Do women really care if a man is fit or obese when it comes to sex?

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

Simple question... No? Face it a 300 pound person is not going to do as well as a person as the same age but being only 180-200 pounds. I often wonder if the woman would be left in doubt once to large man had run out of steam and could not go any further trying to catch his breath. Let alone being the one under him...

[TenderFantasy]

Man, I guess I am in the minority lol. My ex was in the obese category weighing in at 250lbs on the scale when we weighed him. I didn't really see his weight I guess because I was more blinded by trying to make a relationship (at my age) work this time around and his face wasn't all that bad looking, otherwise I really wouldn't have. I thought of him as this fat teddy bear like thing lol. Little did I know he was going to be one of the meanest, cruelest exes I'd ever have come across. Maybe I was just hoping he would be nice and committed and loving, but yes, now I realize that even FAT people can be assholes lol. Annoying and selfish too.

I did have a problem with him going in my car at times, I was worried it wasn't going to be even on the road and, even though we never got to have sex, we both knew that me being on the bottom would just hurt me a lot at only 104 lbs!

That relationship only lasted about 5 months, with him dumping me because I had a problem with his father being an idiot with me handing a knife at me (sharp side first and near my head!) to try and cut that crusty pizza that he ordered for his birthday and it was next to everyone too at the table.

[MissBoogus]

When I first met my boyfriend he was so skinny and looked like he had cancer. He was in a bad situation and couldn’t eat. His hips knocked into mine, there was nothing to grab onto, his body felt kinda small and frail. The sex was still great because I loved him, but oh my a few years of eating healthy and he doubled in weight. I hate to admit but the new sex just can’t compare 😩 it’s so nice, he’s so big. I swear his dick got thicker too after getting healthy. A few years later he got into bodybuilding. And it just kept on getting better lol bigger the better in my opinion

[JHAYES317]

Lol bigger the better that’s pretty toxic

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

Yeah skin and bones no good.

[smne35]

Please tell me that this is a facetious take. Do women really care if dude is in good shape to perform? If he's not performing up to satisfying her and you ain't going to be doing her much longer he's going to go out there and find a man that's going to satisfy her. That's real! Yep, a woman cares. I mean if you hear a nice fine little little woman. Nice figure. Say 120 lb you want some 350 lb dude coming on you who's junk can barely get in. You come on just be realistic when a woman. This ain't women of the 1800s and 100 years ago. Who just take it. Be frustrated. Don't be satisfied women today. They're not satisfied man. They're going to the minute you get up off their ass. They're going out there and get satisfied. You have to be on your job man. 24 hours with these women today. You snooze you lose. Can't be slipping man or somebody else will be slipping up in. That's real

[D_Bone_Steak]

I think it does matter... I used to be fat and now I'm doing a lot better.

Chicks didn't do shit like grab my chesticles and really look at me the same way they do now when I was fat. Fat me never got his arms rubbed simply because she wanted to feel my fat (instead of muscles).

Now a lot of chicks will lie and say they'd feel the same... trust me bro... there is a fucking difference. Women will break rules for alpha, and they make rules for beta. It just is what it is.

[sage2021]

Some guys that weigh too much and have sex and he's on top, they almost seem like I should call 911 on them.

That kind of breathing can be very scary for the girl or woman. I it scared me. That was one time and never again.

[Kelly6]

@sage2021
Had that issue few times and learned my lesson

[wolfcat87]

A major problem with obese men is the fat pad at the base of their penis makes their penis smaller as they get fatter. So, a man with an average penis can easily go from 5 inches down to only 3 inches or less by 300lbs. Most women won't be happy about that. They also tend to lack stamina in bed, and if they have a big belly it makes it harder to kiss them.

One of my exes was pretty fit in high school and pleasurable in bed, but he doubled in size after high school. He went from 185 lbs to around 350 lbs. He was still handsome to me, but his abilities in bed went from 80/100 to 0/100. Even when he lost 50 lbs and went down to 300, his ability int he bedroom did not improve. His current wife does all the work in bed now and just sucks him off and it's over. That's it. Talk about boring and unfulfilling!

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I do care. Visual attractiveness is still a factor for women (even if it's not quite as much as it is for men). I'm not saying he has to be a supermodel, but he's got to be at least in decently good shape. If I'm being honest, I wouldn't date an obese guy. I know it'll sound kind of mean, but having sex with a guy that obese would be kind of a huge turn off

Also, on the vain side, seeing your man naked and in shape is kind of hot. Feeling my boyfriend's muscles while he's inside you is pretty much unbelievably sexy. It's certainly not the main reason why I'm with him. There's much more important things. However, his muscles are still pretty awesome.

[_piotr]

Good to know that there are some women attracted visually to men. But these are rare exceptions. True gems. Good for your boyfriend/husband.

[brightpapaya]

@_piotr I wouldn't say it's an exception. Most women have physical preferences like men do.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@_piotr That's not a rare exception at all. People (even animals) are more attracted to attractive mates. That's literally what the word means. Anyone that says they don't find more attractive people more attractive than ugly people is lying to you or lying to themselves.

