Why would a woman say "tired of garbage men"?

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So sad when I see women who pick bad men and then compare all men as we are all garbage men. Honestly if women picked good men then they would not have this problem no?

JacobJordan · Accepted Answer

Not just a woman problem. Both men and women fall victim to the exact same issue. Shitty people always always always show some of their red flags immediately they can not help it. But because we are hopeful humans tend to make excuses for those red flags and dismiss them early because they want the relationship to work. Then they dismiss them again and again until finally they see so many red flags they realized they goofed and "can't believe he was a good man/woman and turned bad" no. I am sorry but people need to stop blaming others for their mistakes. You ignored the early redflags and grew accustomed to them. That is your fault and your responsibility. We have all heard the phrase that goes something like "when someone tells you who they are believe them" well when someone shows you their redflags believe them. When someone shows you who they are believe them. It is not them being nervous or anxious or annoyed or anything else. They are SHOWING you their red flags. Take them at their word and run.

tremendousfern · Accepted Answer

Women are largely incapable of introspection or accepting responsibility for their own actions. The social dynamics of dating involve men approaching a woman and the woman picking who she wants to date from that pool of potential men.

So if a woman is complaining that she's "tired of garbage men" that's entirely on her bad choices in men. (Although I'm sure some women are so averse to taking responsibility for their actions that they would tell you with a straight face that literally every man who has ever asked her out is garbage, but there's no helping those women)

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

It's not like there's a stamp on the forehead whether the person is good or bad.
There's also the fact that even if you're a good man or woman, doesn't mean you're right for the other person.

Also, people lie and hide who they are. So all those red flags you find later on, they hide them initially.

"Just pick better men" is such a lousy answer to any of that.

Also, you all make it sound like any women can just pick any man that they would want. And that's so not true.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

Well, I've learned that knowing someone (and their family even) is always a risk. Some people think it is a risk worth taking, other times, well...

... Also maybe that woman is just tied of opening black boxes only to see poisonous frogs or snakes in them, and not gold or cash or whatever they were hoping.

HawkPerception · Answer

Pretty common modern woman behaviour. They pick a douchebag, then say "I've been broken. I don't trust anyone. I'm gonna build an emotional wall and never let anyone in." Then they get with another douchebag and it's the same story. Women are attracted to douchebag traits apparently.

Sonorous · Answer

I've heard women I know say that. But it was because the men they loved turned from good men into bad men. That betrayal hurt them so much that they, when emotionally distraught, would say that all men are garbage even if they didn't genuinely mean it.

Billlewis · Answer

Because she's exasperated with the results she's gotten from her efforts to find a long term male partner. I don't think it's complicated at all -- if it's 10 degrees below zero, and I say I'm tired of cold weather, the implication is very clear.

Anonymous · Answer

There are a lot of men out there that don't seem to like women.
They like the regular sex and the comfort of knowing they have someone their who cares but do they really like her?

So the behaviours of the guy can be selfish, insensitive, neglectful and one where you question whether they are your friend.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Doesn’t seem like she said all men are garbage, sounds like she’s tired of the men that are garbage.

If people were just genuine human beings then nobody would have to worry about garbage men or women, no?

NathanDavis · Answer

sometimes, they're way too loud around 6am... I don't mind it though

Glideess · Answer

I wouldn't take it personally, because frankly they aren't talking about you, and are just venting. Usually girls like that go for a specific type of men, which then backfires when they mistreat them. Only the girls can help themselves when it comes to that. It's like a guy only going for toxic girls, then complaining about how all girls are trash. The problem isn't girls, it's the guy for only going for toxic girls.

worldscolide · Answer

Probably because she's too stupid to pick correctly, and instead picks the same kinds of men over and over leading to repeat bad experiences...

I can understand picking a bad guy once or twice, But repeatedly, its her own fault.

Lionman95 · Answer

I completely agree the problem is just that one realises later if a guy is good or bad for a relationship.

LazerBean · Answer

Totally agree, most people like that are self inflicting those problems on themselves. Sad.

SolitarySolace · Answer

There are garbage men and garbage women out there. The difference is those men know they are and are fine with it while the women believe themselves to be perfect all the time compared to any man

JHAYES317 · Answer

They are tired of conventionally unattractive men like me but aren’t attractive enough to bag the conventionally attractive men so they are just in purgatory

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Maybe they make too much noise early in the morning rattling those cans.

sheikalana · Answer

Means she probably thinks all men are trash.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because most women are extremely poor at choosing good men. This is why women need Fathers and brothers to help them select good men.

Yannae · Answer

I read this title and thought 'then stop ating garbage men', and you already went there, my man!

In_Trance · Answer

My guess is they would say that because they're tired of garbage men

dolemite58 · Answer

I thought maybe it was a woman that had only dated actual garbage men who picked up peoples garbage 🤣

Slim57 · Answer

Just to make them feel better about their poor choices

AaronKrieger · Answer

People exaggerate when they vent.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Garbage women only pick garbage men.

butterly248 · Answer

Can't find the right person

pethouse · Answer

Because she always picks the wrong man

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

All humans are garbage

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

They're frustrated

Why would a woman say "tired of garbage men"?

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