Questions: Guy's Behavior

Call me boring but I want a traditional life.
I want to go on dates & be asked to be someone’s girlfriend. I want to get engaged / married and build a family. I want to stay at home cooking / cleaning / taking care of the kids.
I want to find a man that is in his masculine energy so i can be in my feminine energy. I want a man who is happy to provide.
Does this mean i’ll milk him of every penny? Of course not. I can and want to have my own part time job or own business. But I want someone who makes me feel safe and secure.
It seem like these traditional values have become lost in todays society. Everyday I see grown men wanting to live off of women. They expect everything to be 50/50 due to “equal rights” but when it comes to any domestic stuff they don’t move a finger to help.
Feels like us women have just taken on the burden of more daily work / problems for ourselves. We don’t even get surprise dates / flowers or little love notes anymore 😭😭 !!

where are the men who want a traditional woman? Where are the gentlemen that arnt ashamed to “simp” over their girlfriend & shower her in love?

are these just stories from fairytales?

ps. Age isn’t a factor because I’ve dated 30/33 years olds & they all have this same modern man mentality. Everyone just wants to be nonchalant 👎🏼

And if yes, how would he act if he would reciprocate and why does he stare?

I have started conversations with multiple people and they have all told me that the woman with surgeries and voluptuousness is the ideal woman, the meaning of a true woman. How true is that?

I am a woman without surgeries, I am not socially pretty or attractive, but I have never felt ugly, that's where my question comes from, is it possible to feel like a woman without having surgeries?

I was born a woman biologically, but I don't feel like one, the current beauty standards make it difficult, it makes me doubt myself, and at the same time it makes me feel bad since I don't feel feminine or that I have value as a person.