For the guys....Does weight really matter?

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This one is mainly for the guys...But girls state your opinions too :]  So girls are so self conscious about themselves. We always have to look good, because if were not then we will be judged.  But the one thing that guys always come too is our weight.  So the question is...Does weight really matter?

burn27 · Accepted Answer

I think the media has the female perspective so screwed up it is ridiculous! How heavy is too heavy? How thick is too thick? Do guys like thick or skinny girls? You never hear people say, "How healthy is too healthy?". Today people are so fixated on looking thin and loosing weight that they loose focus on the health aspect of their personal image, or their body image.

What is body image? Body image is a multidimensional construct or an idea that reflects how you see your own body. Many and most people today experience body image disturbances even if they are not aware of it. Body image disturbances are inaccurately perceived images that you may see as you are looking in the mirror . There are four body image dimensions which are perceptual, cognitive, effective, and behavioral. I will not go into depth on these right now, but that should give people something to look up if it sounds like something they are experiencing. My minor is Exercise Science, so I had to put some of that out there.

Do guys say, " Look at that fat/heavy chick, I'd tap that"? No, and I hate when guys say crap like that. No, guys do not typically go for girls who unfortunately have an abnormally high Body Mass Index (BMI). That is not something most guys look for in a girl. Do guys want the thin, twig like supermodels? Absolutely not, that is disgusting and the media has it all wrong across the boards! Personally, I like girls who are in shape and make a real conscious effort to stay in good shape. Being physically active is not a choice, its a lifestyle. Most guys like their women to be healthy and last time I checked, heavy and fat are not new slang terms for healthy.

So not to be shallow. But yes, weight does matter. And unless it is a result of a Thyroid condition, you can always improve your physical condition and get into better shape. Women should really stop asking this question. It is unfair and just make us guys look bad and shallow minded. If some sweaty, stinky, overweight guy walked up to an attractive girl and asked for her number, we all know there is most likely no chance in hell he will be successful. Girls often ask men as well, "If I gained weight and got fat, would you still love me". That is a horrible and unfair question to ask a boyfriend or a spouse! Love is also respect, and how can we (men) respect you if you do not respect yourself. Someone who respects and cares about themselves will take care of their body and continue a healthy lifestyle.

Finally, yes weight is huge...Literally! And it should matter just as much for the women asking this question as the men looking or not looking. Yes, beauty is only skin deep and in the eyes of the beholder. Everyone has their own idea of beauty and definition of what beauty looks like or if it is about looks at all. That is your call as an individual. Weight does matter, but as long as you are healthy anything some asshole says about your weight is irrelevant.

freefall7 · Accepted Answer

Yes. It does. Nobody want's a heavy load. That goes for women too. Don't lie and say you would be stumped between Brad Pitt and the likes of Chris Farley. The truth behind why men like fit girls...

1) They eat less. That's big bucks saved when we go out, especially on trips! Lets say we spend a weekend at the boardwalk, a light lunch and dinner yes, no to the endless snacks and cotton candy. Expensive drinks like coke are only sucked down by porkers, water is free!

2) They take less of the bed, and don't get as sweaty at night. This is pretty simple, fat girls take up a lot of mass, and seem to sweat at night, which is uncomfortable for optimal sleeping.

3) Less health risks. If you are thinking about settling down with a rhino, you better do a little research on all the health problems caused by an unhealthy weight. Why you ask? A lot of these problems can be passed on habitually and genetically to your children.

4) Self respect. We have heard the plumper's rant on about how they are beautiful and god meant them to be this way and not toothpicks. That is a bunch of self denial bullsh*t. You are not intended to inhale fried chicken and sit on your fat ass all day. A women who does this doesn't truly respect her body, which means how could she truly respect you.

5) Fat doesn't show the curves of a women. How can you be truly sexually attracted to someone if they are covered in a giant layer of blubber. Stubby arms and legs only look right on a midget or a baby.

6) A healthy body usually means a healthy lifestyle. A girl that exercises regularly has a better chance of balancing her life. A positive social life, career, and goal orientation are some of the things that benefit from a healthy lifestyle.

Nobody want's to be stuck with a brick. If someone has a few extra pounds, and they are complaining about not being able to find someone because everybody likes fit people then It just means they are full of sh*t and like healthy people too, because I am sure there is someone in the same condition available.

hisangel · Accepted Answer

I worked with so many men in my life. In job environments that typically have rougher not so tactful men, so I've learned more than I ever wanted to know in my life about certain things! But I am so thankful for my mostly male environments because it really has shown me that sure guys talk a lot of crap about women's bodies but they do also love them and don't see the imperfections that we do. Women judge us harsher on our looks then men do.

