Can a pessimist really become an optimist?

[Tomsta]

For as long as i can remember i've been a pessimist, to be that makes life easier and i have far fewer disapointments in life, less pain etc.

But i know that i really should try to inject some optimism in my life, problem is i don't have that ability, all i see is the negative side of things because life isn't a fairytale, things never really go the way you want them to, life always loves screwing you over

[Victoriann]

yes, if they train their mind to think more positive thoughts. It takes time, consistency and effort , but it can be achieved.

You should look for self-help info on reputable websites at cognitive behavioural therapy . This may help you to change you mindset and negative thoughts into more positive ones

[Tomsta]

Things is i actually kinda like being pessimistic, like i said i don't get disappointed much

[Victoriann]

It's still not good to be pessimistic all of the time though. Most people avoid pessimists , but if you are happy that way , and it works for you then stay as you are :)

[Tomsta]

I'd say i'm more a realist

[Victoriann]

Yeah me too !

[dreammanofone]

Try tocut through what is bothering you causing you to be pessimistic. It is understandable feeling this way with so many sad things going on in the world as well as what may be going on in you life.

[Tomsta]

Well there are a multidude of things but i know what the biggest one prob is

[dreammanofone]

That I agree with and everyone see their view point in feeling this way. Best is to find all the good things you have ever done in your life and appreciate your self for these good things and achievements.

[Tomsta]

That isn't something i naturrally do i pass everything that's 'good' about my life as easily achieveable if you just work hard, like get a decent paying job and buying a flat. Just work hard and you'll get it... simple as

[dreammanofone]

Meaning that whatever you put into what you want to acheive should be acknowledged by your affords but sadly that is not always the case.

[Tomsta]

That didn't makes sense

[dreammanofone]

ok no worries

[dreammanofone]

just do the honest works. except the rewards and hope you are rewarded then you have better self worth of your self. then you will feel less pessimistic about your self

[Tomsta]

I often feel like i havne't really done anything to desrve those rewards, all i did to get my flat was work and do my job i don't deem that needs to celebration i just did my job is all

[dreammanofone]

then you deserve the rewards and you should be proud of your work. I could go on and on explaining this to you but you need to open up and understand your self worth more. I will help you in anything if you want regarding this.

[enis_Penvy]

I believe you can but I don't know for sure

[Tomsta]

Wish i had your optimism :p

[dreammanofone]

just take control of your life and be your best. i will help you through if you want my help ok.