things, hence why they have all the bitches.

may04 · Answer

The only guys I've ever liked have been able to hold interesting, intellectual and fun conversations, so here's one. It's a key factor in attraction, but just because a guy is smart doesn't automatically mean we'll click...

XNicholex3 · Answer

I don't mind it. But I am not going to date a guy just because he is smart. There has to be other things about him that I have to adore, like his personality.

kmhco · Answer

My boyfriend of a year hopes to get his PhD and become a professor. I'm pretty certain he counts as a smart guy...they are out there but you might just be looking in the wrong places.

pixiestix123 · Answer

i love guys that stimulate my mind not just my body. believe it or not most girls hate cocky douchey guys. I know I do. I guy with confidence is what I like and there's a big difference.

LancerLunatic · Answer

I've picked a few...not so much "winners", but only because I was in love with being in love. Many "short-term douchy guys" can sweet talk a good girl into doing things they wouldn't normally do because they feel like they can "fix" them.

I personally fell for someone that was no good for me because I THOUGHT I could fix him, but in the long run, personality sticks with you forever. "People never change" is one of the best quotes I can think of when it comes to questions like these.

papercut2 · Answer

Douchey, like having a profile picture of you flexing while putting your arm up so it seems you have a 6 pack? Oh yeah, I get you

luna1608 · Answer

oh my god this sounds like a "Nice guys finish last" kind of rant. -.-

Phoenix52 · Answer

Girls are emotional. They make decisions based on how a guy makes them feel. Forget about logic. Women aren't aroused by smarts.

Anonymous · Answer

If you were a smart guy you would know where to look and you wouldn't show off your muscles like you're doing now.

upsyndrome · Answer

Girls who can actually keep a conversation going that doesn't involve gossip like smart guys.

NonchalantBro · Answer

All the female answers here are horsesh*t. Does that answer your question, broseph?

Jaybabe77 · Answer

The one's that appreciate them for who they really are and gold diggers.

Deft_maiden · Answer

For short term fun anything goes. For relationship or friendship intelligence is a must!

sweet_18 · Answer

I like smart guys, but only the hot ones. I've been told I"m pretty smart so I guess it takes one to know one

Anonymous · Answer

Omgsh, I like smart guys so much... my last boyfriend and I used to talk science to each other in bed... :)

Anonymous · Answer

You will find some in high tech jobs or training for it in universities.

Anonymous · Answer

The ugly ones when they're young, but they want the other guys. When they're older, it's gold diggers. And some smart guys are douchey. lol

Anonymous · Answer

The ones you don't want LOL

Anonymous · Answer

Alot of girls want smart guys

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