I need to end my life?

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I desperately need to end my life, I have never been loved or cared for, and my life is basically just worthless. I'm made fun of almost continuously, I hate going to school everyday, I've resorted to cutting, but it's not helping anything anymore. The girl I love, I'm nothing more than a friend to her, and no matter how much I want something else, that will never change. I deeply resent God for creating me just so I could be miserable every waking moment of my life. Every day I see people, friends spending time, couples in love. Did you know no girl has ever loved me, not a single one? The one's that are kind to me, it's out of pity, I can feel it, I'm so totally worthless. I am the very definition of a loser, I am completely unlovable, I barely have friends that actually like or even respect me, and no girl has ever, or could ever love me, and I'm tired of this pitiful excuse for a life. I was thinking, late tonight, while my mother is asleep, I can sneak into our bathroom and overdose on her medication, finally putting and end to this awful existence.

cth96190 · Accepted Answer

I understand your pain. I was in exactly the same situation when I was your age, so I will not blow sunshine up your arse by offering intellectually insulting platitudes from the Pollyanna playbook.
I am 56 now. I have always been old how good looking I am, gym body, have money, working on a doctorate at university, have a couple of military decorations, but for most of my life I have been without the love of a woman. I have not touched a woman for 13 years. I have had to accept the reality that I will be the crazy old cat man who will die alone and be forgotten, a male version of the Beatles song Eleanor Rigby.
Hence, I do not know what to suggest, other than the following.
Join a gym, work hard and develop a good body. Girls like that.
Become a dedicated student of a martial art, such as karate. As well as learning how to look after yourself, you will develop mental strength and resilience that will help you to cope. Girls like that, too.
Put yourself in situations in which you will meet girls. Do not be needy or desperate. Do not show interest. Instead, take opportunities to work on your social skills. Read: How to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie), Awaken the Giant Within (Anthony Robbins), The Instant Millionaire (Mark Fisher) and The Art of War (Sun Tzu). If you want something darker, read some Nietzsche. He will help you to gain some perspective.
Doing those things will put the odds more in your favour.
Finally, as difficult and painful as it will be, accept that the overwhelming majority of females in your age rage throw themselves crotch first at the bad boys. Decent young men who have prospects in life (outside of gaining a prison record) are friend zoned. Young females excel at poor choices and self-destructive behaviour. This goes on until about age 30.
Thank goodness for Internet p*rn. Not as good as real female company, but in the absence of a real woman. . .

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That's not a bad idea. When I was 17 I expressed my feelings for this girl, she told me she doesn't like me, she friendzoned the crap out of me. Couldn't get over her until I was 23. I'm still a virgin, I've been working harder on my social life than anyone I've ever known, I met a girl 7 months ago, but I couldn't have her because I didn't even know what to do on a fucking date. She texted me last week that she has started dating someone and she never had anything for me. I'm dying of that feeling, have never felt this way in my entire life. Despite being really tough, I had to go to therapy last week. And I told the therapist, I'm going to do my best, to recover from this situation and be happy like everyone else, who are all in relationships and don't care about showing it off to everyone else. But if I still feel this way by the time I'm 30, it's just not worth it anymore, I will end my life. I have almost 4 years to become a happy person, otherwise I will kill myself. It's not good to make decisions based on feelings, but this might not be a bad idea, to put 100% into your goals, and if it doesn't work out until you're 30, then kill yourself. But nothing less than 100% which I have.

JulyAndrews · Accepted Answer

It doesn't seem like you love yourself. First thing you need to do is to really like who you are as a person. You talk so bad about yourself, stop that! You are worth to live and to have fun. What are your hobbies? Do you go to the gym? Do you go to places where you can meet new people? You can complain and complain and be mad others but if you don't take charge of your life nothing will change.

And you're only 17! You pretend as if you're a 45 year old virgin with no friends, no work, no money, no nothing. When I was 17 I also had hardly any friends, I never had a boyfriend because that was not allowed, I wasn't allowed to go out either, I had a curfew at 17 top be home at latest 8 p. m. Did I like that? Of course not. But I was great at school, I had 1 best friend, I had a mum and dad who loved me eventhough I wished them the worst because of all the restrictions. But I would never kill myself for this! And luckily I didn't because the best parts of my life still had to come. But it does take action from your side.

What is also important is to be grateful for the things you do have in life. I'm sure many people in the world would trade places with you in an instant!

People are so ungrateful these days. First world problems... so sad and funny at the same time.

