I don't dare to tell my therapist about my problems?

[Anonymous]

I pay a lot of money to see my therapist and she's really good but the only problem I have is that I don't dare to tell her stuff. I see her because of my depression and my overthinking anxiety that ruins and has ruined my life. There are a lot of problems I want to tell her such as boy issues and friend issues that may seem small but it's really a big issue for me. I feel like she's gonna judge me so I don't tell her everything so I walk home having so many issues unsolved.. And yet I pay for this. What should I do?

[xDocilexFaeriex]

Most of these people are not that judgmental! I want to be a counselor one day... and I actually find people's problems interesting. Did she say something to make you think she would judge you? If you don't trust her... ask yourself why? Does she remind you of someone you know who is distrustful? :/

[Asker]

No she's great :) But I guess I just want to be casual and act like I'm a person with no issues but I have issues.. I don't know I'm just scared that she will judge and it makes me uncomfortable.

[xDocilexFaeriex]

Aw... do you feel a connection between you and her or no? Realize that these issues could be affecting your depression. If she doesn't know... how could she help? I tell my counselor stuff... sometimes I cry/get embarrassed... but I trust she is here to help and get to the bottom of my issues so we can find out the problems together! :) I always feel much better afterwards. If you are truly afraid to tell her stuff.../nervous... write down your issues, tell her little by little... so you can pick and choose. Then as time goes on, check off what you already told her. Eventually you will feel comfortable. Or just have her look at your list ( if you're gutsy enough ;) )

[KatelynxPaige]

She's a trained professional and if anyone can help you it's her. If you don't open up, then nothing can be done. Just see how it goes and if it doesn't go well, then it's time to find a new therapist.

[Intraluminal]

You should tell her. These problems are very common and she won't judge you.

[LordBlakeh]

Therapists don't judge you, you pay them to listen to your problems.

[AzureGirl]

Tell her. That's what she's there for: to listen to your problems. It's their job to help you, not judge you.

[Juicy__Guard]

I think you should tell her. She's a therapist she isn't going to judge you, she'll try to help you. So try telling her especially since you paying her a lot so use her. :)

[Anonymous]

You're literally just throwing money away. Either tell her or stop paying.