Sure men will sit down and pick apart a woman in a magazine. They will say her boobs aren't big enough or her thighs are too skinny. They completely objectify those women but those women aren't their girlfriends or wives. There is a lot of more respect for the woman's body whose his. Not saying men think women are possessions but it's like the difference between a car he sees in a magazine and his first car that is sitting in a dusty pile in the driveway. He may be completely amazed by the new car but he is in love with that piece of junk in the front yard. It doesn't matter that the fender is dinged and the windows don't stay up and it leaks oil like the freaking BP spill. It's his and he loves it as is. It's the same way with his girlfriend or wife. Sure she has stretch marks and cellulite and that nasty little hair on her chin that she always has to pluck but she is a million times better than the 'perfect' girl in the magazine.

Men start having problems with their wives/girlfriends weight when it seems like she has stopped caring about her appearance all together and when she starts treating him like crap. When a woman is trying to keep up her appearance, even if she is gaining weight, and she is still being good to him, a guy doesn't care like we think he does.

I've gone through different things in life like sicknesses that have made my weight fluctuate drastically. Losing huge amounts and gaining huge amounts back. But during that time I never stopped taking care of myself. Dressing nicely, wearing jewelry, perfume, clean clothes, all that. And I never once got a sideways glance from my boyfriend that he was disappointed in me or thought I needed to take better care of myself. He still wanted sex just as much and still said I was just as beautiful.

My friend also had a weight gain issue at one time. She stopped taking care of herself, wore sweats all day, never did her hair, and became a complete bitch to her husband. And you better believe the weight gain became an issue.

And the same is true for women they just met. If she looks like she doesn't want a guy to approach her cause she is frumpy and unkept, then no guy is going to approach her. Whether she has weight on or not.

skittledittle · Accepted Answer

weight doesn't matter, it's how you carry yourself. I spent most my life obese/overweight and I'll tell, HEALTHY is what to go for. guys can't look at you and guess how much you weigh. they can look at you and see how good you look. I know girls who are considered obese based on BMI and blah, blah, blah but these girls are gorgeous, bodies are nice and curvy, some even have flat stomachs, but thicker hourglass figures. your weight is PERCEIVED based on how your body is shaped.

200 pounds on a 4'11 girl is a lot differ from a 5'10 girl. athletic girls are heavier with muscle, but can be completely toned and stick thin girls are skinny, but be completely out of shape (and some guys truly like a FIT girl versus a thin one).

if you're not happy in your skin, it's a turn off anyway. you have to be comfortable in your body, and hell, you may even convince a man that what he THOUGHT was hot no longer matters because YOU changed his mind lol I know guys who are dating bigger girls that they used to laugh at because she was so sexy and confident that he had to get her. personality really does help with attractiveness too.

regardless of all that, if you feel unhealthy, do something about it. it feels great to take care of yourself as opposed to worrying about what others are thinking about you. those people don't matter at the end of the day. fall in love with yourself first and then let the guy love happen when it happens. you need to FEEL healthy and BE active. it's not easy, trust me, but it's not impossible and remember to DO IT FOR YOU! nobody else!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it does. Not every girl is a stick, nor does every guy like a stick. All guys have different preferences, and we are all different shapes and sizes. However, the general consensus is that most guys prefer a girl who is in shape. What I mean by this is a girl who tries her best to stay thin. Not everybody will be a size 4, but I think most guys would prefer a girl who exercises, eats fairly healthy, and is within a normal looking weight range-not majorly overweight or underweight. Some guys are shallow and only want size 00 type girls, and I also notice that guys often say they like a girl with XYZ proportions, a certain colored hair, eyes, height, etc...and then will find a girl who does not match their "list" but is attractive nonetheless. The most important thing is to just stay healthy, take care of yourself. Don't overeat or undereat, try to exercise within healthy limits as often as possible, and just take care of your entire body-skin,hair,face, the works. If you look and feel good, you will radiate confidence which is also important and very sexy. In fact, I think many guys would be far more attracted to a pretty, glowing girl who is normal-sized, takes care of herself well and radiates confidence and a healthy glow, compared to some size 00 hair-dyed overly-made up trashy anorexic chick.

Tom20 · Answer

I think most people find they are attracted to someone of their similar body weight. I would like to bring up a point that I don't think most girl realize course I might just be a loner in this thought process.

In my opinion, a women saying "I am fat" or "I gonna gain weight if I do that" might be the biggest turn off in history. I seriously get upset at my girlfriend any time she does. Not to say I get mad but disappointed. She know I think she's beautiful but to complain about weight (one of the the least controllable visual aspect of our selfs) implies that she's worried that by gaining a pound that I would stop thinking she's pretty. Personality and appearance I think are not more or less important then each other. But I'm not saying you appearance means you have to make yourself the social norm of beauty, I am saying you need to be visually appealing to the one your seeing. As long as they are attracted to you then f*** everything else.

And if your single you will find someone who loves you for how you look. (this is coming from a guy who wears glasses, tall and gangly and plays dungeons and dragons : D)

Oh and for the record I deter from the main question only because all the advice about how personality is just as important is just about true.

