How do I become a better me? Physically and Mentally or Emotionally ( whichever one it is )?

[Bevelyquen]

Does anyone have any tips on glowing up. I wanna be a better me physically and mentally. First thing I wanna gain weight. A healthy weight, I’ve been really skinny my entire life and I would always be called stick and stuff and I hate it, and I wanna eat more but most of the time my body is just not hungry or if it is then I can’t eat a lot, I get full very quickly. Another problem is I’m afraid of what people will think. People will definitely notice even if I gain a little weight and I don’t want people asking me if I gained weight, I would hate that. Tips on hair growth, skincare products/routine, longer lashes, depression, being more motivated, more focused, working out, facial structure, eating healthier, ( I don’t like vegetables ) vaginal health stuff like that. Ik this is a lot but I’m tired of being told I’m lazy and don’t do anything or ( I’ve never actually been told I’m ugly but I feel I am ) I’ve tried makeup but I don’t think I have the face for it, it just looks bad, maybe I’m just doing it wrong but yk, anyways yeah I just wanna be a better person for myself that’s it. Anything will help. Thank you. Also I have this really dark like mark in the center of my bottom lip and I don't know how to get rid of it, I’ve exfoliated my lips and it’s still there. Any tips on that too? This post is all over the place I apologize.

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Well for the weight thing, my husband used to have that exact problem. What he did b4 it got fixed was work out to increase appetite & pace himself while eating (like take 30 minutes to eat, taking few minute breaks and drink cold water the last half so the full feeling would go away for a minute). It didn't work a lot, but it did work a little.

& working out both of us helps mental health like boosting confidence & happiness (literally boosts serotonin I think), tho there's definitely a line between working out so you feel good and working out to the point you feel worse bc u dread it and hate it. So if you do try that, make sure u start w/ a workout you can actually do and don't feel like shit afterwards. Maybe a short like 10 minute one if uve never worked out b4, so it doesn't feel like a huge chore. Then add more when/if you want to.

& for feeling ugly, honestly the only things that helped me w/ that was 1 not looking at myself very much, & 2 pretending to be super confident & cocky lol. It changed my mindset from making exaggerated negative comments to making exaggerated positive ones, so i just started seeing the positive more. Now I still don't look at myself much bc I know I'll be critical if I look for too long, but I can take a selfie or do makeup in the mirror and like what I see for that few minutes. I can believe when my husband compliments me & not think he's just being nice.

There's still bad days, prolly always will be, but the biggest thing u can do is the little steps. Even if u just decide to take a short walk every day, if that makes u feel good & it gets ur body active, that's a good step. & even if it doesn't work some days that's okay. Assume it will work again tomorrow, bc it prolly will if u don't stop.

[Anonymous]

I know what you mean about being skinny I've been skinny my whole life my family used to tell me I need to eat more but that never helped I think you probably have like I do a high metabolism. It's only been since I turned 17 that I've gained a few pounds and I think as you get older you will too. I know what you mean about worrying what people think about you I've gotten better at not worrying so much about it as I used to. I think you need to gain more confidence about how you feel about yourself overall. I suffered from really low self confidence and low self esteem I still do at times but I'm working on it.

[Bevelyquen]

Thank you sm, I appreciate this I’ll try and work on it

[Opinion Owner]

Your very welcome!

[blueonblack22]

About “gaining weight”. Girls your age are extra hyper sensitive about your body types. That’s normal. But chances are you are really overthinking it.

But if you have an extra high metabolism consider that a huge blessing. It will slow down when you get older yet you will be able to stay thin relatively easily.

Don’t eat junk food for the sake of putting on weight. Really bad idea. Even if you do gain some weight you wanted it’s unhealthy for you. It won’t make you good despite whatever stupid fads are out there.

If you really want to get thicker then get into resistance weight training and look to put to put on lean muscle.

Heavy squats especially will help thicken up your legs in much more attractive way. You will have to eat more carbs and protein to keep the lean muscle but trust me a thick yet athletic lady is much more attractive/confident vs a lady who has extra weight and does nothing.

Your HS most likely has a weight program. Sign up for it.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

It sounds like you need to find something to be proud of, you're wanting to make all these changes because you feel negative about certain aspects of your being, but you should find/figure out what you're positives are because I'm sure there are plenty.

[Bevelyquen]

Yes thank you I’m realizing that looking back at the post, I don’t really like anything physical about myself and it’s really hard for me to find some

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

You're smart enough to ask a mature question, and you have many years left of development, so don't harp on yourself physically or mentally 😊

[Bevelyquen]

Thank you for being so nice some people on here are kinda mean but I appreciate you being helpful in a non rude way

[TheGuyYouCrave]

Just read the title. Too long.

Journal, you write, articulate yourself better.

So the question. E. g. Stop looking for answers here, and look for answers within.

Why?

Because you don't know yourself until you introspected.

So lets get into how you can improve yourself:

Meditation (not going to explain)

Work out consistently

Eat healthy

Basic s*** people will tell you but instead, you actually doing it.