[TenderFantasy]

Damn, you people here are mean. It's not like people can always control their weight. Sometimes, it's simply genetics that determines how someone weighs, and obviously what they look like! Also, age and health! Also, if someone didn't win in the looks department, then that means they don't deserve to be loved anymore, or have a family of their own? ! Wow just wow.

And would it KILL you guys to actually READ and UPVOTE me and my answers sometimes? ? ! Lol.

[_piotr]

@TenderFantasy There are already many girls who do not care how guy looks. I am not interested by them. I want my girlfriend to find me physically attractive or I can be alone. It is not mean. It is my preference.

[_piotr]

A fact that someone can not control his weight is irrelevant.

[JHAYES317]

I mean that’s less shallow than wanting a guy to have a an average or big dick if it’s small, since at least he can get fitter he can’t get a bigger dick

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

@TenderFantasy I was 270 lb. I ate right exercised and now I'm 210.

[Opinion Owner]

@TenderFantasy I'm not trying to be mean, but I am trying to be honest. There are lots of great people who are overweight. That doesn't mean they're now physically attractive. I'm not saying they don't deserve to be loved by anyone or have a family of their own. It's just that a lot of people aren't going to find them physically attractive. There's a lot of people who are overweight who find other people with similar weight levels to be with.

I hope this doesn't sound harsh, but they're not entitled to having other people find them attractive just because they're nice. That goes along with the whole 'I'm such a nice guy, so I'm entitled for you to date me' kind of mentality.

I'm also not saying that looks are the #1 most important thing (they're not), but they are a factor.

[Opinion Owner]

@TenderFantasy Also, since this question is specifically related to sex, I've got to say that sex with my boyfriend would be a lot less hot if I was touching fat rather than muscle. His muscle is by no means the best thing about him, but when we're having sex putting my hands all over his muscles is pretty hot, and putting my hands over fat wouldn't be. I think (if they're being honest) most every other woman would agree

[Anonymous]

I do care. That's why I'm still alone for this long. My first boy friend was a model, but he's from other culture. Where I live, men don't hit a gym as in America or Europe. 98% are too skinny or too fat. I don't find them attractive at all. No idea which one is better. Overweight men sweat a lot and they stink. Lanky ones are meh. Nothing to look at.

I like men with good proportion of muscles. My personality even say I'm visual. It's really important to me. The face... I don't care much. But for the stong body, it says a lot. At least they put effort and take time to try to look good.

[JHAYES317]

98% of men? Oof good luck with that…

[Opinion Owner]

@JHAYES317 But I believe people can improve themselves. Frankly, I found a way to find decent ones haha. Just go to gyms, there must be some.

[JHAYES317]

Well sure but I think you need to be more flexible with what body types are acceptable to you. I agree with not wanting an anorexic or obese man…but being slightly overweight shouldn’t be a dealbreaker

[Opinion Owner]

@JHAYES317 Right. I agree. Well, first of all, I have to find a man who's interested in a serious relationship with me first. I hope my lifestyle would inspire him to workout and take a good care of himself then.

[desert_rose666]

For me no. I literally had a man that looked out of shape and was wayyy more potent and better when it comes to sex compared to some fit guys I dated.
I think it's all about passion someone has for you that makes sex good/bad. I know some fit looking robots who might have a good technic and are so cold focused on performance that you feel zero passion and zero emotion you simply don't enjoy with them.

[ProbablyClueless]

Well yeah... for a lot of heavy people, it's a statement about how the guy approaches his life. He's heavy because of decisions he actively makes every day. Even if sexual performance isn't the first thing on the woman's mind she's going to want to be with a man who can keep up with her lifestyle. Lots of heavy guy aren't living active lifestyles, which is what leads them to be heavy.

[SotiCoto]

A man isn't meant to be soft. Being hard is pretty much the #1 requirement that women would have of him...
But then if you think about it, muscle isn't going to make a man any less obstructive and heavy than fat does. If anything it would technically make him heavier.

[lungcapacitor]

I would say yes in the majority of cases. Mostly all of the women I have been with have really appreciated that I have been fit and have the stamina to give them a good time so they don’t have to do all the work.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends. 300 pounds looks different on everyone. I don't mind a little bit of chub but I'm not into morbidly obese people.
I don't mind a bad endurance because I can ride.

[JHAYES317]

You can’t ride it if it’s under 3 in though…

[Opinion Owner]

But the question is not about tiny dicks... It is about fat dudes.
I don't mind a bigger guy, I do mind a small dick.

[JHAYES317]

Unfortunately for you, men can’t change their dick size…but they can lose weight. So you’re gonna have a lot of shallow relationships if a big dick is a necessity for you since only about 2% of men have big dicks.

