What is the best age for pregnancy?

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I'm 19 just married to my husband. I want to know what is the best age to have baby should it be in the earlier years or after. Which one is better for healthy baby and for my health.

m1tch3ll · Accepted Answer

My mum gave birth to me when she was 19, then my brother 2 years later. even though my mum was a single mother when she had both me and my little brother, it was for a reason, i understand rn you absolutely believe your husband is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and is gonna be a good influence on your kids. im not saying he isn't, i have no idea what the relationship is like nor is it my right to know, but having children at such a young age is extremely dangerous, it wasn't until just after my little brother was born that my mum realised my biological father was not the right person for her and her children. Which led her to single motherhood. While marriage is wonderful and you should be proud to be married. rushing straight to children is a guaranteed one way trip to a very hard life. For example, on top of being a single mother, my mum worked 3 different part-time jobs because she wasn't able to university and achieve any sort of degree/begin a career, the only financial plan she had was to make sure me, my little brother and her can survive off of what little she got. on top of that, with no contact with family other than her sister, she had to take a loan for a car, which she calculated 3 years after selling that car she would have paid over 100k for that car (it was a black suzuki swift) eventually she landed a job at an insurance company working as hard as she could to get away woth the same amount of money per week as the 3 part time jobs she worked (although i believe during the start she still worked another job) before getting a full time job there and landing a role as a manager. by this point she wouldve been around 23-25. she then used the spare money from the job to go to a beauty therapy school, at around that time she met her now husband. she excelled at beauty school - despite missing multiple classes in order to take care of me and my little brother. luckily, the man she met was willing to help her with money, and babysitting me and my little brother. she began full time work and became the manager at that place she worked at (she's a really good manager and mum). somehow she went 19-26 as a complete single mother with nothing but hopes and dreams. me and her frequently talk about the age im allowed to go to be a dad, she said the minum age is 30 or if i have a stable income and have developed a good career. for a couple that is married very young, i feel that it would be good to wait around 8 years ik itll be a long waot but it will be worth it and your kids will be much more likely to have much more stable lives. (ofc I don't know how your lives are going rn, pls do not take offence to anything I've said, I've only aimed to give some good advice based on experience)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd say it depends less on age and more on things like those below:

It's worth noting as well you maybe able to support one child but we'll there are still chances of multiple from 1 pregnancy.

You have a healthy and secure relationship and it's not an attempt to rescue the relationship.

You have the financial security in which to be able to have a child.

You've talked about if one of you plans to stay home and raise it and if so who. And if you can afford that.

Your both aware of how you wish to raise it in terms of religious beliefs. And have discussed any conflicting things with your partner. Can be religion can be vegan or non-vegan. It's important to talk about.

You have suitable housing and space for it.

Bethany22 · Accepted Answer

At your age, there are many reasons why it's worth while to wait until one year of marriage before trying for a baby. First of all, why don't you use the first year to have all kinds of fun having sex? I'm sure your husband would agree. Secondly, read all of the relationship help books on how men and women communicate differently, in order to be sure that the two of you aren't going to divorce because of something that you could have resolved if you had had a bit more insight. Thirdly, you're at your Prime now for having kids, so waiting one year won't hurt you at all. Better to have kids under age 25, but only if you're both mature enough. Some people still aren't mature by 25, meaning it has to be a conscious act to find out how to be the best wife you can be.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There is no best age. The age you fall pregnant really depends on when your body will allow you to fall pregnant, If you can even fall pregnant. Most women don't know they are infertile until they start trying for a baby.

As for which age is better for a healthy baby, many women have given birth in their 40's and had perfectly healthy babies. Young women have also had babies who had a disability or who have sadly passed away.

No age can determine if your baby will be healthy or not. You can be young and fit and tragically have a baby who is not okay. I'm an older woman almost 20 years older than you and I just had my first child and my baby was perfectly healthy.

laurieluvsit · Answer

That is a great and 'wise' question depending on the choice you make.

