Polls: Guy's Behavior

I’m so angry right now it’s hard to type. My boyfriend of 4 years has been working late THREE FUCKING NIGHTS IN A ROW I’m talking about 7 am to fucking 9 pm okay. He barely ever works those hours now all of a fucking sudden he’s doing those hours 3 fucking days. I call him and he usually answers and says “ I’m at work call you almost done love you bye” I CALLED HIM 5 FUCKING TIMES AND NO ANSWER. I called him at 8:01, 8:48, 9:01 9:06 9:17 until he calls me back at 9:26 and says sorry I missed all your calls I’m on my way home I was dumping my truck out. I SAID WHY TF ARE YOU WORKING SO LATE NOW? He says we are short guys and have big projects im like bull fucking shit and I hang up on him too angry to speak. He has to be cheating right? Why wouldn’t he answer after I called and texted. Before any of you fucking ask he hasn’t cheated on me from what I know but come the fuck on

I am part of a new friend group comprised of this guy, his cousin, best friends and their long-term partners. I really like him. I’ve only briefly met him twice. His cousin and cousin’s partner were keen to set us up, so was his best friend and his fiancé. The best friend and his fiancé still are but his cousin and his girlfriend changed their mind claiming we aren’t each others type. I was told by her to leave it at few months for a relationship. She is very obviously bullying the other girlfriends, trying to split her boyfriend from his cousin and friends etc. I honestly don’t trust her. I don’t trust she’s looking out for me.

On Saturday, his best friend and his fiancé (who I am actually now closest to) got us briefly talking. He asked me if I was single, my age (which he knew) and said ‘I’m 24 too! At 24 I feel rushed to … a relationship. How do you feel about it?’ (I can’t remember the actual word he used). He asked about my previous relationships and tried to joke around with me for a bit before cutting the convo as everyone else was putting on their coats. Before our convo, he had randomly put his hand on my shoulder twice when I was just standing beside him and made a point of loudly expressing concern about waiting for me to be collected.

My mother claims it means he’s looking a relationship and feels pressured in a good way. I took it as that. But since, I’ve started to wonder if he meant he feels like he should but it isn’t what he wants. I would like to message him but it’s not worth my time if he means he wants something casual.

What do you think he meant? Should I message him?

WHAT IS MORE DESIRABLE AND SEDUCTIVE TO MOST MEN?

My boyfriend works at a solar install company and latest he’s worked with them was like 8. Tonight I called him around 7:40 and he didn’t answer I called again at 8:30 and he said he was still at work and that they had to go another job and it was taking long due to the panels. He said he would call me on the way home and he did and he just didn’t seem tired or in a bad mood like I thought. He wasn’t like super happy but he seemed happy and was like hi pook I’m heading to the store to get soda and snacks. Heard him get home talk to his mom and her say I made ya dinner and him tell her he had two jobs took long. He sat on the phone with me and we talked normally and he ate and watched some chargers chat and he took a shower. Is this suspicious? Most of the time he’s okay like that after work but after a long day like today I expected him to tired and grumpy not happy. Could it be that was with another girl so he was happy?

I was always so conscious of this in middle school.

Do guys get disgusted by it if they see it or they just ignore it?

Or do you care more about how she looks or her personality over her interests? Do you like women who are talented at things?

He constantly told me I was a 7 then randomly said nah you’re definitely a 9.

Told me often I looked banging or hot.

But then he goes out and see others girls and his opinions change.

He said I was hot only two weeks ago then ditched me.

So, the story with my recent crush is that we have barely ever talked despite being classmates for 3 years. Our class interacts a lot in general, but his group's girls are more open to me than his group's guys. The girls are enthusiastic, the guys are too shy to mutter even a hi. They say hi to the whole class though.

And my crush is the tallest in class, I'm amongst the shortest girls, so people keep calling me "kid" jokingly. He has been my first ever crush in college (I liked his personality when he used to interact during online classes, his face wasn't clear there tho). I had a major crush on someone else tho, and I'm trying to get over that guy and this recent one keeps popping up again and again because ig I never got him outta my head anyway.