Jon364 · Answer

For me yes it matters. The media thing is way over the top. Fake boobs and being stick thin that's extreme and unfair. I feel bad for all the insecure girls out there.

However there is no hiding that overweight isn't attractive. For three reasons, visually, health and character. Weight unlike height for example, is something we can control and actually do something about. So choosing not to, isn't a good sign. It also naturally becomes harder to lose weight as you get older, so everyone needs to be doing what they can while they are younger. It basically just shows inner confidence and happiness when you know you look good.

Slightly overweight is one thing. I actually think slightly overweight looks good. Some celebs seem to lose their attractiveness when they get too skinny. Slightly overwieght is good. But what happens in 5 years, 10 years?

It's just one aspect. A great personality, and clicking together is very important. Slightly overweight is ok, but it's a dangerous slope. Heavily overwieght is really bad. I'd say the same thing about a guy (who obviously I wouldn't want to be dating).

EvanNassau · Answer

Yes, weight does matter. Guys do not want a girl who is overweight. That is a fact of reality - and it's understandable. What you should also know is guys don't want a girl who is too skinny. A guy wants a girl he's attracted to, one who looks healthy, etc.

And likewise, women want a guy who is in shape too. Yes, perhaps some women are willing to settle for a guy who is out of shape moreso than some men - that's true. But at the end of the day, you can't fault guys for wanting a woman that they are attracted to.

Women don't need to be supermodels. But being in shape is something that is a good thing to strive for.

What attracts a guy to a girl? -> link

Are guys intimidated by pretty girls? -> link

Why do girls like outgoing guys? -> link

Best

- Evan

ap1100 · Answer

First of all, stop with the "we will be judged". By whom, and why do you care? If you are trying to please people you don't even know, then you need to work on that.

Yes, weight does matter. I'm a thin guy and I don't want someone who is overweight. It's a compatibility issue. I have family/friends who are average or slightly overweight who are with similar partners, as well as people who are much overweight who also have similar partners. A guy who is fat shouldn't expect to date a supermodel, nor should an overweight woman expect to date James Bond. That said, a love handle or a little stomach isn't the end of the world to a guy who loves you. I do think guys are more forgiving than one might think, but if it's a difference of night and day, then that's a different story. (Yes, I know the idiots who say "anything over 120 and I'll get the harpoon" don't make my case, but that's an exception. Any guy who says that is an idiot; I dated a girl who was 5'11/135 lbs. Anyone think that's fat? Geez!)

Uncleconker · Answer

Lets see... I back up drew 100% that you're always judged. But I'm going to say that yes, weight does matter. I've seen some of the most goregous girls in the world think that they're fat but they aren't at all and heavier girls be so confident (I don't know why) That they say it's only a little extra. I am a little overweight. But I run every night and workout every other. I'm working on it. Sure I can get girls easy, but I realize that I need to lose some weight. The poroblem with most heavyset girls is that they're like "I'm already here" And either don't want to put the effort into a healthier lifestyle (diet, exercise) or they don't think they need to. Truth is even if a guy is friggin 300lbs, he's still going to look to the hot, skinny, sexy girls even if he can't get them. It's primal, instinctual. Humans are conditioned to find the most attractive mate possible Because having an attractive mate means more attractive children and then your children have a better chance to find a mate and thereby reproduce. Simple instincts.

drewtiger13 · Answer

I have to point out that you are always judged, because whether you look "good" or "bad" is always an opinion! It can be your opinion or that of another but it's always a judgment call by someone.

but to move on to your real question, yes, BUT it's all relative. A guy is going to have an attraction or not based on his past, and that could be for or against big girls, or no preference at all!

Personally, I find it a factor, because for me it is a self-esteem factor. I eat well, I am a very good cook, and occasionally I find my pants a bit tight! and a little red flag goes up and I alter my habits to get back to a 36 or 34" pants... I will NOT go buy 40's, even if I have to aggravate my permanent disabilities with some exercise! I think something similar happens in most "moderate" body types.

If you don't mind a really big guy, he probably won't mind your size! on the other hand, if you are attracted to someone who is athletic, you can bet your last dime that he's looking at athletic women...

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the guys you are trying to attract and where you live. In Southern California, the standard for slimness is set pretty high. It's not that you cannot be "chubby" but then guys who are very fitness conscious see you as not toned when you may be very toned underneath a small layer of fat.

Overall it's about having a nice figure. If your heavier but in all the right places and not so much in the wrong places, you will have many admirers. Some girls are just lucky to carry their weight in a way that looks very curvy and attractive.

Also, watch what you wear. If you are curvy and wear clothes that dig into you and give you a muffin top or fat rolling over your bra straps, you will look worse than you should. I don't know why girls these days insist on wearing pants with rolls coming over the waistband and tops that cling to the rolls and highlight them. If you have extra weight, wear the right size, don't try to cinch it in. It's the equivalent of a combover on a balding man. Just say no.

