Ldr Boyfriend refuses to call me?

[Anonymous]

So I accidentally called my boyfriend and I put off and apologized and then asked him what he think of calls and he said he doesn't like then so I asked why and he said cause then he can't do anything else while talking to me so I asked not even 10 minutes and he said not really so I asked if we weren't even going to discuss it as we are a couple and he said no, If someone doesn't want to do something then don't force them and he ignored the topic and left for gym, thoughts?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that's kinda crappy of him to shut you down like that. Here's what I think:

- 10 mins really isn't much to ask for when you're in an LDR. Calls are important for intimacy and closeness.

- Seems like he isn't willing to compromise at all or hear your side. That's not cool in a relationship.

- Blowing you off to go to the gym makes it seem like talking to you is too much of a chore. You deserve better than that.

- His reaction makes it appear like he isn't really invested or cares much about your feelings. Kinda disrespectful.

I'd be wondering if he's really that into the LDR thing long term. Maybe try talking to him about it again when he's less busy, but make clear you need some effort from him too. If he still isn't willing, might be time to reevaluate things sis. You only got one life - don't waste it on someone who won't even call you.

[spartan55]

You have a 'boyfriend' (and I use that term loosely) that refuses basic communication... my thoughts are you could do way better.