My girlfriend won't kiss me because I chew tobacco, and wants to break up with me if I don't quit?

[Anonymous]

I've been chewing Copenhagen for the last few months or so now. I kind of kept it a secret from my girlfriend because her Grandma had emphysema from constant smoking, so she has never really liked tobacco things. Recently though she found a can of Copenhagen that I forgot about in the back pocket of a pair of my Wranglers. She asked me how long I'd been keeping this from her, and I told her a few months. She was really hurt I never told her. Now she is telling me I need to quit, or "we will have to seriously reconsider our relationship", and that I should chew gum instead. She is now refusing to kiss me too, which I think is a little extreme on her part. Just because I dip, don't mean I got a disease or something, I don't get why she don't want to kiss me. She is all over-reacting that I'm going to get gum or jaw cancer or something. It's hard for me to just quit, even though I'm 23, I am really addicted to it, so it's not that easy for me to quit. I really don't want to quit honestly, but I also don't wanna lose my girlfriend. Y'all got any advice or suggestions?

[NightNinja]

From a health standpoint I would say quit the dip. But at the end of the day it's really your decision, and what you want the most is what you should go with. If your girlfriend would be so unhappy with you chewing tobacco that she'd break up with you, that says a lot about the relationship you're in. Yes it wasn't the best thing to hide it from her, but if that's a dealbreaker for her you've got to stick with what you really want - the dip or the girl.

[candacedieker]

I think you're being a little inconsiderate, considering the circumstances of her grandmother, she's just worried about your health. If she's against it, and you love her and wanna make her happy, then quit.

All relationships make sacrifices, and I know it will be hard but it will be better for your relationship. This must be important to her.

[bansheeminx]

She loves you! You should stop because that isn't healthy. I know it's hard but if you don't make the changes now, you will really regret it when you are older.