HandofHeart · Accepted Answer

You were put on this earth for a purpose, you're living because God wants you to- he needs you to. Otherwise, he could have struck you with lightning years ago. But he didn't, so he has a plan. You don't have to live just to get a girl, because honestly, if that girl doesn't love you for who you are- then she isn't going to make you happy. Learn to be happy on your own before even thinking about getting into a relationship. Yes, kids will tease, but that's because they are so immature. You'll grow up and you'll get better friends. If you need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to message me because I know what you're going through and (even though you've probably heard this dozens of times already, I'll risk saying it again) you're not alone.

Anonymous · Answer

Please I beg you not to. I know you are strong if you have overcome such a difficult war. You may deny it, but I was scrolling and I had to click this question. You know why? Because I would never let someone take away something so miraculously precious: their life. I care so much and would gall apart knowing you would end it all without knowing what good will come if you stay. Itis like you have a present, and instead of waiting to se whats inside you throw it away in the trash. You will never uncover the mystery of the gift inside that is your future. The present is now, and you have to open this gift in order to recieve the good in life. You have to try your hardest. I was in your position for three years and I almost didn't make it. I just kept telling myself to make it through just this one last year before I made it to high school. I never had friends and if I did they used me and didn't like me for me. They changed my personality and I can't get it back. I am okay now. I just kept writing songs and singig and ventig my thoughts and feelings. you must try this. Try to even cry or scream in the car alone or take a sprint around the block. Get that horrible energy out and you turn that into dedication and perserverance. I care so much and I beg you, do not take your life. If I took mine, I would have never become a professional singer. I am going to perform for avril lavigne next week now. I waited and just dragged myself through the last part. Don't do what I did, instead pick yourself up and be stronger than I ever was. Have a skip in your step and inspire others. You gotta keep your head up darling. You gotta keep trying. It will be alright. You gotra stop goving in. I promise you, its really easy to feel happy truly for once. I care and I always will. Please, just stay. Please.

Kris85 · Answer

I am going to give you some tough love here. If your life is so horrible, then change it. Only you have the power to make yourself happy. I get tired of seeing people whine and complain about life and how fucking horrible it is. Then do something about! find hobbies, if you have no friends then maybe try working on your social skills. Honestly life is what you make of it.

jeweliet · Answer

I know how you feel. I really do. I have depression and also anxiety on top of that, and as you would know, there's times where I can't see the point anymore. There's no other way to say this other than you can't end your life. You just can't. People do care about you and this fucking illness blinds you into believing that no one does. I just went back to school the other and my depression is getting worse again, but I'm not going to give up. You can't either. Just push through and one day you will be so thankful that you did because there will come a day that you are so glad to be alive. I haven't self harmed in 3 months. And no one other than myself has helped me through it. So I know you can do it to. You need to do this for yourself. You need to live for yourself.

royalexoxo · Answer

Ending your life will honestly be selfish of you. You have your family to live for. A future to live for. You should never get so caught up on things of this world. God put you here for a reason an awesome purpose. You have to live to help someone else. There's always someone whose counting on you. Even when you don't see it or believe. Also there's plenty of people in this world going through worst. And I could give you a list of things I have been through. I could have let it break me. But instead I choose to let it make me. I know that God will never put more on me then I can bare. Prayer changes things. Be strong I know you can do it!!! You will definitely get through this. And years from now your story will inspire someone else going through a tough time. You'll def think God for putting you in this world -XOXOXO

Deadinside10 · Answer

I once said those same words but I never really knew who God was and he loves you more then what you evemn know. from the things I have done and how miserable I was I tried multiple times to kill my own self failed thank God every time. thier are probably way more things that you are overlooking at youreself when God has given you unique talents for his purpose for you and he's the father you need friend. for God so loved the you that he gave his only son just for you so that you could have eternal life my friend. if you want messege me and I will pray for you ;) my God is an awesome God

MrWiseMan · Answer

Never think about end your life my dude. Life is precious and everyone struggles in some way, you just don't see it.

The word love has been misused in the recent years. Trust me. When you look at a couple and see how happy they are, there's a 50% chance that they're not.

Growinf up, I always saw my friends parents has a happy couple, but now that I'm more mature and see a 'clearer' picture of their marriage, it's garbage.

Case in point: smile. Try to make every bad situation a good one. If something is going bad, think of it as a sign that something good will happen soon.

Look at life in a more happier way and you will be amazed by how much your life will change, for the good.

Aly007 · Answer

Never end your life. I've tried and realized that I am here for a reason. You are here fur a reason. I feel the same way, I no things seem hard, and they don't always get better right away, but they will. I'm. here for you. I promise killing yourself is not worth it. I know it might not feel like it but you will be missed, I've friends commit suicide and I miss then so much. Stay strong! I'm here for you, forever and always!