EldaMaria · Answer

listen just because a girl is heavy doesn't mean she doesn't take care of herself and isn't in shape. When I was young I never worked out and I ate whatever I wanted! I smoked never exercised and ate what ever crap I felt like eating, but because I was skinny guys liked me. Well, as I've gotten older my metabolism has changed and I am overweight now. But I take exceptional care of myself, I eat well and exercise HARD! I run five miles a day, can do fifty guy pushups and I like to lift weights. When I work out, I run guys into the ground! Because of my metabolism I can work out for hours without getting tired! Nothing I do changes the fact that I am heavy now. But because I am heavy you guys assume that I am lazy, sloppy, and don't take care of myself! You don't know what the hell your talking about. Most of the skinny girls you think are in shape never work out and eat cookies for breakfast and pizza for lunch! If you don't like the look of heavy girls that's fine, I don't like skinny out of shape guys; but don't assume just because a girl is heavy she is lazy and doesn't care about how she looks.

Belgie · Answer

It matters if the girls is unhealthily obese, sure. But if she's just carrying a little extra poundage? That's never been a concern of mine. To me, it's a sign that the girl knows how to party, enjoys a beer, and possibly a good steak. She will never order salad, then spend half the meal stealing food from my plate. Rather, she'll probably know the best place to go for ribs on a Thursday night, and where I can get the best cheese cake in town.

I love a girl who's happy in her own skin, and who'll never start a fight by asking "Does this make my ass look big?"

Meetmeonthequinox · Answer

Honestly obese people are unattractive...sad but true..However, most girls make WAY WAY WAY too big a deal out of their weight..the average size of a healthy, and in many guys opinions, beautiful girl, is a lot bigger than the average model...society has a real problem in that regard...I guess I can't speka for all guys but honestly me and oen of my buds were talking about how girls today that get the most attention are actually pretty skinny and that he even described girls considered to be heavier as "healthy"..its disgusting honestly...and I think a lot of guys are under the spell of the media as well...women who were considere beatiful decades ago would be called fat now...it's not natural I don't think for guys to like anorexic girls...I think guys are also under the influence of soceity as a whole..I have no clue how this got started that being on teh skinnier side makes ur prettier but I hoenst to god hopes it revereses itself soon..its hurting everybody.

YaMez · Answer

Everyone is judged by everyone else about something. Judging others falls into personality types I think and runs along the same vein as opinions, which we all know aren't really worth much coming from someone that doesn't mean anything to us anyway. Although most everyone does it for different things. I don't feel that weight matters just as long as it's distributed well .Large breasts. Curvy hips. Height. Several things contribute to weight. A well distributed heavyweight is always welcome in my eyes.

djdunn · Answer

to me its about being physically fit and healthy, respecting yourself, if your 300 pounds overweight you don't respect yourself and it makes me uneasy to want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't respect themselves because I wonder if they can't even respect themselves how they can respect others.

and equally as important is about having someone with the same lifestyle as me.

I have this habit of enjoying the outdoors

sometimes I might just get up grab the dog and want to run around like an idiot at the park for a few hours, And having a girlfriend that likes to run with her dogs is amazing.

its really about having the same lifestyle.

bobair · Answer

Appearance matters. It's that simple. It seems superficial because it is.

We meet girls we like the look of.

We stay with girls we like the feel of.

If you're cute, clean, happy, and inviting, then we don't care if you're fat.

The problem is that many "fat" girls dress in an unattractive way that makes them look fat instead of curvy. Plus many "fat" girls are insecure, which makes them look unapproachable, boring, dirty, or angry.

I hope this helps...

~ Robby

G-Daz · Answer

Well generally I prefer that she weigh lower than mets basically the only thing id prefer, to be honest though weight doesn't really matter because really, what does a figure tell you?. it has nothing to do with whether or not your overweight or healthy it just doesn't say much. A girl who is 200 pounds off fat is going to look a hell of a lot different than a girl who is 200 pounds of muscle, don't let figures bother you. if you suit your weight than what's there to worry about?. According to BMI, I'm actually quite far into the overweight catagory which is kinda odd considering I don't carry any visible fat.

So in answer to your question. no weight doesn't really matter at all, I actually tend to prefer thicker curvier women and most the time they tend to be a lot heavier so it doesn't matter to me, but still it depends on the guy. don't worry about it, if a guy don't like it, find someone else haha :P

darkknight1x · Answer

It depends on how the woman looks. Some chubby women are hot and some are ugly. I'd rather be with a large woman rather than a skinny twig like Paris Hilton or the Olson twins.

If a woman is large and looks like any of the women in the links then they are fine.

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honeyltsme · Answer

For guys, it is nice to be able to NOT have to lie to you daily about your appearance. We will lie to appease you for the sake of love and relationship and family and whatnot, but it would be NICE not to.

