We may not have a number in our mind of where that falls, but we all have an image in our mind of what's ideal, what's acceptable, and what's not attractive.
Some variance for guys who are genuinely into bigger girls (not as common as many want to think), and guys who are into petite girls. Just like some guys love a girl being pale tho they're the minority.
Just talking generally. Guys in general are not attracted to fat girls. They might be attracted to some girls who are overweight on paper. But on average fat is just not what people want.
The number isn't as important as the look. But if you saw enough bodies and varying heights, body types, and saw how much they weigh. You'll start to see patterns emerge and start to see what weight ranges tend to have people you're attracted to in that category and you'll notice some outliers.
For average height girls. 120 to 145 lb is the average healthy weight range. If a girl is shorter and particularly petite build she has some wiggle room in the 100 to 125 range. If a girl is taller with thicker thighs she's got more wiggle room up to 165-180 lb range
Since most girls fall in a certain height range. If you're in that range, and you know you're not genetically blessed with really large tits/ass then safe bet for you is 120-145 lb. If you're over that it does make a difference.
If you are genetically blessed you'll get more of a pass within reason
Different guys have different preferences, but the largest group of men (and the men most women would rank as having the highest SMV, or social market value), prefer women who are thin. If you go to any upper-class/wealthy area in any part of the country (an upscale mall, a country club, a wedding or big birthday celebration) where wealthy, successful men are, and you look at the women they are with, they will nearly all be slender.
I have an Audio/Video Integration business, and as you might expect, most of my customers are wealthy - upper class or at least upper-middle-class. I'm also a mobile DJ, and I often DJ for these same people, so I am at lots of their parties with lots of their friends - and my customers come from 3 different regions of the Bay Area with very little overlap - yet this is true of all 3 groups.
Now, having said that, most guys are going to be fine with a girl who is more "average" - i. e., has an extra 10-20 pounds, especially if she's a curvier girl (i. e., bigger boobs and hips). It's not that they don't care about weight, but most men aren't as picky or as narrowly focused - that's mostly just the highest-value men, because they can demand exactly what they want and get it.
Girl you shouldn't worry about what guys want, you should be what you are comfortable in and someone will love you in all your shapes, because if you took someone who loves you just for you look, he will go away once it fades! And any woman is always subjected to constant weight changes during her life
Guys have different preferences. Heck, I've been rejected from one for being too big and some who loved my size. And one I was with who told me he would love if I gained weight as well.
It's good people like different things, that way there's more for everybody.
Most important to remember: - Each man has a range of what he finds attractive, and this varies a lot across men. Therefore there's always someone out there who will like you, no matter what. It's just about how common these men are, paired with how many of these men are ALSO attractive to you. - However it's all a game of averages, as there's a bell curve of where men's ranges overlap, so that on average the highest amount of men appreciate certain body types, etc.
I think it's most helpful for you focus on body type/shape and overall health and fitness instead of "weight". Weight is relative, it fluctuates and depends on too many factors. It's just not a clean metric at all and most guys don't go around saying "I want a girl who weighs 140lbs or less". Instead guys say "I like a tall woman with a big ass and small tits" or "I want a petite athletic girl with big tits great legs" or "I like chubby latinas".
The general consensus among the world's men is that women who are fit, healthy, have good skin and hair, have mostly-symmetrical faces, etc. are attractive. But statistics don't apply to the individual. And most every man isn't going to be attracted to the average woman. Almost every man has some type of quirk or niche he's after.
My advice: just focus on doing what you want. There's someone out there who likes it a lot. If you're not fit or healthy, some guy will like that, but there are not as many guys like that around so you might have to look harder to find them, and you might want to be fit and healthy instead just because it's a good idea for your life. Being healthy and fit definitely won't hurt because more guys will like you because most people on the planet prefer health and fitness to fat and unhealthy. It's just statistics.
Let's turn the question around then: Do women care for fat men or skinny men, or average weight men, not too skinny, not too fat?
I'm certain your realize that the majority of PEOPLE prefer average-sized partners. A few go for musclebound extremes, or the very thin, or very fat.
Most folk like trim to chub, and whether slim or chubby, want a person who has a decent level of physical fitness. It's just rational and reasonable. Good health is something people look for.
Anorexia and obesity are not advertisers of good health.
Neither is a thin person who never exercises or a medium-sized couch potato. Decently active, decently fit.
