Questions: Guy's Behavior

Okay, so when it comes to men, Kids and Bonding is almost unheard of, there's a lot of negative stereotypes about men and Parenting, which scares men off from having kids. usually when the baby is born the Mom doesn't allow the dad to get close to baby u til the kid is at least 3 weeks old

There are times I had my eyes wonder and I have lecherous thoughts. I actually have twice in my life had a random sexual encounters with two attractive women who didn’t even ask my name. They initiated and didn’t care about conversation.

It was thrilling in the moment but I didn’t also feel great about it later I actually tried to slow things down but it felt like it was killing the rush.

I have never did the opposite. I’ve had one night stands where I made the moves first but I did spend some time getting to know the girl first. It’s actually very dangerous nowadays (false allegations) for a man to move that fast. I can’t and won’t do it.

But there is a stereotype that ALL men look at women as “objects” that is grossly overrated. Some definitely do. But I believe to a certain extent most guys do want at least minimal discussion before jumping in.

But really do women still believe that most men think this way? At best only 20% of them would act like this. Not 80%.

I have this old drinking buddy who always wants to come over to my place to drink after work rather than going home to his wife and kid.
- He always drinks the same gross whiskey and water and will absolutely not drink anything else.
- He drinks so often that he doesn't even get a buzz so what's the point? He's basically just an alcoholic.
- He wants to watch movies, but he never laughs at any comedy we watch, and no matter what I put on he says he's seen it already.
- He just wants to complain about work and bitch about his wife's family. This guy is no fun to drink with.

I turn 28 later this year as I inch very close to hitting my 30s. I have missed a lot of major developmental milestones in my youth, and I feel like I am reaping it today.

I have never had a real girlfriend or been in an actual relationship. I have only had sex with one woman only one time during a weekend fling. She was 16; I was 20. I felt like I had to sell my soul to get this opportunity. She was also a virgin too supposedly. I never actually "made love" to a woman before.

Meanwhile, I am watching the vast majority of my peers growing up get married, have kids, and/or both.

I have a very bad track record. I have been unable to maintain stable employment. I never held a job for more than a year. My mental health sucks. I also have a criminal record now (stalking and harassment). I am socially inept.

In terms of socio-emotional development, I am very behind and immature for my age. I feel I haven't "fulfilled" my youth to move on to the next stages in life.