In my advanced age I maintain a V-shaped figure, good muscle mass, good rate of metabolism. No 6-pack or crazy blobs of muscles everywhere, but very much in shape. I have the discipline to eat well and exercise to keep that up for life. The bottom line is, this should be the norm. I am in the top 10% of body appearance in my age group and I should not be.

Make it a priority to get into the top shape of your life and stay there, and the way I look at it, even if I am so pathetically off it is completely irrelevant, at the absolute very least, you would be in the top shape of your life. :-) :-) :-)

Hugs

Sasha

IHateMeganFox · Answer

HAHAHAHA! Wow guys must be very into this topic with 130 answers. I was reading the answers on here and laughing but at the same time wanting to vomit! I've been dieting on and off for 4 years and I went through a long stage of depression and gained a good amount of weight, so what? I can lose it which is what I'm working on right now. I honestly am not to worried about it, what happens when you have kids and your wife has that baby fat? What are they going to do not be attracted to her? I have no problem getting guys and I'm at my highest weight, and lots of skinny guys like me. Sure size matters for a lot of guys but for some it doesn't. All I can say is do what's best for you and screw everyone else.

Searnd_Giddon · Answer

I'll be totally honest here. I like a girl who looks healthy. What that means is she's not stick thin and looks ill but then she doesn't look like she eats way more than her body needs for her lifestyle.

Personally, I have a reasonably active lifestyle and like to stay in shape, so I'm attracted to women who also like to eat a bit healthy (not all the time) and exercise in which ever way works for them. It's a turn off if the girl does no exercise at all, it's unnatural and lazy.

And no, this doesn't mean I only go for Miranda Kerr/Jennifer Hawkins/Jessica Alba/Jessica Biel types of women. I LOVE a woman with curves :)

TeatimeZombie · Answer

We do what we do to ourselves because of the images that the media embeds into our heads about what looks good & what doesn't. In all reality, women of all different shapes and sizes are sexy/beautiful, & every woman should love themselves the way they are. In my opinion, size does not matter. As long as you're happy with who you are, who give a rats ass what anyone else thinks. Just don't be afraid to be yourself! & If a guy judges you harshly for the way you look, then they're not worth the time of day anyway. Any guy worth even being around would learn to accept you as you are.

biannnnnnn · Answer

I think MOST guys think that a girls body is all that matters. But I don't think so. Even if you have a skinny body you can still feel bad about yourself. Or the other way around. So that's why I say weight doesn't matter. As long as your healthy and you like the way you look there's no worries. Its sad but we all get jugded everyday. Its something we have to understand, its going to happen rather we like it or not. I look for quilties in person,but we even jugde other people because we go for what we see on the outside. Instead of making a wrong jugdement , we should start making the right jugdements.

3d_penguin · Answer

First off, many guys don't care all that much about weight until it hits the level of being unhealthy.  But for the most part its attitude over weight, a frumpy girl, which many over weight girls fall into, will get less attention than a vibatious girl, that's just the standard that is out there with all girls.   For every type of girl out there, fat skinny or some where inbetween, there is all types of guys that are into them, the problem is if a girl into frump mode they just give up on looking.

swizzcris · Answer

sometimes I get confused though because I'm big and some guys say I'm fat and others say I'm curvy or chubby and some make me seem like I'm overweight if I told you how much I weigh but then you looked at me you wouldn't believe me ..im kinda brolic I guess strong shoulders legs and arms what would that make me?

and weight doesn't matter it depends on the guy. a lot of jerks say fat girls can't get hot guys but uumm every guy I have ever been with or had the chance to be with have always been hot ,smart, talented and all of that .

us girls stress things way too much the guy that we are sposed to be with will like us for who we are why bother with the guys who don't matter and will eventually break our hearts?

jenny_30 · Answer

women don't care much about these, but men do. My ex dating guy, lie to me telling he was single, after months being with me he dump me by text, then I found he was always engaged, when I saw his ex on a picture she was  kind of a chubby girl, but also he was chubby. I am skinny, but in good proportion. While I was with him, he always told me he liked me a lot, but after he dump me I realize he just liked me physically and just for sex. I don't know if he really loved his fiance, I think no, because if he really loved him he would not care if she was chubby or at least respect her if he really love her... I think that when you really love someone you don't care if she is chubby and you respect him or her, and you don't cheat him or her with another person several times

beautiful13 · Answer

I am 160 lbs. And 5'1...I guess guys don't think that I am fat they tell me that I a nice thick body. And one guy said that I have body fat in all the places...But seriously doesn't matter because a long as you think that you are the matta f***en princess(confidence is key)  than you're good I not saying that you don't have to work out. I don't know for me I still think I fat so I still loosing some weight...and when you loose weight your body feels better...And also if find clothes that fit your body type..Like for example I have a curvy body like coke body figure so its hard to find blouses that have that shape and for the pants I have a big butt so I buy one size bigger for my butt.

wongt02 · Answer

From my understanding from the girls point of view, it matters. And I believe that it all stems from back to days of the simple life of attracting a suitable male so that way you can both create offspring...etc. But life is complicated now, women are up against a wide range of media that show how women are suppose to look and how their suppose to act. We as a society, as much as we don't want to admit it, treat healthy and beautiful women with VIP treatment than those who are the opposite.