I've noticed that quality men don't care it's about the vibe and your personality.. within reason of course. I'm not saying they'd be thrilled to date someone off my 600lb life but I'm a thick female and generally don't have a issue. Then again there are cultural preferences.. white men and Asian men tend to like petite women but black and latino usually prefer thick.
Most White men I see usually are with thick women, Asian men too. Being petite for a woman these days isn't really ideal anymore. More guys like thicker women.
@Cybermetal93 Asian men where? Asian men in Asia's ideal type is thin women and they'll literally fat-shame you're past their ideal weight for a girl. Sure not every guy is like this but a lot of them are especially in Japan, Korea, China and Taiwan.
@suisuiola Not here in the USA, i've seen a lot of Asian guys with thick White girls or thick Latinas. Asia is different as thats mostly Asian women. But here in the USA Asian guys love thick, tall White women
@PinkRosesAndGlitter Hands down, I prefer an Asian woman any time. Keep in mind that according to the Stats I see, 50% of Americans are overweight. In my YOGA class, I only see a handful of women, including the instructors, that are at an acceptable BMI configuration from MY POV ONLY. I'm sure, other men disagree, but you can bet, from my observations, fat men are usually with fat women. Now when I look at Travel Videos on YouTube, many in Europe are overweight. (MY POV also)
@Bricealan why are you obsessed with bigger women why do you care. I bet you're no prize yourself and many Asian woman are extremely picky on looks. Good fucking luck to you mate.
@PinkRosesAndGlitter No idea what you are talking about? Obsessed? Were does that come from, and "mate" good fucking luck to you "mate" ? ? I am 5'8" and weigh 138 lbs. My picture is on my profile. My god, where does all of that vitriol come from? I have not made any comment to you, about you or anything, and you come at me like this? Good god, relax !
I prefer round shapes over skeletons. However the shorter the girl the easier can she get away with being thin. Also, there is a maximum weight where its just plain unhealthy and needs to change. That exact limit depends on multiple factors. Some body types can look better even when overweight, others quickly lose all curves. In general, I would say as long as the curves are smooth, weight doesn't matter too much. Once skin starts to hang over itself, you are definitely in the unsafe territory. And if I can see someones ribs too clearly while they are standing, that is a bit too skinny for me.
Thats contradictory, the shorter the woman the more likely she is to get fatter because even 5 lbs on a smaller woman is leaning toward being over weight more. Smaller limbs and body allows fat to accumulate faster. Taller women are less likely to look fat and have a hard time doing so. Its easier to get fat, but harder to reduce it. Its easier to be skinny, but you can easily avoid being fat if you're a tall person or even average usually like anyone 5'7+.
I dont mean that its harder or easier to be fat. I mean a short girl can be skinny and I will still like her shape. A tall woman who is very thin has almost no chance of looking good in my eyes.
Many don't. I myself do. I have the ideology that you're only young once and you should try to look as best as you can while you can. It's also healthier. And the main thing is effort. I would not ever break up with a girl just for being fat, especially if I saw her putting in a significant effort in trying to change that. The concept of people only starting to workout to look good after their partner breaks up with them makes no sense to me. Why would you put in more effort in trying to attract people you don't know; potential partners than to put in effort in looking good for the one you're already with? It genuinely baffles me.
I do. I wouldn’t want to date a girl that chooses to be overweight because to me what that says is that they don’t care. End of the day I want a woman that shows dedication in herself because that means she naturally has that trait of being dedicated to a cause. So having kids and just in general the relationship will be better off due to her also having that dedication
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I get your point. But please also keep in mind that there are peoples who gain weight easily because of gene or body system. Every body has different system.
As I am aware of medical conditions that fuck with the thyroid. But you can see a doctor for that… I don't know. That’s a whole different story. And usually conditions like those are very rare to begin with
Yeah cases like that are rare. But sometimes the body we were born with are different so some lose weight just by doing nothing while some gain weights just by breathing. Every girls want to have good body shape. But ofc there are girls like what you mentioned above so yeahh i agree that point with you.
A lot of men here in the comment section are bull shitting. Of course there’s men out there who care about women’s weight. They say they “don’t care” if we’re thick, fat, or skinny but end up dating a girl that paid for a bbl (no shame). And of course, there are men who genuinely don’t care. So the ones you attract are the ones that don’t care (if you’re a normal girl who hasn’t gotten any cosmetic surgery done). But all women are beautiful whether they paid for there body or we’re all beautiful and shouldn’t be asking for male validation about how we look.
