How can I get people to understand I'm insecure about my body?

[Anonymous]

I used to be bullied majorly when I was younger which helped cause me to have depression and a major eating disorder. I also suffer from body dismorphia so you guys get where I'm going with this. I don't complain about my body but I do wear clothes that help me hide the parts I don't like. I refuse to wear tank tops or 2 piece bathing suits because I cannot do it, and when I get questioned as to why I don't wear them people tell me to shut up and that I have a great body that anyone would kill for. I just don't understand why they don't get that I'm just not comfortable. I used to only wear long sleeves and pants but I've been getting better and now I wear t-shirts and shorts, I tried wearing a tank top to a family event and everyone freaked because I finally wore a tank top and that made me even more uncomfortable because they were not commenting on my arms and about how I shouldn't be afraid. I still have the mindset of when I was fat and guys would shove me and call me awful names. how can I get people to understand this?

[depeche2015]

I was made fun of my body too when I was younger whenever I wore a bikini or bathing suit. Ever since then I don't wear bikinis to the pool I have to wear shorts and a tank top. I don't like anyone touching or getting close to my body or even commenting on it cause I feel like my bodies ugly and I'm very self conscious. They probably won't understand cause they weren't with you when the bullying happened but what they know is that you're beautiful and they like your body. The people that bullied you were probably insecure themselves and had trouble with themselves and home life. Everyone's body is perfect in their own way but I totally understand you cause I have the same issue but when it comes to wearing bikinis and swimwear. Wear shorts and a tank top. I bet you look nice :) if your family says so then it's true :)

[Kaazsz]

you're lucky you have people to compliment you and tell you your thoughts are wrong. And you want them to stop? And let you beat yourself up for nothing? Thats just silly.

[Asker]

to complement me is okay but to tell me my insecurities are invalid is not. I don't have a problem with them complementing me but to tell me I can't be insecure and that I'm stupid for not feeling comfortable wearing tank tops is silly.

[PartialisticMan]

You are talking to people who don't understand. When they mature then that s the time for them. Meanwhile let them be idiots.

[Fingold]

I know what you mean, I workout a lot even after losing all my weight cause I feel unattractive anyway.