Was there something more to this hug or not?

[Anonymous]

I’ve worked with this guy for 2 years now. Within the last year we have gotten pretty close (he keeps to himself a lot and really isn’t a social butterfly). A little side note: People at work said that we have this special bond and have also hinted at us having more than just a friendship relationship (they say they feel the energy between us yadda yadda) anyways… I started having feelings for him and I think he might have them too but we don’t talk about it. He’s been going through some pretty tough changes in life and has been pretty vulnerable with me throughout the entire process. I’ve been there for him just to let him vent to and get advice from. Needless to say, he was having a really hard day at work and I could see that he was just struggling. I went up to him and as soon as we made eye contact, it was like we both knew that he needed a hug. I’ve never hugged this man or initiated any sort of physical contact before. Neither has he. At first I thought that it was just going to be this short comfort hug but he didn’t pull away after a few seconds so I just gave in and held him closer. It was about a 10 second hug. Ever since then we have not hugged or made physical contact. I’m just wondering if this hug was just a much needed hug or if he didn’t let go because he didn’t want to let go of me out of perhaps liking me? As a girl, if I don’t like someone I don’t hold on to a hug and let it linger. I don’t care what mood I’m in. What do you guys think? Did he just need a hug or was there more to it?

[_Maya_]

I have some questions. You say that he has never initiated a hug. How do you know that? Have you been by his side his entire life? I bet not. Don’t read into this too much. I think the more important issue is physical contact like this in the workplace. That is never a good thing. I don’t advocate for getting close or dating people that you work with. Now I know you two are not dating but you obviously have a thing for this guy. It is pretty obvious. My best advice is don’t continue to get closer to this guy. Nothing good comes from dating a coworker. As for the hug it doesn’t mean much other than you and him wanted (and allowed) things to get physical. If it were a 5 second hug would you be asking this question?

[TheSpaceGnome]

It was probably both reasons. Even for just comforting in hard times, most guy's aren't going to just let anyone hug them. It's gotta come from a girl he likes (or a family member, but thats not applicable here). Anyone else is going to feel like a personal space invasion.

[boggboss]

Impossible to know what the hug meant to him if u like each other hoe about talking about it as that hug and ignoring it won't do anything if u want more lol

[Avicenna]

Probably more to it than just a hug

[noohair]

I keep professional distance at worl always.

[In_Trance]

Nope