Does weight matter to me? Well yeah, not as a image sense but more that I like a healthy women who can physically keep up. I don't mean for you all to be muscular, I just mean fit or at least respecting your body by eating right and exercising on a good schedule. But this is just me.

Jinmetsu_Rasetsu · Answer

To me, yes...

I was once a little sex devil that engaged in things such as kama sutra and other things such as tantra and what not (I ain't giving up all of my secrets...)... What I have found is that with size, sexual positions become more and more limited... especially my favorite, called "Winged god of eros", I would have a broken or dislocated hip if I tried that with a woman that is more than 70kg... Hell, if she were the same weight as me, (84kg athletic build martial artist) I'd have all kind of medical problems... What I learned is that with a larger woman, sexual positions are limited to spooning, missionary and "white tiger" (aka "doogy")... Quite borring if you ask me... #1 reason people say they cheat is because they are bored sexually. I get bored easilly... I never cheated because I rather take a gun and shoot myself. I don't want a reason to shoot myself, so I look for what will not bore me.

thepianist · Answer

It depends on what you mean by weight. Weight the numbers? nope. Doesn't matter. A guy is not going to pull out a scale and ask you how much you weigh. He's going to look at you and judge if you're attractive to him or not. This can be many different things. Some guys like skinny girls, some guys like girls with more meat on them. Generally, if you want to be on the safe side, just be healthy, eat right and exercise.

So... yeah. if weight = nmber? no. most likely not. plus, the number is misleading. more muscle = weigh more but you could still be very healthy.

if weight = if you look healthy/to their liking? yes.

amenah · Answer

ok so all of these guys are saying it matteres but the fact is that it should matter for health resons. you should always aim for the heavier side of your wight range because truth is women need the fat for energey. its how God desighned us. look it up! people on the heavier side of the wight range chart live longer because they have more energey stored in thir bodies. I personaly try to stay on the low side because yeah my wieght isn't because I want to be healthy its because I'm to vien... that's bad but its the honest truth.

MusicGirl135 · Answer

I think weight does matter to a point.

I want to bring up something (I didn't read all the comments so I don't know whether it was brought up already) that I have a problem with, and many others do as well. I think it's how you look, not just a number that says how much you weigh.

I'm 5'8" and weigh 172 pounds. Now, this may seem overweight, but it technically is still in the "healthy" weight BMI category. On top of that, I don't look like I weigh 172. A lot of it is muscle because I'm very active in different kinds of sports. I'm also athletically built, so I'm going to weigh more than the average 5'8" person.

I think it's mostly how you look and not what you weigh, because one of those things might not necessarily ring true about the other. One can mislead a judgment on the other.

I hope that makes sense? lol

Brian749 · Answer

girls are much more self concious about their weight and worry about their own weight much more than any guys ganna care.

i guess you could say weight matters for a guy whos only into looks. so if your going for some douche who only dates you for your looks, will prob treat you like crap, and will get rid of you after your frist pregnancy or sign of wrinkles... the answer is yes it does matter lol.

But for most guys who actualy want to have a real relationship with someone, there's a lot of other stuff on the table that is of higher priority.

scar1 · Answer

It does but every guy is different. Plenty of averagely desirably guys don't care, they are more in the face. Although some like me get wicked turned off by what they consider fat. I actually prefer girls to have no stomach, muffin top, or sluppiness (waves and such) but be as volupious as possible breast, butt, hips, smallest waist possible, legs (more so thighs). altough

most white guys are suburban and surburban guy usually like pancake and stick legs (including thighs) some time don't like big hips. most blacks and hispanic are from urban culture and there for have the same preference as me. I am actually white but grew up in small city and get look at funny all the time by white people when I mention my preference

TimeAndTimeAgain · Answer

It does matter. You can't be too fat, or we'll push you off as being unattractive and you'll lose points with a lot of guys.

When I say fat, I don't mean chubby. I mean like really overweight, like if you're over 170lbs, regardless of your height, the chances are you're probably fat. 130lbs to 160lbs almost always falls into the chubby category. Over here it'll depend more on the guy. Some guys don't like chubby girls, but lots of guy do (myself included).

But if you're under 130lbs, and you think you're fat, you're just being paranoid. You might have a bit of a tummy, but no guy that's worth it is going to care about that.

