Here is a direct copy and paste of a chapter in "How To Get Over Anyone In A Few Days" by M. Farouk Rodwan. I apologise if I broke any copyright laws..
Rebound Relationships
After a certain loss nothing feels better like a quick chance to regain victory and that’s why lots of people take hasty decisions then regret later after they realise that it wasn’t the right thing.
Right after breakups people start to feel that they have lost a good source of intimacy, someone who cares for them and someone who makes their life feel better. Desperately trying to restore these privileges some people go into a new relationship right after breaking up, this is what is otherwise known as a rebound relationship.
The person seeking a rebound relationship usually does so to compensate for the gap that his ex-partner left. Rebound relationships can also occur just before the break-up, when it’s clear that the current relationship is ending soon, in this case the main purpose of the rebound relationship is to prevent the person from experiencing the pain that occurs after breakups.
Some people seek rebound relationships because they are addicted to love. They want someone to take care of them, make them feel worthy and prevent them from feeling lonely. And while these sound like good goals still they are clear signs of relationship addiction. When you fall in love just to stop feeling lonely or to feel worthy then it’s not real love, but it’s just a method you are using to improve your mood and to cope.
One of the main causes of rebound relationships is love addiction. If the person was a love addict then losing the source of nurturing will invoke withdrawal symptoms which will lead to the desire of starting a rebound relationship. The subconscious mind in this case tries to find the person a new relationship in order to make him feel good again and the result is a short lived rebound relationship.
Sometimes people seek rebound relationships just to prove to themselves that they are worthy, especially when they are not the ones responsible for the break-up. Finding someone who loves them back as soon a relationship ends can be a strong proof that they are worthy of love. Seeking a rebound relationship to feel worthy can happen on the conscious or the unconscious level, when it happens on the conscious level you will find yourself aware of your goal, which is restoring yourself worth, on the other hand, when this happens unconsciously you will suddenly find yourself in a new rebound relationship and you will think that this new person is the One.
Cont...
Rebound is a relationship with some one immediately after a break-up. There could be many reasons for it:
1. Attempt to get over a heart-break
2. To get confidence back
3. To punish the ex (surprisingly, many girls think that by having sex with a random guy and flaunting it is a good way to puish an ex!)
4. For social reasons (To show that there was another person causing the break up)
etc., etc. Usually, there is no feeling (atleast not love) involved. Hence, 90% of the rebound relationships do not last.
Rebound is something you do spontaneously... you break up with someone you love... hurridly go into another relationship... you can have feelings for that person... but not deep passionate feelings... you can easily break from that person... but you usually get involved for many reasons... could be to get over the other, to feel wanted/loved, to hurt the other, to spend time with someone and not be alone... etc... there is no set time as to how long you are with that person... and yes usually 10 to 1 they go back to their ex's and the other person ends up hurt by you... and last but not least the person you went on the rebound with has true and intimate feelings for you tho you do not have them in return... I hope this helps you and answers the many questions you may have...:>)
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When you end a realtionship it hurts. When you feel like you might be ready to move on, you get a rebound. Having sex with the rebound gets your confidence back because this person finds you attractive (after a breakup you don't feel very attractive).
Generally it's not a serious thing, just a bit of sex.
when someone uses you to get over someone
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