Does he like me or just trying to get in my pants?

[Anonymous]

So a couple days ago i started talking to a boy from my school who is a couple years older. All my friends say he just likes hook ups. But i started crushing on him. Anyways on Thursday night he said he was having a party and really wanted me to come. HE told me to bring a friend if i wanted. So on Friday night we went to the party. But when we got there. He was there with only his brother and to bestfriends. So we played a drinking game ( no one drank a lot ) but though the game, His friends keeped trying to get him to drink a lot . They keeped saying "grow a pair boy". Anyway after a while we decided to go down stairs and watch a movie. I was sitting on the couch with him but not right beside him. The boys picked a scary movie and im not good at scary movies. So through the movie, i was covering my face and he then grabed my hand and started holding it, joking that i couldnt hide my face. He then started like putting his leggs on mine and sometimes mine on his. At one pointe he pulled me down to cuddle. I was between him and the couch. HE was like holding me in his arms and stuff. When i got up after a while we started to Pout to get me to lay back down. I did eventuly. When i would sometimes look up at him he was looking at me. He never once tried doing anything or feeling me up. But when i left he didn't even hug me or anything. Then when i got back to my friends house, i got a snapchat from him asking me to go out for lunch with him! and when he said night on snapchat he put a kiss face! does he like me or is he just trying to hook up? please help me!!!

[Anonymous]

The only way you can find that out is if you go to lunch and get to know him better.
Here are some signs that he only wants to hook up:
1. He keeps being physical with you in many different ways (always touching you, hugging you, trying to kiss you and so on)
2. He talks A LOT about sex, hooking up or being physical (indicator that it's the #1 thing on his mind)
3. He goes way too fast way too soon (i. e. tries to push your boundaries and wants to hook up with you asap)
4. He becomes distant when you don't respond when he tries to get physical.

Here are some signs that he's NOT trying to get into your pants:
1. He genuinely wants to get to know who you are, what you like/dislike etc, and actually doesn't talk much about hooking up/sex/kissing and so on.
2. He doesn't try to push you to do things with him that you don't want to do
3. He doesn't put much focus on the physical aspect of your "relationship" (like even if he might hug you from time to time, it's still obvious that he doesn't want to rush things or pressure you to do stuff)
4. He asks you out on dates that aren't in a sexual setting or have sexual undertones (public dates, eating something together, watching a movie at the cinema and so on).

Of course, if he's a master at hooking up casually, he might be able to hide it really well, so you should always be a little cautious no matter what. But generally, those signs are pretty accurate, at least in my experience.

[ColdFeet]

There's nothing in your description to indicate anything other than a guy who fancies you. Just enjoy yourself. If he's only looking for sex then he'll likely ask soon enough and be pushy or drop you if you say no to him. You've nothing to lose. You won't fall in love with him in the amount of time it would take him to show his intentions... if they are his intentions.

But to me he sounds sincere as far as you've described. So no need to be suspicious yet.

[26ukdude]

well no one can really answer that because we dont know him or his intentions so you're asking the impossible, just be aware that a lot of guys that age (and in general) are only looking to hook up, however maybe he does like you? the only way to tell will be to go to lunch with him and hang out a bit more. It WILL get to the point one day obviously when it starts getting physical so really you need to be the judge of this. guys are a lot more sexual than girls so dont be surprised if he wants to do stuff sooner than you

[sean1234]

Hmm, he wants to be near you, that's clear. As long as you are always with someone else, things should be fine when your with him. If your friends says he likes hookups, listen to them, they just might be correct. If he could go out with so many, then he might not put value on a relationship as you do.