People who used to get angry easily, how did you work on your anger issues?

[Anonymous]

[Rosexøxø]

I’ll tell you what I did.

I looked ahead, and imagined the most extreme version of anger, on the scale.

It would always be death.

I would ask myself, would I ever need to, or want to kill someone? I said without blinking, or thinking twice- NO.

Once, when I was younger, I did imagine severely hurting and watching someone (from my family) cry, until they “were no more,” (due to something they had done that essentially hurt me and made me angry) and I realized- it wouldn’t make my life any happier and I’d feel bad in the most truest way. I then realized I would never ever need to do such a horrible thing. Anger is a defensive response to pain, and it’s just energy. It may be when someone feels helpless. Always turn on your mind and think your way through.

Ultimately, I decided:

If I didn’t need the most “extreme version” of anger- I didn’t need any other part of it. 👐

Anger is pointless, and it makes the person feeling it, feel out of control.

I seen this movie called ‘Hacksaw Ridge,’ with Andrew Garfield. (Highly Recommend).

His character he portrayed, was based on the *real life* Veteran, Desmond Doss.

Desmond almost killed his very own blood-brother, by accident, in a play fight. They were scuffling, and maybe a little heated, and no real thoughts were given. He had hit his brother on the head with a stone. Unconscious.

The father said he would beat Desmond. Desmond cried while his parents tried to tend to his brother, whom Desmond believed to be dead or would soon be dead. He loved his brother.

Desmond saw a painting of Cain and Able, at that time, and he knew what he had done wasn’t right.

This crucial and extremely specific part of Desmond’s life story, is what motivated him further in his religious faith- not to harm his brothers of mankind, and determined his stance to go to war- without a single weapon to defend himself.

He saved many lives as a medic- same amount of danger, risk, and feelings of confusion and anger as his mates- in wanting to see a free country land, and being away from war.

Desmond was remarkable in his own special way- from hitting grenades with his hands, and tending the wounds of the injured opposing army.

He truly went above and beyond- WITH his regiment. I’m convinced this team was not like the others before them, who could not dominate/ occupy Okinawa. His bravery was grounded in love, and his faith in God.

I’m not a believer, so whether God is real or not- what that man had done. Was truly great. In my eyes. In either reality.

Anger solves nothing. It’s a chemical reaction that shouldn’t be fed into.

Use your mind to get the results you want; realize other people are not immortal and will one day die on their own accord, and leave them be.

Focus on the life in front of YoU. That’s the one you have to live with. That’s the one that matters.

Best to you!

(Also this train of thought is only in part, but it’s what helped me not to hurt anyone when I was younger).

[Rosexøxø]

I know I would have regretted it

[TrueConfection]

Prayer works for me. For instance, I was very tired and it's been a long week. I was woken up twice last night by clumsy people making noise at 3:30 in the morning. The second time it happened, I was seething. I could actually feel my heart beating in my chest. Prayer helped calm my emotions and eventually, I feel back to sleep.

[Tyrael]

Initially I used to take my anger out physically by punching a pillow or breaking something that was already busted and going to the scrapyard.

Eventually just taking deep breaths, counting to ten and removing yourself from whatever is angering you is good enough.

[SnowedIn]

• Deep breath.
• Count to 10.
• Make and drink a cup of coffee.
• Write the angry email then delete it.
• Pet the cat.

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[Kori1236]

Deep breath and remind myself that it’s a waste of energy to be angry

[Perverted_Creep]

Health... junk food.. and more. Stress hormones...

[whipcord]

Start caring less. Someone cut you off in traffic, whatever it's not like I have to be anyplace.

[Anonymous]

Realising that only weak people get angry and stronger, matured people knows how to keep their mind calm. Ask yourself if you want to be weak or strong?

[Anonymous]

Stopped caring. If you don't feel you can't hurt.

[Ryfyle]

By getting good.