Do guys care if a woman is fat?

Question

I have gained so much weight recently and I feel insecure about it. I think my husband doesn't like me anymore. Do all men find overweight women unattractive?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Attraction and preferences regarding physical appearance vary among individuals, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. Some men may prioritize different physical attributes, while others may place more importance on personality traits, shared interests, or emotional connection.

It is important to remember that everyone has unique preferences and attractions, and these preferences can vary greatly from person to person. Some men may be attracted to women of diverse body types, including those who are considered "plus-size" or "fat." Others may have different preferences based on their personal experiences, cultural influences, or societal norms.

It is crucial to foster a culture of body positivity and acceptance, where individuals are respected and valued for who they are rather than judged solely based on their physical appearance. In any healthy relationship, both partners should prioritize mutual respect, support, and acceptance of each other's bodies.

Ultimately, finding a partner who appreciates and values you for who you are, regardless of your body size or shape, is crucial for a fulfilling and healthy relationship. It's important to focus on self-confidence, self-acceptance, and seeking partners who appreciate you holistically.

razelove · Accepted Answer

Of course. Your husband got with you before you gained the weight, it's obvious he loves you, but likely isn't too excited about the changes there. It would really depend on the reasons behind it. Like if I gained a lot of weight, or my wife did, and it was simply from a change in diet, or exercise with no serious injury, go jogging, swim some laps, and eat salad instead of big macs.

It's doubtful that he doesn't like you anymore, but weight is something you can control. Less calories, more moving. The only exception there is something that prevents you from moving, or metabolizing food right.

Talk with him about it, do something about it. I highly doubt he'd turn you down to start walking together, or riding bikes, especially if it is bothering him. Losing weight doesn't have to be spartan like boot camp where some people lose 45 pounds or more in 3 months, just keep doing, and making any progress.

I had to do that when I was younger to gain weight, it's just the opposite now lol.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think most guys yes. Specially low-tier average guys. Because these are desperate to pump into someone.

They don’t have anyone else to stick their D-K into so they have to choose a LandWhale.

LMAOOO 😆😆😆😆😆
And this is the majority of them LAMOOO! So you think about that!!

Hotter guys. Men with actual muscles and testosterone and experience. They just choose the best females because they can. They have more options. However if a Hot, Manly Chad finds a LandWhale who catches his eye or his heart somehow. He will too date the LandWhale. The Beluga Whale 🐳 that washed up on shore.

And that’s not to say; that this will still make him look bad. People will crush him for this. People will look down on him for this. He will be ridiculed and harassed for this.

Hot Brad Pitts do fall in love. But they really try not to with Fatties due to this fact alone. Imagine being bullied because of how your partner looks. Over and over and over. It’s tough. He might loose all his male friends for this.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

Some guys demand the girl is skinny and others prefer the girl is skinny and others demand the girl is average and others prefer the girl is average but I find if a girl is not physically fit, and the guy cares about fitness, she needs something to back up her value outside looks. My aunt is obese but filthy rich and very nice and loyal and loving and devoted to her family and she married one of the best guys in the province. I also know an obese woman who married a very good looking man but she made a lot of money at a job where she helps people for a living, and was always joyful and happy because she was a very religious woman and was very caring and loving.

MrOracle · Answer

I'm a fat guy, so I do sympathize, but the brutal truth is that the single most common thing men want in a woman is to not be overweight. It's the most universal thing men answer when asked. Obviously there are some exceptions, but it's largely true.

The thing is, unless you have a major medical condition, you can control your weight. Eat a bit more vegetables, a bit less carbs, and go out and walk 2 miles a day. And go easier on the sugar. That's really all it takes to make real progress. If you can't walk that far at first, go as far as you can and work your way up.

Don't starve yourself, but cut back on snacking and desserts - eat fruit instead. An occasional dessert is fine.

HighValue · Answer

The majority do care about a woman's weight. Just like the majority of women care if the man is small and weak/can't defend her against most people.

If you do try to lose weight either by diet or exercise, I'd suggest only doing it M, T, TH, F and have Wednesday and the weekend to relax and enjoy yourself like normal. That is often the only way to stay consistent.