Anonymous · Answer

Do you realize how many people you touch? Every person you know would be affected by your death. Think of the suffering you would cause. You claim no one cares about you, but many people do if you look in the right places. When you get to the point where you seriously consider suicide, you actually give yourself an advantage. You now have the opportunity to shape your life as you like it. Those who enjoy their lives have too much to lose to try changing it. But you have the power to go wherever you like with your life. Don't do something stupid. Pick a goal and work hard at it. Who knows, maybe you'll cure cancer, lead the world into a golden age, write poetry that will be read 500 years from now, become the first settler on mars. You have a whole life, go out there and do things. Take risks, try finding someone who cares about you. There are so many people out there you don't know. Change yourself to who you always wanted to be. You have infinite possibilities.

BlessedNCursed · Answer

'Ve been there. Not much can be said. Life has meaning, yes, yours too. You can't see it though. One day you will, however. You can only wait until that day. So wait. How long you have to wait is of no importance. If its a patience test you are gonna pass it. I can feel your strength from the way you write, you view the world so baldly... That means pure strength.
So just hang in there... The brightest day comes after the darskest one, that i know fot certain.
So just hang in there comrade and wait for your morning

Phy3dd · Answer

Your life matters more than you think. I don't know about you or your issues. But the only reason why I haven't pulled the plug on myself is I'm curious to see where I go in life. Challenged Accepted.
Don't make a rash decision because you're feeling like this. You are never alone. So don't allow yourself to feel lonely.
ALSO, overdosing is never a guaranteed way to end your life. Plus. Think of how much pain you'll be in and how long you'll be in agony.

yourlover805 · Answer

Please stop! Everyone is worth it and you are probably hanging out in the wrong place. Seek professional help or therapy and although I can't relate to this, I have felt a little lonely in the past too but I got through it when I found new friends and people to surround myself with. Maybe pick up a new hobby and talk to your parents. Trust me, they are a huge help. Good luck and if you need anything else, just message me and I'll be here :)

kangy · Answer

I cannot understand then people would want to end their life because they are single. Especially those at your age -17 is so young. You can't change or force someone to love you, before you decide to puruse a girl perhaps you want to work within yourself. I dont thinka person who doesn't love himself can do it for someone else. I don't like HS as well, worst school life i ever had, but glad it is over, so one day you would also let it go...

SnowHearth · Answer

Going to cite something I read in the book my daughter is co-writing:

"Everyone has a purpose in this life... you may have not found it yet, but you will soon... patience will be the hardest trial you will face, don't let it drag you... the world needs you more than ever, don't go, it is not your hour yet."

RationalMale · Answer

Take a chill pill. Make an okcupid account and find some nice black girl. Work out, work on your career, get money, and live a better life. Look at the Wolverine, he woke up with no memory, no identity, yet he survived!

Or, if you're really going to kill yourself because white girls prefer to date us white guys... well, natural selection, I suppose.

CutesyLolita · Answer

No, dont! Dont go! Its okay that you dont have that kind of courage. The important thing is that you're alive. And life hurts sometimes and sometimes it can be hard, but it won't always be that way. there's gotta be a reason for you to live! Sometimes living can be hard, but its only because we are alive that we can make each other laugh, cry... be happy! In this world, if thats not a reason for being born in this world... i dont know what is!

Anonymous · Answer

No you don't. What you need (or needed) was an outlet to express this pent up frustration and sadness to someone that would listen. You found that by posting this question.

So just this small little change or enlightenment of perspective regarding just this topic should be able to show you how big of a perspective change you can get if you seek some kind of help regarding the huge issues you think are plaguing you.

theearlybird · Answer

What about your family? Committing suicide will only make them feel just as bad as you do.

Therealist · Answer

Don't and your life everyone on this planet is worth something. I have learned to be strong no matter what comes at me because if you let these things get to you and give by ending your life then that not how a real man would handle his problems we have to learn to stand tall never back down no matter what because your only telling the people that miss treat that they have won you over my advice is never give in and believe in yourself don't care about what other think about you be strong.

Anonymous · Answer

You know what? I ll put it bluntly. Yea!!! If u are a wuss go! End that crappy life of yours!!! Thats the easy way out dude... Well i do not belive in god either but i like a phrase that a friend told me when i was in deep shit too and it goes kinda like : God gives the hard job to a fitting soldier... or something like that XD I say fck that shit!!! No bitch worth ur life or even ur misery, man up and find the girl i know you deserve kiddo.

Illusive_Man · Answer

And... what have you done to change that?

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