What if a guy says he wants to spend time together but not have sex?

[Anonymous]

i've been talking to a guy for about four months. We've spend as much time together as we can. But it's still not enough because we live a couple of hours away from each other. But when we are together we can't stop looking at each hother, he stares at me. We can't keep our hands to ourselves. We like the same things. We talk on the phone and text all the time. He says he really likes me and always wants to be with me.

So recently he has been acting weird, like it seems like he's ignoring me sometimes. He still says he likes me, but he told me he wants to spend a whole day together and hang out, but wants no sex. So what is thinking? Is he not sure if he wants to be with me or what? Thanks for helping.

[geekygamer79]

It sounds like he is not a 100% sure on what he really wants, he should man up and admit what he really wants, and not screw around with your feelings.

As far as not having sex, that's not entirely unheard of there are actually guys who can stand to be around and not have sex with her...imagine that concept huh crazy I know, or it could be a religious thing or maybe he is embarrassed or he could possibly be a virgin which there is nothing wrong with that at all.

Speak up let him know how you feel if you haven't already, share it with him, rejection happens and if it does its not the end of the world if it wasn't meant to be no need to kill ones self over why it didn't work that will just cause more harm than good to anyone.

[A_Guy]

Seems like he wants to see if you two can have a relationship with out sex. Like I agree, if every time you two are together you have sex, then maybe you guys may only be together for the sex, so he wants to see if there is something other than just sex.

[rudybooty]

He's maybe looking for the real thing and wants to develop something with you other than physical connection, so he's taking his time.

But if your not sure remember the best way is to find out from him directly.

[MaxPrime]

lol the best way to get sex is by not wanting it...I think it's working...just wait, he'll come around.

[Little-Hippie]

Did he say no sex for now? or just no sex?

[Asker]

He just said hang out all day and no sex. So I think it's for now. He didn't say never.

[Little-Hippie]

When I'm really into a girl and I'm seeing her, I won't have sex with her for a WHILE.

I feel like it takes away from the emotional connection and puts more emphasis on the physical.

I try to let the interaction be as pure as possible until we get to that level. It'll come.

But when he's ready, he's ready, so be ready.

[Asker]

LOL I'll be ready. He better be ready for me, making me wait.

[Little-Hippie]

He's making himself wait too.

[Asker]

Yeah I know. Thanks for helping.