How do I stop being a delusional optimist?

[heruncommonsense]

If I were to date, I would want an honest and gentle male who likes spending time with me.

But males are motivated by horniness, hatred of women, and hunger. They are dishonest, violent, and sadistic.

My instinct always tells me that not all males can be like that. But males admit it.

When a woman claims that all males are the same, males get mad.

When a male claims that all males are the same, males agree.

How do I end my delusion? I keep hoping that I can make a male behave.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think this is completely true. It might be the type of men you’re around. Yes a lot of men are similar, I think that comes from nature. Just the same as how women are very similar in many ways. There’s a lot of things both genders do that we both dislike. No, a lot of men don’t hate women. They’re just tired of ok what do you want. You want equality but you don’t want equality when it comes to things like war, taking care of the bills, etc, etc. Women want men to be “men” but don’t want men to approach them when he’s interested, then complain when men don’t approach them. Women say they’re strong n independent but complain that about men not helping them when they have a flat tire, or she’s lifting something heavy or being attacked on the street. That’s where the frustration comes in.

[heruncommonsense]

Males admit that they are all the same.
Women are not all the same, because we aren't males.
Males make it very clear that they all hate women. You admit that all you want to do is rape and torture wkmen and girls.
"They’re just tired of ok what do you want." Incoherent sentence.
Males do not want equality. You literally want child sex slaves.
"you don’t want equality when it comes to things like war, taking care of the bills"
The draft has existed longer than women have been able to vote. This is projection.
Women are paid 4-8% less for the exact same work, and do most unpaid work.
No one is forcing you to date women who won't split the bill.
Many women do not want men to be men. If we did, there would be do male horniness epidemic.
You think you're oppressed because you got rejected? Lol, lmao even.
I've NEVER seen a woman complain about not getting approached. This is cope. Women cannot be involuntarily celibate.

[heruncommonsense]

"Women say they’re strong n independent"
Holy shit, you are an ABSOLUTE MORON. The vast majority of women do not say this.
I've also never seen a woman complain that males don't help with flat tires, lifting something heavy, or being attacked on the street.
Males have never protected women. This is just not a thing that happens. Males are the threat, and in developed countries, it's really just males you know.
Males use this to say that women shouldn't be cautious, but it proves that we should. Most American women who refuse to date are in virtually no danger.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re full of shit. I’m not even reading your post. Men don’t all want to rape women. Grow up.

[heruncommonsense]

males admit that they all want to commit rape.

[capriVib]

I don't know, I agree with some things, but is this just about men? The reason people date is the mating instinct; everyone has it.

​Separately, I don't think most men are sadistic, violent, or hate women. At least, I'm not like that.

​You mentioned instincts. Women generally fall in love with men who have the traits you listed, dominated by the "I can change him" mentality. Then, when they can't change him, we see it on the evening news. What are we supposed to do? Review your choices; choose the man you fall in love with wisely.

[heruncommonsense]

A few women have no desire for sex.
Males admit that they are all sadistic, violent, and hate women.
All males have the traits I listed.
"What are we supposed to do?" Stop lying and raping and battering.
Why would I have sex, when males refuse to listen to what women want?

[zagor]

Get to know some guys outside of the "meat market" places.

[heruncommonsense]

All males are the same

[zagor]

As I said, you need more diversity in the males you meet.

[heruncommonsense]

You ADMIT that you are all the same. Simple as that.

[zagor]

You are bitter and unreasonable.

[heruncommonsense]

If i was unreasonable, i wouldn't have changed my mind. I only believe that all males are the same because you admit it.
Males are the aggressive sex. It's just biology. Males have always been, and always will be, inferior, ruthless creatures

[zagor]

Yeah that's why women invented calculus, sent a human to the moon, and invented a vaccine for polio.

[heruncommonsense]

women also committed the rape of nanjing and my lai massacre.

[wkhan_87]

You have need to change your thoughts towards men.

[heruncommonsense]

My thoughts have changed. My instincts are the problem.

[wkhan_87]

Make it your strength
Best of luck