My girlfriend thinks I'm too muscular, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Its been a year that I am with my girlfriend and one year ago I also started lifting weights (and doing rugby).

Two days ago she told me I'm too muscular and she preferred it before when I meet her the first time. Its hurts to hear that because I like working out and I don't want to stop, what should I do?

There is a picture of a before and after, do you think she exaggerated? I don't think I'm too muscular, was I really better before?

Before (6 ft - 163 lbs)

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After (6 ft - 211 lbs)

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[Gianni]

Honestly my preference is the before picture. Surprising considering I love touching my babe abs. As a nutrutionist I won't recommend you doing anything drastic to lose the weight but you can do that if you want. Be careful with the amount of weight you gain even if it is muscle. You may not have the bone structure to support the added muscle and as I notice that you have a lot of mass on your chest you should try adding more cardio to your work out instead of just pumping iron or you can develop some heart and lung damage. If you work out at a gym seek a nutritionist or a dietitian to help you out.

One other thing is that your girlfriend is "supposed" to love you no matter what however the rules change if your mate no longer finds you attractive

[Asker]

Thanks for your answer!

Don't worry I have a very good cardio and my bones are very strong, my only complain is that I'm not very flexible , but this is not new, I had the same problem before.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you're too muscular. I think you lost weight and better toned. You look much better.

Maybe she feels intimidated that you look better and will go for other girls/ other girls will hit on you? I know it sounds stupid but I know girls who think like that.

I have a girlfriend who likes her husband to stay chubby/fat so he doesn't look for other girls or girls hit on him.

[Asker]

Thanks but are you sure that you have not confused the picture? because I have not lost weight but gained weight lol

[Opinion Owner]

When you tone up, even if you're at the same weight or more, you look thinner :)

[seemens]

I don't think you are too muscular, but try not to become too muscular that you look like a body builder or a wrestler. You look good. On the issue with your girlfriend she is dealing with some insecurity on her part. Men like women tend very much too hit on a lot, they will just see you and practically drool. Maybe that is y she said she like you before. Its what on the inside that count not how one look on the outside. Maybe she like you because of your looks which will be shallow.

[Nicefuture]

You are alright to me,your Not too muscular,you're fine to me.

If you lost "just" a bit of weight,you would be perfect.

[Asker]

I'm not trying to lose weight, but I'm trying to lose a bit of body fat and right now :)

[Nicefuture]

Yea,whatever you call it,you know you need to lose a bit in your stomach and maybe other places,dont be insecure about it,your girlfriend is shallow and she shouldn't put you down that way Anyways don't listen to her just listen to yourself and see what you like And feel comfortable with and what is best for you.

[joshuadwa]

Looks like its time to cut bro. You been bulking the last year?

It's commonly accepted that one can gain .5 pounds of lean muscle a weekm which is 2 pounds a month which is 24 pounds a year. you have gained 48 pounds in the past year. So roughly half of it is fat. It will probably actually be less than that though after you factor in noob gains (You gain more than .5 a week when you just start) But the point remains you have put on a lot of fat.

You should cut, and that way you will lean out so your girl can have the lean tone slimmed look she perfers and you can keep lifting and getting stronger and more muscular

[Ezmotts]

Screw her man, stick to what you like. If she doesn't like it that you're bettering yourself, then she can leave the relationship.

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bIutQTWr4ZQ

[Anonymous]

get rid of that selfish bitch, if i love a girl im gonna keep loving her even if she gets chubby (usually after the first baby)

[Anonymous]

I agree, but I think you'd look best around 180 or so, a healthy medium.

(:

[Anonymous]

you looked better before