To me this question is not about physical health. That would become an issue if you wait until your 40's + to bare a child.

What is in question mostly now is the long term mental health of you and the baby.

I would wait until you have been married at least three years and been through at least one knock down drag out fight with your husband.

This will tell you who your husband really is and if the marriage is going to last.

Statistics show that children from broken homes suffer the most mental anguish and end up in dysfunctional relationships of their own. Many even end up in prison.

If you ignore this caution now, you won't should this all come true, but then it's too late.

Good luck!

IslaTheWitch · Answer

There is no such age. Everything depends on your physical and mental condition. And your partner's.

Pregnancy takes nine months. To recover, doctors say at least a year is needed. But a child is a commitment for years. So, plan your career accordingly.

I had two older kids quite early (I was 18 and 20 years old)—the youngest when I was 30. I didn't have any specific problems, and childbirth was relatively easy, even if I'm rather small.

However, I was ambitious and committed to finishing my studies. I put a lot of effort into being attractive in the job market. So, even having kids at a young age, before my career started, didn't damage my plans.

4ngelic · Answer

19 is too young, wait at least until like 22 (but even that's still too young). ideally though maybe late 20s, since on one hand your still peak fertility/low risk delivery and health problems to do with pregnancy, but your also much more mature and capable of taking care of kids, you have more money, and you got to really enjoy your 20s before that too

SquareWave · Answer

Sounds like you might be trying to conform to a religious cliché (get married young, have babies as soon as possible). But jesus, give it a couple years to get to know each other before a baby comes and becomes the focus. Having a baby will strain the relationship because it can be stressful and much harder to have one-on-one time, go on dates, be intimate, etc. At your age, there's no rush.

Anemone978 · Answer

I would say wait at least 2 years to see if you two really get along and love each other then have them anytime you are both ready..

LazerBean · Answer

18 through 34 are the ages recommended by medical professionals. Outside of those ages, the risk of complications and genetic defects in the child increases. You can still have healthy children outside of those ages, of course, it's just the risk that increases. I think it also depends on how healthy you and specific are, as well.

A_Bell · Answer

I started my first pregnancy at 25. It's a good age. Still fertile and healthy, but mature enough to make a good parent.

Younger is better than older in general, though. Once you're over 30, time is running out.

Simslover92 · Answer

20s is ideal physically but mentally and financially is in your early 30s.

AliceGregory · Answer

I got pregnant at 20 and my body handled it phenomenally.

rachel776 · Answer

15-20 is the best age for your body, 30 is the best age for being mature enough to raise a child

Anonymous · Answer

Why don't you enjoy each other first for several years before you bring a baby into your lives?

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Any time from 18 to menopause, which I understand is when you can no longer conceive (by wholly natural means).

HelpfulWoman · Answer

you're 19? ughhhhh the creepy vibes from this. Anyway, the best age is when you're ready. Biologically anytime between puberty and menopause...

Apple1996 · Answer

Wait till your 20s. I had 2 teen pregnancies. They are rougher on the body compared to in your 20s.

YAsQuen · Answer

19-22 is the best 23-26 is almost as good (like almost no differnce) after that its getting meh increased autism and birth defect risk

MrShaun · Answer

Anything before 13 is way too early and after 60 becomes questionable -- although it seemed to work out okay for Abraham's wife.

Anonymous · Answer

just wait. getting married that young, you may end up divorced in a few years. i'm just saying, statics are not good for getting married at that age.

LOGESHKUMAR · Answer

Wait till you reach 20years then it would be pretty healthy..

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Ur age is perfect.. pls go ahead

jshm2 · Answer

Depends on your wealth and health.

Al_Musafir · Answer

19 is just fine.

dreamstar72 · Answer

After you are married for about four years.

Anonymous · Answer

Late 20's to mid 30's.

Staximus · Answer

From about 18 to 28

shades777 · Answer

80 years old, powdered milk saves the planet

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