Don't Belittle Someone Who Has An Invisible Illness

[1truekhaleesi]

I was ten years old when I had my first migraine. I woke up with, what I thought was a headache. I was in so much pain and nausea, that I went to the school nurse. I went right back home and all my parents could do was make sure I get rest. A couple of hours later, I would wake up and it would be gone. After that, migraines started to control me. Sometimes I wouldn't have one for weeks. Other times I had one after another on a daily basis. This continued for two years. I stopped getting them so frequently after that. Nowadays, I get one evey couple of months. Here is a visual representation of how a migraine feels.

Migraines are defined as a "a neurological condition." So no, it's not just a headache. My parents didn't take my migraines seriously and I still think that they dont. They thought it was a reason for mee to skip school. Which isn't true because I was a nerd that loved school. Migraines don't mess around when a person gets them. My last major migraine was in August. I was screaming because I was in so much pain. I could barely move from my bed and refused to eat because just looking at food made me even more nauseous. All I could do was sit in a dark room. I couldn't even look at bright things like a tv. This lasted for 60 hours or two and a half days.

Triggers

For people their triggers for migraines are very different. I don't wear perfume because overpowering perfume can give me a migraine that can last for hours. One time, I skipped breakfast because I had a large dinner the night before. That triggered a migraine that lasted two and a half days. I don't get a migraine every time I skip a meal so I guess it has to do with how vulnerable you are.

Treatment

If you have a headache, you can take headache medication and it will be totally gone in an hour. If you have a migraine, you can take several medications that will have little impact. Doctors aren't sure how to treat migraines. Some doctors know very little about migraines because migraines aren't really discussed in medical school. If a person gets a really bad migraine, you can go to the hospital and they will do what they can. If you get chronic migraines you may need to see someone who specializes in migraines.

Scientists and doctors know very little about migraines. Migraines are different for everyone. What can be a trigger for one person can be hardly an issue with another person. Point is, don't belittle someone for missing an event, work, school, etc for what you think is a headache.

[Waffles731]

Tell me about it, the next person who tells me to just get over suicidal depression cause its all in my head is getting a swift kick in the balls

[peachblossomluck]

Yes please kick them in the balls until the balls become permanently undescended. They need to walk around like that for life for saying that shit.

[Waffles731]

Thanks for mho

[notallthere98]

Good take. I have chronic liver problems that severely limit what I am able to do physically. But since I'm not in a wheel chair (anymore) or using a cane, even my own family questions my ability to do things if I say I can't. What can be even more annoying is if I KNOW I can do something and they don't let me because they think it's too much. Like fuck off, I know my own body. Believe people with invisible illnesses because they definitely know better than you. Unless you're a doctor, I don't need an able-bodied person's opinion on my confition

[i1T2daty]

Good thought but you could change it to, "don't belittle anyone about anything". Compassion is in very short supply these days and people find it much easier to perceive themselves "up" if they perceive someone else "down". That is your ego trying to prop up self-esteem that you should be able to cultivate simply by acting, "estimably"

[peachblossomluck]

Brilliant ♡

[dolemite68]

you should look up a treatment called neurocranial restructuring, it is the greatest treatment for headaches available. migraines/headaches/head pressure is from cranial distortions usuallly

[1truekhaleesi]

Cranial distortion you say? I was dropped on my head as a baby and still have a scar so that may explain a few things.

[dolemite68]

yep, i had a similar accident as a kid and several concussions growing up. its a treatment they do using endonasal balloons that adjust your skull back to where it should be. its helped me so much, depending on the severity of your symtpoms it could take a couple or many treatments but it works wonders. have you had braces or wisdom teeth removed by chance?

[1truekhaleesi]

I did have braces in 3rd grade and part of 4th. I just got my wisdom teeth removed a couple months ago. I still remember the date because it was the day of the election, November 8th 2016. Some weren't erroded all the way so they had to drill into my jaw to get it all the way out.

[dolemite68]

braces and wisdom teeth removal can distort your skull more as well, if its feasible for you i would do neurocranial restructuring and see how it works and if ur still have troubles keep doing it and also see whats called a functional orthodontist as well that does palate expansion with a device called an alf or with damon braces. this is what i've had to go through for migraine/tmj problems

[1truekhaleesi]

Thanks for the advice. Screenshotting this.

[Waffles731]

wait, they stick things and inflate the inside of your skull?
That sounds reallly really really painful

[dolemite68]

k, and with the NCR just remember 1 or 2 series of treatment may not be enough for some problems, it can take regular treatment for a while. some people try it only once and say it doesn't work but its a process of unwinding your skull

[dolemite68]

@Waffles731 its definitely weird and unpleasant but it really works

[peachblossomluck]

God bless♡ I hope you guys feel better. Stress brings mine on.

[TheUsername27]

My mum has migranes... realy sucks. I only have headaches but they caused me a lot of pain... oh and trying to explain you have a headache when heading a heavy leather football is seen as 'weak' and pathetic... wasn't fun as a kid...

[peachblossomluck]

That's awful!