Why does weight matter so much to men?

[Anonymous]

I weigh a lot and im huge.. no guy like me.. :(.. I feel huge

[Izzy2102]

It is the ideal at the moment. Not much you can do about, just educate yourself and live healthier

Beauty isn't as ultimate as some of the guys here seem to think. Take an art history class. Even in some cultures today, chubby is the ideal.
Obese never has been and probably never will because at that point it does actually become really unhealthy. But then again, never say never, because our current ideal is underweight. Those girls are underweight
theskinnyconfidential.com/.../...et-Angel-body.jpg
and quite a bit so. BMIs range from 15 - 18. Which leads girls that are at a normal weight to think they're fat "huge" as you put it. Those are perfectly healthy bodies, even tho many would probably consider them chubby or overweight

www.mybodygallery.com/photos-36232-body-shape.htm
www.mybodygallery.com/photos-40628-body-shape.htm

What I'm saying is, being considered beautiful doesn't always mean healthy.

[AndyWes]

No offense, but the second mybodygallery link, that girl is chubby.

and no one is expecting Victoria's secret models, I'm pretty sure more women see those models than men.

[Izzy2102]

proving my point. As I said many people would call her overweight, but she's at her perfectly healthy weight

[Hannah591]

It isn't. A lot of guys date women who are curvy or even overweight. It just depends on their personal preference. Plus, society tells men that they should only find really skinny girls attractive which never helps. But I can assure you, there are men out there who like big girls, you just need to find him!
My boyfriend says he'd hate it if I lost weight because I wouldn't be as curvy and sexy!

[Asker]

Ok that's true. Im curvy and a little fat. Im trying to get self confidence

[Hannah591]

You'll be surprised at how little men pay attention to your body when they're in love with you. They believe everything about you is sexy. You probably think something about your body that would never cross the mind of a guy who saw you naked. So don't worry so much. It's your insecurities talking.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Confidence comes from you being comfortable with yourself. Know yourself, know who you are. Your weaknesses and your strengths. Own them and you own confidence.

[AndyWes]

The problem is, there's literally about 50 obese/overweight women for every chubby chaser man.

And no offense, but society actually tries to tell men we're shallow if we don't like overweight girls. You know why the female stars in action movies are *always* slim/in shape? Because actions movies are made for men, and men want to see slim/fit women.

[Hannah591]

Well no. It's probably because to do a lot of action, you need to be fairly fit. It would be illogical for an obese person to do flips and shit because it'd be close to impossible and an obese just wouldn't be fit enough to do an action movie.

[juneangel6390]

https://www.bbpeoplemeet.com
https://www.bbwromance.com
Find yourself a good Chubby-Chaser man that can help build your confidence. But remember, its just as much in your head as actually appearence. believe that your beautiful and sexy and desirable and you will be :) Dont believe the shallow people, if you are happy then thats what matters. good luck babe.

[AndyWes]

It's the way life is.

On a biological level, being obese is extremely bad for your health. Drastically increases your chances of heart disease, stroke, cancer, as well as diabetes, problems walking, etc. It also makes sex a lot harder as well as making pregnancy a lot riskier.

www.webmd.com/.../obesity-carries-pregnancy-risks

"Women who are obese during pregnancy have a higher risk than normal-weight women of having babies with certain birth defects, including neural tube defects such as spina bifida, heart problems, and cleft palate and lip, according to a new review."

So on a biological level, men don't want obese/overweight partners because the woman is less healthy and more likely to give birth to deformed offspring.

On a normal level, it's just severely unattractive and in the vast majority of cases, indicates that the girl has zero self control over herself.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

It matters because:

1) it indicates how lazy you are
2) it indicates how much you care about your health
3) it indicates how much will power you have (none at all)
4) it indicates how reliable you are
5) it indicates how much self control you have
6) it indicates how accountable/responsible you are (don't blame it on other things)
7) it is plain, old unattractive for some guys; even girls find overweight men unattractive.

[Asker]

Ok that's true..

