How Do I Become Confident Again Please?

[Alyssa1111]

I've generally always been a confident person. I dated this guy who basically treated me like crap, and straight after him, dated another guy who just destroyed my confidence. Like he put me down all the time, about everything.

I know that was stupid, I was going through a phase...

I've absolutely lost my confidence and myself. It's the worst experience I've ever had and I've been fighting to recover for the like, 2 months.
Any advice?
I miss my old self :(

[melodybluesy]

start reading self help books and journaling your thoughts. watch chick flicks... and learn about what you really like and want. I went through it myself. just avoid getting into a relationship until you're absolutely sure you are able to screen out the abusers. hugs.. it'll be alright in time. get to know your worth. improve upon something u enjoy. these things really work.

[Alyssa1111]

thank you so much for this! <3

[melodybluesy]

you're welcome!

[Shanck]

hang out with your friends, they will be able to make you feel confident again if you give them enough time.

It worked for me, I never was confident in myself, I met some people who like me for who I am and now I can say that I'm a quite confident person

[Alyssa1111]

i think whats really affected me too is that i just started college. So I dont really get to see my friends as often anymore.

[Shanck]

this is perfect.
I just started college as well and for me it's the same, I don't see my friends very often since I started.
But take the opportunity to make new friends.
I'm not a very social person but since I knew nobody I had to make new friends there, and I made a lot of them.
It will take a bit longer for them to get your confidence up but at some point you will have your old and new friends who are there for you

[Alyssa1111]

i was super nervous about making new friends. But what you just said totally changed my perspective, thank you :)

[Lilmaninthewoods]

Take some martial arts classes or do some obstecle courses, those are always great for building up confidence.

[bruce3]

why it made u like that?

[Alyssa1111]

I guess without realising, what the guys did and said to me really did affect my self esteem.