It's funny. Girls just don't value the same things that guys do. Most guys insist that having a large male member, or large muscles are better. Like bigger is always better. But that originated from a guy's perspective. If you're not good at empathizing with others, then you might find it hard to believe that we really just don't give a crap as long as you're normal. Why not ask us what we actually feel is important in a guy? For me I prefer more effeminite men, so might not apply to all: it's a gorgeous face, tallish, sexy, deep eyes, gorgeous styled hair (it's ok to use a curling iron folks) and stylish clothing, and thinner butt and legs looks SO sexy in dark jeans. YUM. Oh, and a mental connection, like being a naturally good listener and having a lot of passion and common interests. Like being an HSP is kind of a requirement for me.
Overly large muscles like body builders are a turn-off. Your size is a nice medium in-between bulky and skinny, but not necessary. I'd happily trade in a buff body for a guy with a dreamy face, and deep, sultry eyes. I suppose the lower body fat can chisel your face, so it may prove beneficial in that sense.
I don't know, maybe bigger muscles are good for cushioning? Skinny guys can be a bit bony on the hugs, and fat guys are just gross. I'm serious. We just don't put as much stock into big, sweaty muscles as a guy that takes showers regularly, smells nice, and styles his hair and dresses sexy. I mean, maybe horny girls like muscular guys cause they seem more driven to have sex. I don't know, but I'm a good girl and never cared for it much. Often I've found guys that are into their muscles have a lot of testosterone, overly excited like dogs (i mean that nicely) and are kind of annoying the way they obsess about their guns as if we're just SOO turned on. It's just annoying and self-obsessed, and I hate the thought of being with a guy who really, truly thinks he's hotter than you. In fact, I don't think I've ever been turned on ONCE by pictures of a male muscular body. I'm serious. But, what I DO think is sexy is when a guy is really considerate, nice and not showy but is really good looking and just so enjoyable to talk to, expresses himself and listens enthusiastically. So then he wears a shirt at the beach but then he unexpectedly takes it off for a legitimate reason/sheer coincidence you're like, wow, wasn't expecting him to be gentle, humble AND masculine. Nice body. YUM, like unexpected bonus.
Ohhh women do the same damn thing! Spend a bunch of time on makeup, doing really fancy things with their hair, buying completely unnecessary amounts of shoes, etc.
I don't come home from work after being away for 12 hours and roll up the garage door to lift heavy weight in the summer heat so women will be attracted to me. They thought I was cute 30lbs ago. I do it because it makes me FEEL GOOD ALL DAY! That energy builds up into confidence which last I checked women love.
That and it's good for you. It lubricates the joints, works out your cardiovascular system, and makes the rest of life a hell of a lot easier.
by the way women that lift are sexy too. But to each their own 👍
@BoostedST I think you and I are building up a major misunderstanding here. I don't really get what you mean. So you're saying we do a lot of unecessary stuff? Yeah, but it's funny how you're always drawn to the hot girls. They don't get like that from disregarding all the details, including a killer pair of heels. I'm not going to say a muscular body is disgusting. That's just lying. But it doesn't carry as much sway as you think with a lot of girls. Like, some guys prefer girls who wear less makeup or less heels and stuff. But those girls are usually natural beauties and don't need much. Then there are girls who need every bit of girly makeup and accessories cause they're homely. There are gorgeous guys who have lanky bodies but I'd totally go for them than some butterface GI Joe. There are average looking guys who probably need to work out because they don't have gorgeous facial features. Personally a guy's face and vibe turns me on, not his dancing pectoral muscles.
I always feel like I'm sliding downhill when I try to explain my perspective on this and big male members. I'm afraid I don't think you guys will ever truly understand.
Haha no I understand you just fine. I'm simply contrasting what you're saying. You originally made a generalized statement that 'girls just don't care about xxxx like guys do'. Well that's my point. Women do things to make themselves feel better that have very little (sway, as you call it) with men. There's also a significant difference between what people will look at (big muscles, well endowed [insert here], material i. e. Watches jewelry clothes cars etc) and what people are actually interested in dating. I think we could agree that at some point, a trait is no longer attractive and becomes undesirable the more of it there is. And that applies to both sexes.
Most men that I know that lift regularly, including myself, don't do it specifically for female attraction. It will certainly attract some women and turn some away. That's to be expected, but again that's not why we do it. It's simply a bonus, that is all.
@BoostedST Oh ok. I think I get it. I didn't realize I made that impression when I said that. No, we do obsess over stuff that may/may not be important when it's better to have a wide smile and look approachable.
As a side note, it's really commendable that you can maintain a body like that. I guess I'm just trying to encourage the skinnier guys not to worry if they're not muscular, and to go ahead and approach us.
Ummm, where do I begin? You should try to tan evenly. When you mentioned 6 pack abs, you should take a picture of that area. With that said, you have a decent body shape.
Even if you're an Olympic hopeful for Team USA in the sport weightlifting like me? I don't think it's a waste of energy as long as you're using the muscles for something. I would agree in that you should avoid becoming a meat head, though.
You're entitled to your opinions. However, I don't regard weightlifting like bodybuilding or power lifting. There are major athletic components to it. To me, it's not a waste of time. Being given the opportunity to compete in the Olympics, even if it's in an uncommon sport like weightlifting or archery, it should be taken.
Mofo you ain't shredded. If you call yourself shredded then I must be sliced. I ain't. I don't look like a veiny penis or a ballsack. Get a spray tan to even out or something. Girls like muscular guys but most don't like bodybuilder like bodies.
Some muscle is nice. Strength is attractive. But I don't go for the body builder look. Bulging muscles are not attractive to me.
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Ok but you're not muscular you're just big. That belly is packed with fat, your arms aren't as defined as they could and that fucking tan line baby what's is you doing
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