And not being a b**** and let up.

Don't give up, rather, start changing your environment.

The people you are with, the music, the food, the things you have in your life.

Remove it all that is not conducive to your health.

Too extreme?

But you asked this.

You glow up by not indulging in something excessively as well, e. g. sex

The more a female gives herself to others, the more damaged she will be psychologically, (notomention damaged pussy)

[DextroShade]

You are better off being thin; if you want to gain weight, make it muscle and not fat. The people insulting you for being skinny are likely fat whales who are jealous of you. Also, don't waste money on nails, lashes, and all that fake shit just to compete with vapid women who have this crap. Men, the only people whose opinion on female beauty actually matters, don't care about your lashes, nails, or shoes.

[Bevelyquen]

Thank you, you’re right about the first part. As for the second part I don’t think what men think about female beauty is really important. If I wanna wear lashes and nails and stuff like that I can cause I like it but thank you though I appreciate it.

[Meropatrick]

I think u yourself dont know what do u want or how to feel better about urself. That is why ur post is all over the place as u said. U want to fill a void. No amount of care would make u feel enough. U need to work on your self image then go from there. U r still young 15. Glowing up wouldn't happen now. Ur character and looks r still in the making

[Bevelyquen]

I don’t know how to do that I’m a mess right now and I don't know how to manage it. It’s stressful

[MorningDew90]

Maybe wait. Teenagers have a speedy metabolism. But it will change after puberty. And be gentle with your body. You will need it your whole life.

[Singing_Hollow]

Get a mentor/ life couch. Someone who can assist you. Once your mental state is sorted, you can better think about physical etc

[Bethany22]

Some people like thin women, so first, stop being insecure. If your body can't handle more food, then don't force it.

[love_conquers_lust]

Check your BMI to see if you’re too skinny. Consult your soctor if you thing you have a weight problem. You’re still growing and have a higher metabolism. Your priorities should be academic.

[love_conquers_lust]

*doctor

[Anonymous]

You're like 15 years old. What you have to do is get your highschool diploma.

[Bevelyquen]

I want to better myself.

[Exterminatore]

Through Jesus.

[Bevelyquen]

Any tips on how to get closer to God?

[Exterminatore]

Reading the Bible is the first step. Scripture says this:

“Come close to God and He will come close to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.”
‭‭James‬ ‭4‬:‭8‬ ‭NASB2020‬‬

Reading the Bible will cause you to have a deeper knowledge of God. By this you draw closer to him, and he responds by drawing closer to you.

Obeying God’s word is another way.

“But He gives a greater grace. Therefore it says, “God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble.””
‭‭James‬ ‭4‬:‭6‬ ‭NASB2020‬‬

Those whom humble themselves before God in obedience he gives grater grace to. Grace meaning unmerited favor. Obedience is expected. There is no reward for doing what we ought to anyway, however God will give rewards and favor to those who humble themselves before him because he is exceedingly kind and gracious to us.

Going to church is another way. There you will find others whom love God. There you will support others as they serve and obey God and likewise they will encourage and support you. You will grow together with them and this will also result in you growing closer to God.

“¶Therefore the Lord longs to be gracious to you, And therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you. For the Lord is a God of justice; How blessed are all those who long for Him.”
‭‭Isaiah 30: 18

Praying. Speaking to God. Telling him all you care to. However do not be surprised when he answers you back.

“For, you people in Zion, inhabitant in Jerusalem, you will weep no longer. He will certainly be gracious to you at the sound of your cry; when He hears it, He will answer you.”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭30‬:‭19‬ ‭NASB2020‬‬

“Your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” whenever you turn to the right or to the left.”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭30‬:‭21‬ ‭NASB2020‬‬

I would not expect to hear God audibly however. He will prick your conscience when you sin to admonish you that you are doing wrong. He will give you instruction through his

[Exterminatore]

Word. He will speak to you in your heart and say: do this, do that, everything will be ok, I’m in control. He will bring his word to mind when you are unsure what path to take in life.

“Delight yourself in the Lord; And He will give you the desires of your heart.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭37‬:‭4‬ ‭NASB2020‬‬

Many misunderstand the above scripture. They think it means whatever they desire in their heart, God will give them. Not so. What the above means is when you have a relationship with God he will put the desires in your heart he wants you to have in order to act on them and serve him. Should you find you heart desires to do sin, this is not placed there by God. However should you find you desire husband, or have skill God granted you excellence at, or a passion for a particular subject, those God probably put there. He made each of us with the general desire to serve and worship him and to enjoy him forever, but to every individual he gave unique passions and desires specific to you to act upon in his service. Some he makes butchers, others candle stick makers, yet others bakers. Some he gives a passion for animals and others a passion to learn a new language. He does this as that’s his guiding you into how to serve him. When you delight yourself in him, he gives you a passion for one or more ways to serve him. Whether that be to sweep streets, or become a doctor it’s specific to the individual. It’s the calling he has for you in this world.

These are just s few ways to draw closer to God.