Others have said it too; it's more about proportion than it is about weight alone. I've dated anorexic and morbidly obese, and tend to shy away from those. Often extremes in weight signal problems beyond my ability to help, and which sometimes frighten me. That said, there's a lot to be said for the 'happy medium' kind of body. It's nice to feel the huggable body in the middle range; light enough to be lifted off the feet, padded enough to not get bruised while doing that (and -- umm -- other things), and fit enough to keep up on the walks I like to take. What is probably more important is who is inside the body. I tend to pay more attention to the mind and the personality than I pay to the outer form.
Within a range absolutely, anyone telling you otherwise is lying.
And it goes harder if a man is looking for a relationship because everyone wants a helathy partner who can potentially give them healthy children and a certain level of obesity guarantees that the woman won't be around for those children's graduation.
But taste aside, I personally believe everyone should look after their own weight for purely personal reasons. Don't let the mass media fool you into thinking it's ok to be fat or that being fat is a choice. Being fat is a disease and sure way to die young and it should not be made normal it's the same as being a junkie not the kind of "choice" that's ok to make.
I think I do but you know sometimes I see a thicc girl and even a fat girl and I think they are the most beautiful thing in the world. I don't know I just love women. I think it is like our self image. In the 1900s we discovered you have 2 images. One on the outside and an inner image. I think biologically we are attracted to skinny-thick but are paradigm controls the inner image we hold women too. That is why skinny was so popular but yet somehow so many guys like thicc women. Or how you can see someone on day 1 and swear they are so beautiful but a couple of months later they look different than day 1 somehow.
Anorexic skinny where I can see ribs or hip bones isn't great, humongous isn't great either. As a general rule under 100 lbs or over 220lbs is out. So I'm really not very picky. I'll go for anything that most men consider very skinny to quite fat. The sweet spot would be a 5'3 natural redhead with carpet matching the drapes, c cup breasts, a nice ass, hourglass shape, thighs that only just touch when she stands, and hair that goes about an inch past her nipples... but hey, I'm no 20 something actor with a six pack, so I've never considered holding out for anything.
Not necessarily the exact number but of course when I was seeking someone to date and to have relationships with and marry I am attracted to women that are relatively fit. I didn't have 1 particular body type I preferred but I wanted to be with someone I was attracted to. If she was quite a bit overweight and had a lot of excess fat and a fat roll around her waist or a layer of back fat... etc. That lack of fitness was unattractive to me.
I was attracted to slender petite girls, average girls, curvy/thicker girls (but still fit), tall girls, short girls, long and slender girls (like a volleyball player), shorter and stockier (like a cheerleader).
I think it's safe to say that most men do care about a girl's weight. Some do prefer a bit chubby or more while the majority want a girl who is in shape (not too skinny and not fat).
Especially the men who take care of their body and are in good shape often care enough that a girl they are dating or see as a potential dating prospect to also take care of her body.
its more to do with how they carry their weight then their actual weight. Some girls pull off bigger bodies very well, some skinny, I def dont like a skeleton or uhh... i'm trying to think of a word more kind than "whale" but I can't. Like those mama June types make me want to vomit
Everyone is certainly different but yes weight is one giant passion destroyer , it also comes down to interpretation of " Skinny " , Fat people say " Skinny " when not remotely skinny , only skinny to them. So ultimate is correct weight , good BMI , someone who doesn't shovel sht down their throat , and then say " Its only one piece " .. Weight is a massive part of health for all , as is diet.
If the BMI count is in the norm I do not care. If you are too skinny or too fat, yes I care. Other than that... no. It has to do a lot with what you can do and can not do. I do not want to be friend with or be married/date someone, who can not do stuff that I like or is too much pushover because of that.
Yes of course and honestly it is a prefernce and that is like blue eyes and the array we can chose so its a style a choice and hence if you start with a thinner woman then you are declaring your desire so if your pafrtner swells upo then they are no longer in the paddock with the thiong that they prefer and crave. So it is a very seriou sthing. to change qnd you can exopect thm to just change like no its not as eashy!
I guess it depends on the guy, some do care about weight and some don't, even though I'm losing weight but I'm still like 240 and guys will still want to talk to me and have crushes on me, or will ask me out on dates. Then I will meet guys doesn't find me attractive and just want to be friends
I find too thin is where a thigh gap begins. Completely unattractive. Something primal in me likes being the young, fit hot guy who can defend a woman and take her if I wanted to. But having her on equal footing with me physically is also kinda sexy.
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