How Do I Get More Confidence?

[SpudSteer]

I Don’t Have The Confidence To Ask A Woman Out Any Tips

[CaptainOverthink]

True confidence comes from competence.
When you are so good at something that you feel secure in acting out the truth you think you know to be true.
You get competence by a long line of errors and failings while comitting to the inevitability of failing in order to become better.
- A good startingpoint is Truth. Be true to yourself and always try to speak truth. You must admit to what needs to change before you can adress the problem.
- Always be serious and try your best, whatever you do. Be it a job or a relationship, friend or otherwise.
- Know what you want, admit what you want. Act on that. If you don't know, then any random choice of direction you take will only get you more insight into what the right choice might be. Any choice is better than none.
- You can explain your actions but never excuse them, take accountability for them.
- If you are wronged by another, don't think too much on it, distract yourself from it by moving forward. Get busy and you won't have time for it.
- Rejection is not personal unless they truly know you. Most times when you are rejected, it is the version of you they imagine you to be that they reject.
But don't chase them, let them go. And when you've improved and progressed they might reconsider, if they themselves are up to par that is.

You can create fake confidence and either delude yourself to think you know what to do or just try to behave in a way that makes others assume that you know what to do.
But this is not a good way of achieving the things we truly want nor is it something that's going to make you respect yourself in any deeper way.
Because if you do convince people then you won't be able to live up to it and if not then they see through you and you get the reverse.

TLDR:
There is no shortcut to confidence by competence. You must accept that to succseed you must first learn to fail.

[BarryLiverstone]

My tip is ask 20 women out and expect to be rejected., that will build your experience