How does a reboundee recover?

[Anonymous]

I'm glad that I know who she really is, but my ego is bruised because I don't date often. I want to react but I know that there is no good that will come from it. she broke the wrong heart.

[Moonrisekitten]

yeah don't react. saying "she broke the wrong heart" sort of shows that you aren't someone to be trifled with. and that's not always a good thing. I'm sorry you got used but you should keep your side of the street clean. also, consider that maybe you weren't intentionally a rebound for her. just the next guy. not all girls plan to have a "rebound". how do I think you should recover? move on to the next relationship. not with the intensions of having a rebound relationship, but just to move on with your love life

[ludorock]

It depends. It all starts once you start holding her to blame. You've got to get over your anger first. That was my first step and once I learned to let that go everything else fell in place pretty quickly. It took me a long time- years, because of what happened and how I handled it. But once I saw the situation for what it was it only took a month or so to just get over it and move on with my life.

[Asker]

I held everything in for 2 months... today I finally accepted what I was to her and now the anger came

[ludorock]

There you go. Now you have to let the anger go. So what she may have used you. Why is that still your problem? Are you a worse human being for having been used? No. You're still you. So what if she wronged you, just let it go. You don't need to know her, you don't need to talk to her. It's hard to let go but holding on only means that she's making you just as bad as you see her as.