Malcom_Reynolds · Answer

I admit, I like skinny girls, always have.  That being said focussing on the scale is the wrong way to go about it.  Me I like athletic girls; they often have more muscle tone than average girls and because of that will weigh more.  That will not even be something I notice.  Do I care about weight, yes, but not the number, just the appearance.  That means you shouldn't be ashamed weighing 60 kg or whatever, my thoughts on you aren't going to change if it turns out you weight 20 kg more than I estimated.  I go by how you look.  Also there is not an ideal weight to aim for, once you're within a certain range, then you're good.  If you're at a nice size and you're standing next to your friend who's 1 dress size below you, chances are if we're comparing, we've moved on to other features.

stktder · Answer

Does weight matter? Yes it does! I'm in my fifties. When I was between my teens to later twenties, a slender woman was my turn on. I wanted her to be where I could man handle her by moving her legs anyway I wanted her. As I matured, I realized it was no longer about me but rather how WE were together in bed. I began to enjoy having a woman with more weight on her. I liked not being with that skinny skeleton of a woman, where her bones stuck into me when we had sex. Larger women became more attractive to my guy friends and me. So I guess the best saying that all women need to keep in mind, Every Dog Has Its Day.

here4you · Answer

honestly as long as you're the extreme of the two like either too fat or too skinny I'm good.

Because then you are just endangering your health.

and I think girls make SUCH a big deal about their weight. Like it's not that big of a deal, as long as you're not endangering your health you look great :) This is just an idea but what would happen if ALL the girls said I like how I look and am confident in my own body. This would essentially ruin the media's description of what a girl should look like and from now on girls wouldn't feel the need to look perfect or dress a certain way to be accepted. I mean I would rather have a girl dress the way she wants to then the way she is supposed to dress. (as long as it goes with the venue. I wouldn't want to see a girl wearing PJ's at a wedding lol)

My ideas are out there but I hope you got the message

tony8832 · Answer

I think it does big time. Not for me but for her. She is not going to feel comfortable when we make love if she feels self conscious about her weight. She is not want to go anywhere. Forget about the beach! I love curves. So unless you like watching videos at home. That's what its going to be like.

DaveMicharl69 · Answer

NO! I've been in love with my girlfriend since we were just friends in high school, & I've seen her working out & rock solid, a little chubby, & heavy enough to wear plus sizes, & I've NEVER thought of her as ANYTHING BUT BEAUTIFUL...

funny222 · Answer

Most guys prefer that your breasts stick out further than your belly.

That's the general preference because some girls are just thick, with some fat around their legs that makes them look sexy, regardless. I prefer voluptuous women, and sometimes voluptuous women have a bit of a belly, which isn't back since it mostly flattens up when they're lying on their back.

Bvroon · Answer

It really doesn't matter to me at all, I think you can be a bigger girl and still be very attractive, that and I focus on personality and if they are clean, smell nice and such things. I have been with a number of bigger girls and very much enjoyed my relationships with them both personally and sexually. Besides that if she can accept me and finds me attractive I feel I can very much do the same.

rbalaguer · Answer

For me not really but I am picky but more so towards personality. As for your statement "We always have to look good, because if were not then we will be judged." most of the judging comes from your self and how you view your selfs.

Conversations I've had with dudes concerning weight with girls has always been on the positive side and not being that big of an issue.

Theking · Answer

A little belly doesn't matter if you've got a booty to make up for it. Chubby girls with cute faces are great too. I would rather a big girl than anorexic girl anyway. It does matter, but there's guys out there that like all sizes and there's plenty that can compensate for it anyway.

dariusthomson · Answer

Yes, weight matters. Do you know why you generally don't see a really attractive and fit person with a really unattractive and fat person? Because the one person cares so much about themselves and their appearance- there's NO WAY they're going to want to see those qualities they are disgusted by in their partner.

If you're heavier, look for a heavier guy. They're obviously going to be much more forgiving about weight. If you aren't attracted to heavier guys, and are heavy yourself- you might want to think about why you're not attracted to those guys, and take the appropriate steps in your life to attract the type of partner you'll be satisfied with.

pavlove · Answer

Weight matters.  It can be overcome but it still matters and I don't think its really fair to put all the factors for self loathing on guys because girls actually have HIGHER expectations of men in terms of what a male body should look like..men have to be lean AND cut to be considered having a nice body while girls just have to lose fat in the right places.  And I think either you belong to the world that does care what other people think or the world that doesn't care what other people think so depending on where you are (figuratively) it matters.

nikolai987 · Answer

No, weight doesn't matter, it's all about personality. But I mean it is unhealthy to be overweight so that tells me that she makes unhealthy choices as well. Would I date an overweight chick? Yea if she is able to realize that she can change if she really wanted to.

imaboy · Answer

Weight does matter. Its nice to have a tall thick girl who can be athletic, keep up and defend herself without looking up to other men or even women and being easily intimidated. Its most important that she is healthy, fit, then appearance.

It makes little difference and physical attraction is hardly a factor. Most girls are pretty and fat goes away.

ScepMan · Answer

Only to a certain degree; that is, don't look ridiculously obese or anorexic. Either extreme is a turn-off, but as long as your weight is 'healthy range,' (which is a fairly wide range) you don't have to be a super-skinny supermodel. If you aren't at an extreme with regards to weight/attractiveness, then in my opinion at least it all comes down to personality moreso than weight.

