Are women turned off by guys weaker than them?

[hustlerbro123]

I'm a 20 year old male at 5'8" weighing 140 lbs.

Currently, I am able to barbell bicep curl 70 lbs for 1 rep max, tricep rope pulldown roughly 65 - 72.5 lbs, max bench press at 155 lbs for 1 rep max, and squat at about 125 lbs for 1 rep max.

I watch a lot of Youtube, and I'm presuming that most women can bench around 225 lbs and most men can bench around 315 lbs.

Which brings me to my next question. As someone who is below the average man, would a woman get turned off by a man weaker than her?

[Anonymous]

Normal women want a man who is stronger than they are, and will be turned off by a weaker man.

Just keep training though, don't worry about it. Your numbers aren't bad for a beginner at all, you're way over-estimating what most people could lift. Very few men can bench 225, never mind women.

I'd advise you to find a good lifting routine, a proper one, if you want to build strength and muscle quickly. You're doing the exercises that most beginners do, and leaving out other important exercises.

First I'd suggest checking out 5x5 strong lifts. This is the routine to follow if you're a beginner trying to make fast strength gains: https://stronglifts.com/5x5/

If you've already been lifting for a little bit and struggling to increase the weight in that routine however, the next step is to try the 5/3/1 routine:

https://www.setforset.com/blogs/news/531-workout-program

[hustlerbro123]

How do my numbers compare to the average man? How about the average woman?

[Opinion Owner]

The large majority of men at the gym can barely bench 155. Many lie about their numbers. The squat is probably lower than average.

But, what does it matter? Keep lifting and increase those numbers.

Most likely you haven't been following a proper training programme, just like most beginners and really most people who go to the gym. 5x5 stronglifts and 5/3/1 are legit, proven routines. Mark Rippetoe's "Starting Strength" is also a good routine for a beginner.

[WindAtMyBack]

Your numbers are fine, probably above average.

"most women can bench around 225 lbs and most men can bench around 315 lbs."

There is no way in hell that the average man or woman can bench that much. Not even close. Only serious weight lifters could bench that much. Not even an average athlete can bench that much without a lot of work. If you bench 155, that is probably above average.

[hustlerbro123]

When you say the numbers are above average, are they above average for women's standards or for men's standards?

[WindAtMyBack]

I think 155 is probably above average for men. I think most athletes could do that, even if they never worked with weights. But I think most non-athletes could not bench that much, especially if it's free weights.

If someone was new to weights and didn't know how much they could lift, I'd recommend a spotter for free weight over 100 pounds. Even 100 might be dangerous for someone who didn't know how much they could lift.

[SueShe]

Why are you guys so anxious, even panicked by such trivial things as your looks, your height, your body, your penis size and other non relevant physical attributes.

Do you think that the 1.5+ billion adult women in the world really do care about all those kind of unimportant aspects of a person? You men are the ones that panic, not us. Why can't you accept who you are and always want to be someone else.

No, most women are not turned off by superficial things about men. We care about the real important things such as character and personality.

You have to start to relax and by the way, you should also ask GaG to change your age as you seem to have a conflict about what you state and what your bio says.

[hustlerbro123]

Oh yeah just saw that. I purposely chose an arbitrary birth date because a librarian from my high school said you should never give out your actual birth date to any website because of privacy or something.

[Joshydavid25]

"Why are you guys so anxious, even panicked by such trivial things as your looks, your height, your body, your penis size and other non relevant physical attributes."

You're actually kinda right.. I mean I've seen a lot of couples and most times that guy doesn't look particularly impressive.. But... At the same time it is enough women who demand those things from guys.. Otherwise a lot of guys wouldn't worry about it..

[SueShe]

@Joshydavid25 Do you honestly think that Mrs. Chang, aged 36 of Shanghai and married to Mr. Lee did pay any attention to his penis or that Mr. Mbwanga checked if Mrs Opodo of Botswana had DDD size breasts?

Of course not. It is only in the US that people are so superficial.

[Joshydavid25]

I agree.. Dating in the West is far from the best, because people are too superficial, and feel like they have a lot of choices.. When they don't.. But as you can see, even on here, women compliment each other all the time.. Whereas you see them say a lot that men are lacking.. If a guy sees that all the time.. Of course he'll become self conscious.. Men have beauty standards as well..

[sage2021]

I would prefer the guy I'm with to be stronger and surly not weaker than me. He would have to be stronger than I am, because I'm not very strong.

[Chayce]

I don’t know how long you’ve been lifting for but those numbers are not that good, at least the squat. My max was 200 for 2 reps when I was 140 a few years back & even that’s a shitty pr. But the numbers you are talking about for women & men benching 225 & 315 respectively, a majority of men & women are NOT pressing those numbers. Those are numbers you get after training for a while.

[hustlerbro123]

Yeah I've only really started serious lifting since the summer. But out of curiosity, are the numbers at least better than average by women's standards?

[Chayce]

The bench isn’t that bad. It’s above your weight which indicates strength. Keep training & stay consistent and do it for the health benefits before you do it for the women. It’s the number 1 anti-depressant in the world, & will keep you disease free.

[Joshydavid25]

"I watch a lot of Youtube, and I'm presuming that most women can bench around 225 lbs and most men can bench around 315 lbs."

The average person (man or woman) can barely life their body weight.. Let alone well above their body weight.. 315 is an elite level lift for men and 225 for women.. You're fine.. You're lifting above your body weight already.. Just keep at it.. Not to mention you haven't even hit your prime physically yet.. Plus, a lot of women like slender guys.

[Sonorous]

I think women prefer guys stronger than them on average. Or at least guys that look like they're stronger than them.

And also calm down, most women can barely do a normal pushup let alone bench over 200lbs 💀

[hustlerbro123]

Do the numbers I provided look like they're stronger than the average woman?

[Sonorous]

Definitely. The average woman isn't like the average man. So even the average man is stronger than the average woman without even having to lift. If you do lift, then even better. But the most important thing is to just look & move like you're strong enough to defend her & yourself & also live a healthy life.

[hustlerbro123]

How about the average man? How do the numbers compare to the average man?

[Sonorous]

No idea but as long as you can pick up the groceries without injuring yourself I'm sure women wouldn't care how much you can lift unless they're also into the gym 🤣

[Anonymous]

Lot of women do wish to have a strong man , but you're young and you still lot of time
I am sure you'll be playing with 70lbs next year

[Anonymous]

Yes they are