Anyone here who used to have anger problems but over came them without therapy?

[jslxoxo]

My anger wasn't always this bad. It's like the older I get, the less tolerance I have. It's gotten even worse these last few years. I don't lash out violently or anything. It's more internally for me, if I'm making sense. Mostly everyone gets on my nerves now a days. I don't say anything because it typically makes the situation worse when I do.

I just try to hold it in, but I hate feeling this way. I hate being mad for hours. I don't take it out on anyone , I just keep it to myself. I know it's bad for my health. The most I'll do is vent, but still. It really stresses me out. It's not easy for me to let things just roll off my back.

So so basically I just want to hear other people's stories and experiences

[tupperware]

I had that. I held it in my whole life, until I was in my early 20's. I quit holding it in. I was the scorer at a basketball game, and this kid fouled out. He said to the coach "I only have 2 fouls." Coach took him at his word and just walked back and forth in front of the scorer's table, mumbling all kinds of shit without saying it to me directly. I flipped my shit. "Get back over the line, and either start keeping track of fouls yourself or shut the fuck up." I thought only he could hear me. It was loud enough the refs stopped the game to come settle it. He talked shit a few minutes later, and I stopped the game with the horn and had him T'd up.

The yelling was an overreaction on my part, but it let off a lot of pressure. Now when people do shit that pisses me off, I don't hold it in. You get better at not overreacting, and instead expressing yourself and being more assertive. It's a hell of a lot easier than carrying all that weight around.

[tupperware]

I want to add, too, that it's not always unreasonable to be angry. Sometimes people think anger should never be shown, but that's not true. Anger can be expressed in a civil conversation, it's not always screaming and throwing things. It's how you handle yourself when you're angry that makes the difference between a crazy person and a rational adult.

[jslxoxo]

Thank you so much for actually sharing your story. I guess I really need to channel it another and not act like a crazy person. I just don't like for people to see me like that. I try to keep quiet because I know I'll react violently. I know it's not the adult thing to do. You're the first person I've heard say it's okay to be angry sometimes. Everyone tells me to ignore things or let it roll off. So yeah, I know I what I need to practice. Thank you

[BertMacklinFBI]

not anger problems per se, but some things a heavy bag can really help with

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[BaileyisDarcy]

You should do karate!!

I just started up again, but I remember when I used to do it before me tits grew in that it was like all my problems melted away while I was in class. All that mattered was my skills and my respect towards our teacher.

I've started up again though, now that my hormones aren't fucking with my mind, and just that one class I've done so far has done so much for my psyche.
I might have to start right at the bottom again, but it's not about the belts to me. It's about the release.

(It also helps knowing I can beat the crap out of anyone who pissed me off if I wanted to. It's not what karate is about, it's about defense, but still. It's good for my mindset.)

[Anonymous]

No and i'm not going to pretend what that must truly feel like to have anger issues but i know most if not all anger comes from fear, FEAR is the fuel for anger, so if one can work out and get to the root of fear, stress, then anger issues can be dealt with, even if it's built up anger from over the years or even from childhood brought into adulthood, it's amazing how the mind and body holds onto emotional turbulence, or trauma, let go of that and you release your fears and deal with anger issues.

[theoverlookeddude]

Usually I just smoke pot when I'm feeling emotional. "Men" aren't supposed to show feelings, so having an outlet like that most certainly helps in ways therapy couldn't.

[jslxoxo]

I've thought about smoking. I've tried taking these stress vitamins, that didn't work :/

[GreatnessRevamped]

People used to say I had anger problems.
Now, they don't say anything.
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[jslxoxo]

Thank you so much for your insightful answer. You've helped me tremendously

[Anonymous]

I have been having a similar issue. The best thing I did was cut out caffeine. I use to drink a lot of caffeine and never had a problem, but apparently I have become a lot more sensitive to it. Eating a better diet has also helped, but not as much.

The other thing I have noticed is that when I get stressed or feel powerless I get more angry. This generally means that I need to make a change in my life, such as to find a new job, or resolve some other form of stress in my life.

[ThatBritishLad]

You could just, you know, get over them yourself by developing as a human being.

[BaileyisDarcy]

You're aware that's what she's asking help with right? Fuck, people don't always have their own answers.

[ikissedtheskyonce]

Yep I did, but I won't go into roo much detail since it happened in middle school

[apple24]

noooo! thearpy is needed!

[Idle_Farmer]

Just cut people out of your life.