Gained 83lbs since the first lockdowns and it have been a truly liberating experience.

[MonmonTheGreat]

(Not my image, I just quickly searched myprogresspics since the site didn't let me post this without an image.)

Not many people think of these things, but it is difficult to be slim in this day and age.
At the start of the pandemic I used to be underweight and let me tell you, compared to my current life it have been so stressful.
Society places such a massive pressure on young women to always look flawless, but that's something I think we all know by now.

What I didn't know until I gained some extra pounds was just how much extra pressure slim girls are put under.
From my experience when you look slim/toned people expect far more from you, which is just ridiculous. People expect you to put a lot more effort into your looks, to work out more, to watch your diet more, etc. the list just goes on and on.
And this constants pressure and expectations was just devastating for my long term mental health.

But ever since I gained this extra weight I've noticed just how much less stressful my life have become. There are so many things that in the past I considered to be completely natural, but after I gained a new perspective thanks to my my new weight, I can't help but to see my past life as a nightmare.

Now I'm in such a better mental state now thanks to people just simply not placing so many expectations on me due to my looks.
People seem to act in a much more friendly manner to me compared to the past, and it's so much easier to make genuine social connections now. + it's even easier to get along with men.

Of course there were some negative effects, like how it is harder to keep up with my more physically active friends but overall this experience have greatly improved my life.

[loves2learn]

I am glad you feel good about your weight gain. 83 lbs is quite a lot. Just make sure you are eating healthy foods too. ❤️

[MonmonTheGreat]

Don't worry, I watch what I eat and it's mostly healthy stuff.

[loves2learn]

Great. :)

[JustinTimberlegs]

So happy to hear you feel much better :) go you ☺️

[JustinTimberlegs]

Thanks for the MHO ☺️

[Massageman]

Justification of poor choices is not healthy.

[spookywashere]

I don't see how this is a good thing. If you were underweight maybe gaining enough to be healthy wouldve been okay but now you are overweight and that's not a good thing at all. I don't think you realize how lucky you were before. Coming from a fat woman, you're gonna notice a change in how people treat you. Sadly appearance matters a lot in our society, and becayse you are now fat you won't be seen as attractive. You will most likely be treated like less of a person as well, people won't be as helpful or friendly towards you. Skinny privelege is real, and you just lost it. Do what makes you happy but because you're asking for opinions I think you've made a mistake.

[MonmonTheGreat]

"because you are now fat"
I wouldn't go that far, chubby is a better description in my opinion.
As dunno, like as wrote being skinny has it's own set of problems, rather straining ones at that.

[MonmonTheGreat]

"you're gonna notice a change in how people treat you"
Dunno, to me it seems like people are more genuine to me and less demanding with their expectations.

[Truthatanycost]

People can place what ever expectations on me, or others that they want to. It's up to me whether I act on them or not. And if they are less friendly due to how I may, or may not look, then that is there loss. There is nothing more important than our spiritual and physical health. Gaining 83 lbs does not sound like a wise thing to do in the midst of a time where being healthy could mean the difference between life or death...

In life, so often we tell ourselves lies because the truth is too raw. But if your current weight is still a healthy one, then that's all that matters. But something tells me it is not...

[Anonymous]

cause you were staying slim for the wrong reasons. But because you were slim you don't have the negative mindset that fat girls have. Once you hit the top you realize it isn't that important. But it catches up to. It does... You start to build bad habits. Trust me it does catch up to you. At some point it is important to fulfill your potential and not waste it. Don't do it for the wrong reasons though. Do it because it is the person you want to be. Maybe you like being fat and want that forever but still don't before mediocre at everything; because you think the road of least resistance is genius lol. Trust me. I say this from experience. It catches up to you.

[MonmonTheGreat]

I wouldn't call myself fat, chubby is a better word to describe my looks.

"But because you were slim you don't have the negative mindset that fat girls have." Um, could you explain what kind of mindset you are talking about?

As for my habits, don't worry, not being slim doesn't mean you suddenly start to accumulate bad habits out of the blue, I think there's more to my personality that affect my habits haha.

