When I was 16 I had mental issues (depressed, cut myself and had anxiety) and one time I got really drunk and put 3 peoples phones in the toilet?

[Anonymous]

i was in a really bad spot and i feel really bad about it still, I've apologized to them and tried to move on with my life. i don't understand why i would ever do that, it just seems crazy and not something i would do now. after it happened, I lost all my friends and my boyfriend cheated on me and dumped me. its been about 2 years since it happened, any ideas on how to move on?

[Triathlete]

All this can make you a bad person if you hurt others (emotionally or physically) and don't learn from it, and or keep doing it.
In my own opinion, if you try and think about others before your own, are empathetic, compassionate and try your hardest and do everything you can to be the better person in spite of anger, judgement etc. Then that's all that anyone can ask of you.
If people are still holding onto the anger even after seeing you trying to be a good person genuinely, then this is not your problem, but theirs. Be it a lack of maturity on their part, or having any level of awareness.
We grow out of friends and make new ones, it's the reality of life. It's not our past that defines us, it's how we handle it for today and the future that does.

[Asker]

thanks for the advice, it helped me feel a lot better about it :)

[helloitsmejustme]

Move on from them, if they can't accept that you've changed and your better than you once was then its there loss.

I too struggle mentally, and in severe breakdowns I can do some silly shit but more often than not it's self inflicted and hidden.

[Asker]

do you think what I did makes me a bad person?

[helloitsmejustme]

No, it was a shitty thing. But you're human the same as I.

I've done bad, unspeakable, awful things in my life. But that doesn't show who I am now, that was an historic version of who I WAS and who I'm not anymore.

It's not the act that makes someone bad or good, it's what you do to write the wrongs.

If I go and give sandwiches to homeless people does that make me a good person? You'd say yes, but what if I only do so to gain gratification from social media/friends by gloating about it? See where I'm heading?