I’ve had it my whole life. It fucks with me daily.
Here’s my brain at work:
“Everyone is watching and judging every little thing you do. The way you move, the way you blink, how you breathe, if your mouth is open or not, how you cross one leg, how your hair looks, how many to
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I was uncomfortable in social situations in HS especially if I knew few/none of the people there. As I got older, I learned to not be so self-conscious. Now, it doesn't bother me at all.
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I had it in high school though maybe not as badly as you describe. I think I only had two dates in all of high school. I did go out and do things with a small group of guy friends though and would answer questions in class if I was totally sure I knew the answer.
I didn't need meds to get past that, but just a little more time. During college I developed my social skills more and was a bit more willing to take a risk on asking girls out on date. I had a couple relationships and several other dates during college and by graduation was feeling pretty confident with dating. Not long after graduation I started dating a 27-year-old divorced woman with two kids. (I was 22 then.) So in a little over 4 years I went from being afraid to ask out high school girls to dating a fully adult woman that had been married and divorced and had kids (so obviously WAY more life and relationship experience than I had). Big change in a relatively short period of time!
Several years later, I had a job where I'd sometimes travel to various places around the world to speak at seminars in front of as many as a few hundred people and felt comfortable with that.
So certainly feeling social anxiety in high school does not mean it has to be that way your whole life. And meds aren't always required. Sometimes just time and making a little effort and taking a few risks and learning to accept a few failures is all that's needed.If i’m around people I’m comfortable with then no. But I’m not gonna go to a basketball/football/any game/event on my own. If i’m not with people i’m entirely comfortable with i’m just anxious and don’t want to be there. Also never dated or had any contact with a female beyond a platonic hug so I don't know if thats social anxiety related or me just being super unattractive I don't know.
Yes in high school and yes currently. I take a prescription SSRI for it. While it helps me to walk into a store without worry, it doesn't help with talking to women I like. I only take a small dose but don't want to increase it due to the sexual side effects.
Not really in high school. I came from a small town and it never came into play. However, once I left that small town it hit. I can't do crowds. My anxiety peeks and I start to get really aggresive about my personal space. Being in unfamiliar places with unfamiliar faces also causes the same. It runs in my family. My sister almost divorced my brother in law because he intentionally left her at a bbq where she didn't know anyone. He thought it would be a good way to cure her of her "shyness".
I've had it all my life. And I hate it. Nothing has really worked. Just been dealing with it the best I can. Thinking about trying acupuncture next..
My cure was actually working as either a server or bartender. It forces you to engage people as that's how you make your money. I'm way better for it.
I never had anxiety in school because i know how to talk to people, I do have mild depression though. This had nothing to do with my school life though.
Not social but nearly every day I have anxiety headaches :(
I STILL HAVE ANXIETY
MAYBE TRY COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPYNot really. doesn't like to be in focus of attention but I doesn't get worked up about it or stressed out, the anxiety part can't I get for some reason.
Yes I have had t all four years of high and now on my last year I am more lonely than ever
Yes. I battle more with low self esteem versus anxiety at the moment. I think it’s a fear that I believe people will have a low opinion of me.
My thoughts are those 'meds' they want to give you just wipe you out. Gone. Disgusting pills.
No i dont think i ever had that
I like the crowd of a cityyes, crippling social anxiety during school but not anymore
It's more like depression. Had it since 4th grade and it never went away.
i think in my days they called it Shy. so how are you doing now
I used to but post high school just adopted the attitude of if they don't like me it's not my problem, just going to be me
Yes, I have pretty bad social anxiety and it ruins almost everything
Yes I had it when I was s child and i still have it now and it has prevented me from dating
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