My boyfriend kicked me in the stomach, he said it was a reflex from me slapping his thigh to hard. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend were laying in bed me horizontally and him vertically, watching tv. He farted right in my direction and I told him to please not do that. After a few minutes he did it again so I slapped him right on the side of his thigh. I intended is jokingly but I guess I had some force into it and hurt him. His reaction to this was to kick me right in the stomach calling me a bitch... I understand that I hit him first, but does that really make it ok for him to hit me back? I couldn't believe what had just happened and immediately sat up straight and started to cry. He only apologized after seeing that what he did hurt me. It is the first time he has ever hit me and he's never shown signs of being abusive before, and we've been together for 6 years now. He told me he never ment to hurt me and that it was just a reflex from me slapping him first...

[Anonymous]

the worst part of all was about calling you bitch. even if it was truly a reflex, you don't call bitch even after an "accident" sounds like an immature.
you better take this seriously. or else it will get worse. what i mean serious... is VERY very seriously, he has to know he has done total shit and was without the brains to acknowledge his mistake. this is no small flaw but a really idiotic, stupid, mindless one. im speechless how he can take advantage for having someone for 6 years.
worst was the unloving attitude.

[damondino]

I had a similar situation, I was asleep and the girl I was with started playing with my face, I woke startled and punched her, not realising it was her. Now it's not so much the kick, but the fact he called you a bitch indicates he was fully aware of what he was doing.. sorry x

[damondino]

A playful slap on the thigh doesn't really warrant that response either maybe a play fight, but not a kick

[shannon21]

It don't sound abusive. An you hit him first. I know girls say that a guy should never hit a lady, but it works both ways. Don't end it when it looks like you was both playing, but if it hurt maybe your bf forgot your a girl and are a lot more emotional. He should of slapped you back really (not condoning it ) I mean kicking is a bit aggressive

[Anonymous]

next time if he tries to make out with you and you aren't in mood! give him a high five on his face with a chair and be like sorry hunny! its a relfex action ! lol dont actually do it!

[Gojira]

Not a good idea. That could get her killed or seriously injured.

[Opinion Owner]

ARE YOU SERIOUS? do you think the girl would actually do that? you do know I was being sarcastic mate?

[Myownhero]

omg dump him..when people show you who they are..believe them.

[islands7]

BS
Farting = aggressive, demeaning behavior
Repeat = escalating same
Kicking = ultimate aggression
Lying = same as above
Feeling entitled to do all this = spoiled, even reacting to "justice"

He's mad at you and too STUPID to mentally work things out - or doesn't want to
This will get worse, so
a) begin a conversation to research beyond his BS
b) begin shopping for his replacement today, even if this process gets put on the back burner from time-time when you believe his BS

[Hans222]

I think it was a stupid accident partially caused by both of you.
Just tell him you feel silly about what happened and give him a cuddle.
You'll be okay :-)

[T-shirtsandkneehighs]

You slapped him first? I thought women wanted to be equal n all that

[dudeman]

if you act like a man you get treated like one. keep your hands to yourself.

[snowangle]

You have to remember that he's physically bigger and stronger than she is, so a kick to the stomach will do a lot more damage to her than a slap on the thigh will do to him. What she did was maybe not the best course of action, but how he responded was unacceptable.

[dudeman]

and you have to remember they are both adults and it doesn't matter. Both did unacceptable things. adults do not hit adults. she's not a child and she shouldn't be treated like one. grow up

[snowangle]

He's the one who needs to grow up.

[dudeman]

nope she hit him first. he responded.

[Prof_Don]

Immature and possibly abusive? Sounds like a "breakup cocktail" to me.