We went on an industrial visit and during the whole trip he kept stealing glances at me. I admit I looked cuter than most days ig, cause even girls who I rarely talk to in class said I looked cute. So I was happie. And he kept noticing. He even gave me an ice cream that day, despite my friends also standing there. He was generally going around giving icecreams too but in my grp, it was only me who he gave it to (our prof was paying for those). It was a cute thing idky.

And some days later, while I was sort of in his direct view while studying something from the teacher, I caught his eye when he was looking at me. It was a blissful sight. I noticed his brown eyes and kinda got nervous and left to drink water and didn't even look up in that direction again when I came back to my place. It was a beautiful feeling still tho.

I wish he would have the same feelings as me. I don't want to confess because we have barely ever talked. I just like his sincereness and his overall personality. It is not love tho, just a crush. And he now rarely watches my IG stories even tho he used to watch all of them earlier.

P. S. the worst part is that we just have like 10 days left in college. We will be never seeing each other again:(

So basically a friend of mine asked me for a favor, he said that he will send me 10000 bucks and I must return to him later after 2 days, first I was confused but then I asked him the reason, he said he wants to show zero balance in his account for getting pocket money. I am really confused please tell me what his intent was.

😭Okay so this guy I have very deep feelings for is being really weird, so before he's made it obvious that he feels the same way but then his friend told me something that made me upset because apparently he said he didn't want me being around him anymore so i started ignoring him but all of a sudden he keeps staring at me and either looking very sad or very mad and sometimes he looks very happy to see me but it all depends on what happens the day before he sees me, and for some reason his friends keep calling me his girlfriend and some of them even said that he said me and him are dating, on valentines day I was walking by and then all of a sudden his friends started to shout at me to get my attention but I acted like I couldn't hear because I wasn't in the mood I was already having a bad day at that time also, but ever since that happened everyday has been straight animosity between me and him, a lot of his friends that i didn't even know were his friends know about me and now all of them are in my business seeing what I am up to and then telling him everything, even a few I have found out follow me on social accounts and I didn't even realize Intel I really looked at the accounts and saw that they were all connected to him, so at this point I really dont know what is going on.😭😭😭😭

I am no where in the position of being in a situation where I get the joy of picking out rings. However ever since my brush with death in my dual truck accident I been reconsidering life. The things I've done and what I want. I also have been plagued with pain nightmares and mini nervous breakdown or panic attacks.

During a recent panic I pulled my car over to relax. I looked up and it happened to be in front of a mall I had bought my engagement ring. Feeling nostalgic needing to relax I went in to the store. There were many memories which washed over me. Good and bad.

I stopped at the ring styles I always wanted. During my first engagement He would have bought it for me had I asked but I didn't dare to. He even implied "that's the one you want isn't it"

I horrifyingly shook my head no in shock. A lie yes but I was very apprehensive at the idea of asking for something so costly with not contributing anything to it. It would have eaten at my conscience. We picked a set which ran significantly less.

Staring at the certain rings I realized I still want what those rings stands for... A forever and happily ever after. A partner whos my equal. I want someone who we balance each others and equally contribute to one anothers needs.

I also realized I'm not the same girl as then. I'm wiser at putting cash a side and I'm more confident. This time I can turn to a man I love and confidently say to him that's the one I want and I'll help pay for it.

My previous husband would have been offended by this. Though he was much older than me and from a different custom.

Do people considered it rude to A pick out one's own ring?

B would it be rude to offer to help pay especially because their requesting a certain ring which may run a bit steep?

As for me I've made up my mind lol that's the ring I want... I don't have the man to go with it yet but I'm hoping to find him! 🤣... And he doesn't have to worry I'll buy it if he can't afford it and then his as well!

When a married man is friendly with a woman, is he just being friendly or does he wish to be more than friends?