How to get over it?

[BeautifulPromisesx]

I dated this guy who was my first love & everything who turned out to be a douche... And basically he called me fat, well his exact words being "I wish you were skinnier"

For some reason this really deeply hurt me as I actually already lost a lot of weight at that point.. Anyways how do I get over this and just learn to toughen up and stop being so impacted by what he said? I just felt my self confidence drop after that sadly.

[Sampo]

Aw. I'm actually still with someone who basically said I need to lose weight or we won't last. Even though.. I'm in a healthy weight range for my age/height whatever. But I just have never been skinny enough for him.
It hurts more than if a stranger were to say it because when you love someone and they are supposed to love you, its only natural to hope it would be unconditional. And I know there are all those people out there who say attraction matters, and you can't have a relationship without attraction. But that fucking doesn't last, like how can you expect to be with someone for your whole life and think they will still look like they did when they were young. That's a part of why there are so many divorces or cheating happens. People think if someone doesn't live up to their standards always then they should find someone new. That isn't love, thats selfishness. And I'm not talking about situations where someone is severely obese, even I think they should try to eat healthy change their lifestyle etc because health matters. But being critiqued on your body by someone who you love is the worst thing in the world. Like no matter how much love you have for yourself, it can be etched away by that insecurity they planted inside you.
I don't really know how to help you, other than I feel you girl. And you don't look fat at all. And 75 % of the time even when we think they love us, they are just men, and they just don't get that those things hurt.
If I truly knew hoe to help you, I think I wouldn't be in this relationship anymore. So I think you are ahead of me on that one. Just keep your head high, do your squats and make him wish he never said that. And you will find a good guy one day, I hear they are out there somewhere.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

Thanks girl and you're beautiful! I left because he didn't even think I was good enough and honestly I got tired of the games. I think every woman has their limit as to how much pain they're able to tolerate for the sake of love and I've reached mine. I'm ready to just move on and not look back. Haha my squats will now make my ass match my sass. 😂

[babeeeone]

You don't have to listen to and dwell on the words of an idiot who's being rude and insulting to you and only trying to bring you down. Just accept and love yourself the way you are and know that you don't have to change yourself for anyone and you can look any way you'd like and live your life the way you want to. There's nothing wrong with you and you shouldn't let his words of criticism get to you.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

Thank you. It's just been hard I guess.

[babeeeone]

I can understand. In time, and with more compliments I'm sure you'll forget about it and it won't bother you anymore.

[abc3643]

Here's how you get over it:
Realize not so much that he's a douche (and he is) but that he's nuts! You are a beautiful young lady! Say to yourself "I dodged a bullet! If he and I stayed together, I might have given birth to little nutty kids who inherited his wacky genes. Thank God I am no longer with him! Now to find a _real_ man..."

[Streamhopper]

*sighs* It's so common. We hurt each other a lot. But you're just fine as a person, I'm sure. I don't know you, but I'd bet that you have a great personality. I'd bet that you're fun to be with. You can't let it get you down. You're way better than that. You deserve to be happy.

[hotstuffSRD]

He's a douche right?
Then his opinion doesn't matter
You look cute so chill
Workout to maintain your body

[bcromartie]

It will pass with time.

[Ephemera1]

Time hmmmmmmmmm