[Hairylegs222]

No offensive but this sounds like excuses to not attempt to be as healthy anymore. Some of it is caring too much about what other people think. Do your own thing and what's important. If you enjoy being on the overweight unhealthy side of things, then go for it. But my opinion, everyone should take care of themselves exercising and eating healthy daily.

I'm super into fitness and eating healthy, so to me there is no excuse. When I worked 12hrs a day, I still worked out daily. We only live once so why not take care of our bodies.

Also I have to say you looked so great fit and hope one day you go back to your healthier routines again.

[Steve_Dogs]

Sounds like changing your physical appearance helped you feel like you changed your identity. In reality, you seem to place a lot of emphasis on what you think others see you as. Is true, there will be expectations. You can manage those if you have the right tools. However, you generally need some help learning them.
Many people fall into the trap of acting in a way that helps to perpetuate those expectations. Ideally, if you develop a strong sense of self/ego, you can be that self regardless of appearance.
I am curious as to why you have a before lockdown pic.

[MonmonTheGreat]

read the text under the pic
Not my image, I didn't post pics of myself since the internet is full of trolls

[virtue2332]

You have find what works for you. Yeah it's hard work for some to stay fit but for some like me it's necessary when you factor in Diabetes. The exercise also helps me with anxiety and overall mood. Ultimately your body will tell you what is right for it if you take the time to listen to it and adapt accordingly.

[MonmonTheGreat]

Well I did find it haha.

[virtue2332]

That's awesome

[dimplexfan]

You say about being able to make genuine social connections now, but I think the objective is defeated when you've already admitted that people are treating you differently based on your appearance - what is 'genuine' about that? Even if you're currently feeling less stressed, it's a potentially harmful illusion in the long term.

If anything, it sounds like you've been socially subjected to some rather toxic people, and you should try to seek out companionship and connections with the right kind of people, who would neither place you under pressure nor act more personably towards you just because you're a certain weight. In your position, I would at least try to do this before committing to a bodyweight/lifestyle that increases my chances of health complications later in life.

[t-8900]

Society doesn't pressure women to be flawless. Women consume too much toxic media and project their insecurities. I promise you while men are naturally visual creatures we aren't so shallow. You might see w lot of bitter guys on the he met but i promise you for the most part I myself wouldn't end or avoid a relationship over weight

[KoolKid66]

Exactly... Woman exaggerate things:

Men: I don't like fat woman over 300 pounds.. I like a healthy average weight girl

Woman: ok so I must become anorexic and under 5lbs... Ok...

[Anonymous]

That is curious.. I am on the verge of being underweight according to my BMI, though I am healthy and just always been this size since I was a teen.. but people see me as I don't have to make an effort. They assume it is natural (which it is) and that I can eat as much and work out as little as I want to and still be skinny (not quite true), like the opposite of what you have experienced.

[Phoenix98]

Sorry I just can't agree with this /=.

I mean it's great that your mental state is better but physically you are definitely not in a better nor heathier place.

[BeMuse]

Lock downs have increased your risk of death from COVID and stripped your freedoms and you feel liberated... smh

[shepardmaddison]

Lucky you, I'm skinny and lost weight during the pandemic... I wish I have had gained like you

[Celtero]

I mean... you can still keep up with standards without letting it mess with your headspace.

[notwoke]

i hope your not married, god the poor man. Now he'd have to go broke to extricate himself from this hell trap.

And by the way even in the first pic you could lose a pound

[TheBigGuy9]

Wait til you get my age. At 20 years old, most people have zero health problems.

[TheBigGuy9]

I find it odd though that you didn’t post your own pics. After all, you say it’s the best thing that’s happened to you?

[Grape-Soda]

You shortened you life and lowered your quality of life, congratulations so stunning and brave.

[blondfrog]

lol I like fatter women anyways. Come to pappa lol.

[JayLiche]

Good lol nobody likes a bag of bones, I’m proud
like a proud father

[EnglishEuropean]

The lockdown isn't an excuse to let yourself go. You can still exercise fatty.