Does it matter if I don't have abs?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is in the military and he has gone through a full fledged body transformation! He looks great and I'm proud of him. We have been together for over 2 years.
me on the other hand, I don't have abs. I run every morning and also lift weights here and there. I am in a healthy weight range. 5'6" and ~130lbs
he wants to go to the beach over the summer and I am nervous because he is so fit now and I don't wanna look like his "fat girlfriend."
will people judge me in a bikini next to him?
i feel like he is out of my league now :(
he says he loves my body and I don't want to look bad next to him.
I've lost 30 lbs already. I am working on losing more.

[Anonymous]

Just be in shape and you're fine. If you want to set getting abs as your goal that's fine but I don't personally see the need for it. I think a flat stomach on a woman looks good enough---very slight ab definition (two lines on either side of your belly button) looks great. But I don't personally care for the look of legitimate "packs" of abs on a woman, not to mention that's very difficult to attain given our body makeup and requires a strict diet/exercise regimen.

Ultimately, I say that as long as you look in shape overall (with nice but not necessarily prominent muscle definition all over) you'll look perfectly fine standing next to him. From your description of yourself it sounds like you're already in shape.

[ivyowl]

He's not out of your league if you are working towards the same goal. let's say you are both in Law School. He is almost done and but you are 3 years from taking the bar. Is this new Lawyer out of your league? Should he drop you for a person who already has her degree? No that's dumb. As a couple you grow together. That's the point. You are never there when you meet up, you get there together. If YOU want a better body then you already have, then by all means achieve that goal. But surely you are together for a variety of other reasons as well.

[SlimBad]

I'm a soldier in the Army as well and I'm very physically fit and am in great shape.
Honestly, as along as your healthy, which you are, you're ab definition doesn't matter.
Guys are straightforward. He says he loves your body, so believe him, it's true.

[ThatGuy98]

Why do girls have such a hard time understanding that when a man says he loves your body, he means it? He is together with you because he loves you and the way you look, no need for you to question that!

[Mustachekitteh]

It doesn't matter if you have abs or not, as long as he looks your body. Nothing to worry about and don't put yourself down over this. It's stress you could live without.

[ConsultantIsBack]

5'6" 130 sounds great to me. You may or may not be over critical, impossible to tell without an actual pic tbh. Either way, it's up to you boyfriend and his preferences so yeah. Good luck

[slimstiffy]

No! Just no.. Dont lose more.. Women have naturally higher bodyfat than men.. Its better to not have abs in my opinion for girls.

[Prof_Don]

abs on girls are overrated, most guys don't have much of a preference in my opinion

[RasAlGhul]

1st- If u want get fit do it for you!
2nd- if he loves you he loves you the way u are.
3rd- if u really are into the healthy and fit life go for it girl :)

[Patmedley26]

If he truly loves you he won't care. I personally don't like abs on girls.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you should worry there if this guy loves you for who you are you should be happy and show off your body in a bikini and your boyfriend should be proud to show you off he's lucky

[Anonymous]

All u have to do is stop worrying about what people are going to think because its hard to satisfy everyone so just be yourself.. enjoy your time with your boyfriend and have fun ;)

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter dear, if you don't have fat around your body, you are ready to go

[BertMacklinFBI]

it doesn't matter

[Anonymous]

girls aren't supposed to have abs. just have flat-ish stomach

[badger25]

Just keep working at it! You'll be fine!

[orphan]

abs are made in the kitchen