[rainingcolors]

I’m extremely late to the party, but I think you’re making HUGE assumptions when some weight issues aren’t a person’s fault. Thyroid issues, genetics, etc. There are plenty of factors that are compiled when dealing with weight. Some women can’t get rid of baby fat after having children. Don’t blame this on every single woman as if she doesn’t care she’s overweight/obese. If she’s doing all she can/her best, no one can ask more of her and should really take into consideration that maybe she isn’t just a slob or lazy. And furthermore, self-control and reliability are not contingent on weight? Where do you even get that unless you’re assuming too much food means she isn’t going to show up for you when your car breaks down or wake up in the middle of the night to take care of you when you get sick? If she kicks ass at her job and waters her plants and takes care of her pets, how is she not responsible unless, again, this is all about food. Bottom line: be very specific when making claims. Thanks.

[gonyr]

Well it's all relative.

But everyone has their attractions.

I'm assuming your not huge an your just self conscious, but regardless, there will be someone who finds your body type attractive

In fact, it's more common for guys to prefer someone curvier. Not fat but with a little meat on their bones.

As to why they would care about weight, if there is any characteristic you find unattractive, it stands to reason that you wouldn't pursue someone with those traits. Regardless of it being weight or hair color or personality or anything.

[lumos]

It doesn't matter to some men, especially those who are also overweight.
It matters to most people in general, because those who are at a healthy weight tend to want a partner who's also at a healthy weight.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Weight matters to both men and women. We desire partners who are fit and have strong physical characteristics to pass on our genetics. It's biology that's been going on since life began. Overweight people aren't healthy.

[Izzy2102]

well the extend of skinny we idolise isn't healthy either.
For women there has been quite some variance throughout history in what is considered attractive and what is not. So I'd be a bit more careful with what's biological and what is not

[yaddayaddayadda02]

It's certainly healthier than the obesity rates we're seeing now. Stop making excuses.

[Izzy2102]

healthier? arguable. Healthy? No!

[VENOMMM]

actually weight doesn't matter to men as much as you think it does. there are dating sites just for guys looking for big women. there are men out there that love big women

[Anonymous]

Because being out of shape is not attractive...we are just hard wired like that biologically but some guys don't mind overweight girls. I guarantee if you get in better shape more guys will start finding you attractive however.

[Asker]

Ok yes I want to try. I have a pretty face

[Opinion Owner]

Go for it, you have to work out regularly and go on a weight loss diet. Once you start living that way you will get used to it eventually so it won't be as hard as the beginning will be. Good luck.

[Troian]

Weight matters to women mostly, men don't look at the number, they look at what they have in front of them and are often more tolerant towards women's bodies than we think.

[CASTBOUND]

Completely right

[juneangel6390]

i agree (there are some shallow men) but its a confidence thing. Im a bigger girl too, but i keep an attitude that i think i am sexy and beautiful and most see that instead of just personal appearance
And im glad you agree CASTBOUND. Thanks for being a real man :)

[NoblesseOblige]

These people are softening the blow. Fat girls are repulsive. Fact.

[Hannah591]

There are men who love fat girls and will only date fat girls.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

We can't all go for the jugular like you dude. lmao

[NoblesseOblige]

There are men who like fat girls, but it's idiotic to base your entire strategy around dating that 1% of men. You will be single forever.

[Anonymous]

Chubby guys will usually date chubby girls. You may find a good workout buddy.

[kambo_trick3y]

Why don't you just date a fat guy?

[cavmanier]

Sometimes your logic seems so simile but makes sense lol

[kambo_trick3y]

Hey, it's only fair to get as good as you can give right?

[cavmanier]

Yeah she might be having trouble with the big guys too though

[kambo_trick3y]

Could be a possibility, would require more input from her.

[CASTBOUND]

Just as Hannah591 said ^-^

[Broncosfan21]

visual visual visual visual

[ImCoasting]

It matters to women too, men are just more vocal.

[legalboxers]

its perception I guess. I date larger ladies