ZenSpace · Answer

Yes, weight matters. It just does. Life's not fair.

Do not make yourself anorexic or anything. Because being so skinny you look like you have cancer is gross. But the truth is that guys are picky about girl weighing too much. Your waist should be skinnier than your butt, to create the "hourglass figure"

Thats what guys like.

Littletad · Answer

Yes and no. I would not leave someone for weight matters. However, I myself tend to be very healthy. I work out consistently, and I'm not asking for the same level of effort. But I would like someone who at least makes SOME kind of effort.

If someone is overweight purely for lack of exercise and sloppy eating, then yes weight really does matter. Because they lack total regard for their health.

ModifyThis77 · Answer

it depend on me but not too over weight =D

i like liter to do more fantasy stuff like while am standing holding her while she filling me up (thats hard though) and sometimes weight has something to do with her pumping motion if she is thin which liter body then it means she's fast >=D

skarpia22 · Answer

You know, every guy is different. However, if you are overweight (male OR female), and you aren't interested in working toward a healthy weight, what does this say about you? I think this is the heart of the question.

If you're not interested in working on feeling and looking healthy, that could send the message that you don't feel comfortable or confident in yourself. (By the way, the "I'm big and I'm proud" only works if it's not compensation for a low self-esteem). Guys want girls who take pride in their appearance, and who are confident in themselves both physically and psychologically.

The point: if you are wondering if your weight is the reason guys don't call, maybe it's not just your weight. Take a look at your own feelings in the mirror next time--you might realize there's more to work on than just that jiggle.

Greg_B · Answer

If she takes care of herself, is reasonably healthy, and is nice to me, then that's the "meat and potatoes" of a relationship (platonic or otherwise) but big, cuddly curves are the icing on the cake for me! :-9 And yes, women *can* be healthy and chubby at the same time. It all comes down to activity level, self confidence, and putting down the effing fashion magazines!

brunohusker · Answer

I think it's more physique than weight. I mean after a certain point weight does matter, but I am talking about severely obese people. If a girl has a good looking body, it doesn't matter what she weighs. Trust me, most guys aren't going to go after a really skinny girl with no curves at all. But also guy's don't exactly want a stick thin model. Some of them aren't even that attractive.

DanielSan · Answer

Yes. Its one of the ONLY things that matters to me.

I don't like lazy fat unmotivated greedy gluttons.

I have met many heavey girls that were cute and attractive its all about how your present and take care of yourself...personally I would date a girl that was over 170 pounds. give or take some but that's my limit I would think since I weigh 155 and I am quite slim so I can allow some leway lol

2Hunts160 · Answer

Yes and no

Man want smokin hot girl = probably wants a physical relationship And it will probably be a short term relationship too.

However in the future a man won't care much because most men want a women who will be good wifes who who will be good moms. But men do need something to catch there eye 90% of the time to want to get to know a girl.

1stblackx · Answer

I'm going to be 100% serious with this but yes weight matters.

I don't intend to offend anyone here but I couldn't bring my self to have a relationship with a bigger girl or even hook up with one. Its just the fact that you disregard your physical appearance is just a big turnoff, I have a lot of friends who I am very close with and I would be lying if I said I didn't care what they think.

yamahakazy · Answer

really I have to say no because there's so much more to a person then weight. but men to have there groups I guess you would say like so of use like chubby women some like skinny but over all if we get along with someone and like them were going to like them for who they are not there weight.

currannaaach · Answer

The actual weight doesn't matter. However, your physique does (in my personal opinion). Weight, in terms of on the scale, doesn't really matter much to me simply because of the fact that muscle weighs more than fat. There may be two girls who are both 135; one is all fat and the other is mostly all muscle. I wouldn't like the fat one, whereas I would most definitely like the muscular one.

LillyBear · Answer

I can handle a lot of flaws, but I've always been turned off by obesity.  I don't mind if a man has a little extra weight, but not too much.  Weight is just the one preference I have.  I think it okay to have this preference because unlike other flaws we have, weight is something people can control, most anyway.  I just like men too look healthy, they don't have to have a 6-pack & blazing pecs, just be healthy.  I also don't like men that anorexic, but not as many men suffer from this as women.

LonelyEmperor · Answer

Kind of...

It matters a lot if you want a girlfriend just to show off for your friends, but if you want a real partner, then it doesn't matter that much. Still, it matters, because what will make the first impression is how you look, so if you're too skinny or too fat, it could ruin some first impressions. What is important is that you look healthy lol

Leeggg · Answer

Visit 4chan and you'll see there are a lot of guys who like bigger woman (the people on that website are constantly posting hundreds of pics of what they call "chubbies"). Personally, I prefer petite woman, but in saying that they don't have to be scrawny. When the thighs start getting celulite, that's too big in my opinion.

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