[Opinion Owner]

Did I say it needs to be big? Just not tiny.
We all have preferences.
And I'm not that shallow like you make me out to be, I don't mind a big nose, nor stretch marks, I date short kings and I do date chubby men.
I just enjoy nicely sized dicks 😂
Like I enjoy brown eyes, a kind personality, a man who's open with his feelings and a man who's extroverted.
Nobody whines about all those preference even when things like being extroverted can't be changed our taught.

[JHAYES317]

What’s a short king though…because actually statistically short men are 5’3” and below…5’7” - 5’9” guys aren’t short they are average. Also, an average dick is 4 - 6 in…yet some women think anything below 5 is tiny which is absurd…actually tiny is below 3…

[Opinion Owner]

I'm Dutch. Dutch people are tall and have big dicks 😂 Our average is about 6 inches which is perfect to me, it does not need to larger than 6 or 7 inches. Otherwise it becomes painfull.
And length wise I'm 5'9 and guys who are 5'6 are definitely short kings compared to me. The average man in the Netherlands is 6 feet, the tallest man I've ever met was 7 feet.

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

6 inches that's small. Try 7" to 8"

[JHAYES317]

Just looked it up…in the Netherlands the exact middle would be 6.14 in, so with a standard deviation of 15% of its length, average dick size would be about 5.3 - 7.0 in, so technically even if it’s below the exact middle number it can still be “average”. Below average would be like 4.3 - 5.2 where it’s a little smaller than average but not enough where it’s noticeably small, noticeably small starts at 4.2 in and below, going off statistics.

[RavenDarkheart]

I don’t mean to sound rude, but they have less endurance. The pole sometimes won’t stay up as long (from what I heard). Sorry guy, but you really do need to try.

[JHAYES317]

You can be fit and still ejaculate early so there isn’t really a correlation…and erectile quality is more about hormones than how fat you are…

[RavenDarkheart]

@JHAYES317 that’s true, but the part about endurance is a connection. Regardless of anything sexual, I would want my guy to stay healthy because I’d actually care about him and not want him to die sooner than he is meant to if we can prevent it.

[Apple1996]

Weight doesn't matter. Bigger guys are fine as long as they dont squish me

[brightpapaya]

I 100% care. I prefer men leaning on the skinnier side so an obese man would be a complete turn off for me no matter how well we vibed.

[lilyyy123]

I honestly couldn't have sex with someone obese or severely over weight. To me sex is visual and that image isn't very inviting and plus I am quite little and petite so I would be flatten Into an oblivion 😂😂

[_piotr]

No. There is this problem with women: they do not care about looks. They are not attracted to male physical features at all. They attracted to money, social power, some aspects of personality and readiness to die for them.

[Miah04]

I care. I don't find overweight men attractive. Not only that but the fat usually covers up his peen so at least a couple inches are hidden, and like not much ya gonna do with a little stubby

[Anonymous]

Yeah... Never had sex with a big guy, and I'd try it out, but the logistics do concern me a bit. Current guy I'm attracted to is pretty big and it occurs to me that I have no idea how good he actually is.

[PeachyPie93]

I don't know I never dated an obese person. I would assume if we got on really well and he was good to me I wouldn't mind.

[aceleon]

no one likes fatsos and i am saying this as being over 100 kg right now (how much i am missing my perfect body) this is not changing.

[4ngelic]

for most girls yes (myself included). though i'm sure a lot of larger girls would probably be cool with it

[Becky316]

As I've said, hubby is 5'11. He is very fit, even if he wasn't he'd still be kind, sweet to me and he'd still be blessed.

[JHAYES317]

What does his height have to do with anything?

[Becky316]

He's tall and fit, even if he was short and squat I'd love him

[JHAYES317]

5’11” isn’t tall…he’s average height in the U. S and only above average in some Asian countries…only tall in like Guatemala where the median male height is 5’4” I think…

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

@JHAYES317 you seem to be trolling a lot of girls here man. Is there a reason for this?

[JHAYES317]

I’m not trolling…girls are misinformed what is actually short/tall

[Ashley1993]

Yes, most women would always prefer fit over obese

Chubby is different from Obese

[boggboss]

My partner don't see to have a issue with it and her ex was a skinny guy

[SolitarySolace]

I doubt it. Women gain power over a man through sex. Do I don’t think it would matter to them whether the guy is obese or not.

[Fireguy17]

I would think so.
They may not have to be a gym rat, but a dad bod is probably ok.

[exitseven]

I got a lot more attention from girls after I lost a lot of weight and started working out

[Kelley1]

Are peaches fruit? Is fat meat greasy?

[Anonymous]

They care. When I was overweight I couldn't get the women I was with to orgasm.

[Unknown_Stranger_0]

I feel like it depends on the guys. I think tall guys look better chubby and short guys look better skinny but that’s just my opinion

[JHAYES317]

I don’t think any guy looks good chubby tbh…unless you are only talking slightly overweight, obesity looks good on no one

[laly520]

obesity makes men less fertile

[rachel776]

i like fit

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

I agree.