Blonde hair, tanned skin, standard of beauty?

[Anonymous]

This is how I used to look: tanned skin, platinum blonde straight hair. I looked that way for several years and I got a lot of attention from guys. For my junior year of high school (this year) I just wanted to go more natural and colored my hair a dark shade of brown (my hair is naturally light brown) stopped getting fake tans and going to sun beds and finally through my straightening iron out and showed my real spiral curls. Now I have dark hair, blue eyes and fair skin. A lot of people, mostly girls say that I look prettier now, they say I look natural, but I don't get as much attention from guys as I used to. I'm confident with my new looks, I like my curls and color and I don't need a tan to feel good, for me it's a waste of time and money. But I met my guy friend who've I haven't seen in a while and he said: "what did you do? you should go back to blonde, and get a tan, you look like a ghost" I laughed of him, but I know that he was serious. So I'm curious. Is blonde hair and tanned skin the most attractive features? And is dark hair and fair skin considered ugly?

[AskTheBean]

I prefer dark hair and fair skin. Always have.

I don't understand the fixation some guys have with tanned blondes. Not that tanned blondes are ugly -- some of 'em are very pretty to me. But having that look doesn't automatically make a woman attractive to me.

Perhaps as a blonde you were getting attention from only a certain type of guy? I'll bet that some guys are still checking you out. They just might not be the guys you're accustomed to.

[unknown797]

i think there are to many blonds so good for you I like brunettes and fake tans are really ugly on girls. This is just my opinion.

[Anonymous]

It's not ugly, but the Hollywood, flashy standard of beauty is what a lot of guys are attracted to. In some way they can't help it. That is what is promoted by the media as Attractive, not to say that natural beauties aren't beautiful, but natural looking girls are not given that kind of attention and validation.

[Marrryyyyy]

its easiest to be a pretty blonde, its definitely harder to get the attention if you're a brunette, so that might be it. statistically though, I think guys prefer brunettes.

[adorkabletmtm]

I hate that. Platinum blond with a fake tan.

Naturally I would think it's fake because it is.

It's very harsh.

So why not go with a more pleasant look?

[FrozenDonkeyWheel]

No. I definitely prefer fair skin and dark hair.