How do you get someone to slim down a bit?

[Anonymous]

Okay so there is this girl i really like and she likes me blah blah but we are not dating just yet (i want us to be more closer and for us to know eachother a bit more) i would like for her to slim down a bit so she can be a bit more physically attractive. If it matters im in decent shape myself so i hope im not a hypocrite. (Its not what is stoping me from dating her either if your wondering) is it bad for me to want this? Should i even say or do something to encourage her? We are gonna work out soon (i just casually asked) im thinking a few tennis games and mabey a jog. Im hoping we can keep that up so we can both be in good shape and look hot! I love her caring and sweet personality and her nose! Haha but Please no hate i just want help.

Your an ass, like her for who she is

No i see your point just be kind about mentioning it

Look for another woman

Just keep inviting her to go with you. Make it fun!

I want to see opinions

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After checking out the opinions and the poll it makes sence to not even bring up her body weight. Ill take the time to know her and see if she is really who i want to be with and same for her.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

So you expect a girl, who you aren't even dating, to change her body for your viewing pleasure? Think about how conceited that comes off for you to think she should do that. I think you should friend zone her and get a woman who you're physically attracted to.

[Asker]

So would it not be conceited if we were dating?
Im not saying im gonna date her for a few minths then be like hey cut some weight, but i do see your point but i like her for who she is all im saying is i would like her even more physically if she lose a bit.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

My thing is, who are you to expect her to change her body just so you'll like it more? That's conceited of you to believe that your views of attraction is so important that she should lose weight to get you to like her more. Maybe you have some imperfections that she's overlooking and just not saying anything about it. If you can't accept her how she is, find another girl

[Asker]

No your right its not fair nir is it right. and I've been doing some thinking and its something i can accept her now which is why im still talking to her and such.

[BellePepper]

Ooooooooh! You're not even dating her yet and you want her to make changes for you. Nooooooooooo way. Do not say ANYTHING to her about it.

[Asker]

Far enough, i can see how that can be a bad idea

[nileve]

That's a sign bro you are not truly interested in her get yourself some one who you are interested in every aspect

[Asker]

True, but if she lost some weight i would be fully interested in her so why would i get someone else?

[nileve]

Because you are not further interested in her you haven't been with her for 5 years and you are already wanting to change her body. Let me tell you no girl likes a guy who wants her to change specially when it comes to weight.. she wibt give you a chance if you even try to tell her to lose weight you either accept her all or you don't and move on

[Asker]

I disagree. I have to be with her for 5+ years to justify me wanting her to lose weight? No i will give you that she probably doesn't want some dude saying "hey drop a Few pounds" but if we went to the gym or she had her own interest in losing weight then wouldn't that change things?

[nileve]

If she didn't loose the weight would you still like her as much or more or leave her

[Asker]

I understand your point. I have some thinking to do