Maybe start a new physical hobby together so you both get in better shape and spend time together making new memories in the process.

RingOfFire · Answer

I wouldn't say all men find fat women unattractive. Some men prefer fat women. But I would say that most men don't. It doesn't appeal to me. There is a cultural element to it also. I think black men, for example are more likely to be attracted to fat women. My ex was black and to me she was already "thicker" than the usual women I am attracted to, but she wore it well and was very curvy, no fat on her. When we broke up she was dating a black guy who thought she was way too skinny and wanted her to fatten up! I couldn't understand it, but that was his taste. And it seemed to be the taste of a lot of the black guys who she was friends with when we were together. So I think there is a cultural factor it too.

desidoll · Answer

Most of them do. They may not say it to us because it can be sensitive or hurtful for us to accept. You said that you have gained so much weight means that you are fully aware of it. Start your weight loss journey slowly but practising a healthy diet and workout consistently. Do not wait until you reach obese level. By then, you need to seek a professional health to help you which costs a lot of money.

Emelina · Answer

Yes they do definitely. Most guys that I know have said it's all good but they avoid going out in public with their partner bc they feel ashamed of their partner for getting to big; but if a man gains weight they expect me to love them and that's not cool at all.

Anemone978 · Answer

They care.. my husband married me when I was fat.. I am still the same weight even after 2 kids.. but he seems to have lost interest in me.. and recently told me I am a 7.5, but if I got fit I would be a 10..
So I told him if I was a 10, I sure as fuck wouldn't be with you to begin with.. LOL this is why I hate men and will always be a bitch to them because they never really love you completely 🤣

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes. There are fat woman who are attractive for some men but those girls have still good body proportion, once they get shape of a wooden barrel, it's over.
Generally thinner girls with body good proportions are considered as most attractive but even thin girls without perfect bodies are better of than obese girls.

There is no exception, boys have to make some sport to remain in shape and girls need to take care what they eat to upkeep high level of attractiveness.

nolabels · Answer

Truth be told, yes, I do.

I've gained some weight myself, and feel less attractive because of it, having been sick the last couple of years, but I've been feeling better, and my increased activity is burning off the extra pounds.

Good luck to you! 👍😊

Dinklex3 · Answer

Not all men. Some actually prefer bigger women. Two men that I’ve been with prefer bigger women. One would pick at me for being too skinny and the girl he loves now is definitely on the bigger side. He finds her beautiful though inside and out. 💁🏾‍♀️

If you’re getting the vibe that he doesn’t like you anymore then maybe that’s a conversation you two should have. Other men don’t really matter, just your husband.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I think everyone cares for the sake of the person’s health. Its not to say that a person won’t date someone overweight but deep down, they’d prefer the person be a healthy weight. I’m sure they don’t even want to intentionally go for someone underweight. The best thing to do is get yourself to a weight where you feel happy and secure. Then you won’t have to question if the guy will care. The first thing that matters is how you see yourself

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes.
I find obesity unattractive.
This is mainly a west problem. A healthy person suddenly putting on 50 pounds... that is usually a west thing. Tons of junk food and laying around doing nothing and not getting regular activity just by moving around and living their life.
Yeah, if my girl suddenly gains 50 pounds... that is a big deal for many reasons; health, her investment in the relationship, her lifestyle, my attraction, her diet... tons of issues.

RealMarek · Answer

Yes, if it causes the waist-to-hip ratio to approach 1 or more than 1. Men are hard-wired to find a ratio close to 0.7 most attractive. This isn’t a matter of social conditioning, but an evolutionary adaptation to seek markers of good health and fertility.

TooHot2Care · Answer

I take care of myself.

She does not.

Kind of gross that she lusts over me, because she can't even be bothered to be active or control her diet expects me to satisfy her urges? Like bro, go after other fat people please. . . . I seriously cannot with you people anymore.

BlackJeep · Answer

Yes but guys get fat too and its nice to have a partner who is on the same health journey. I've dated women who ate more in one day than I eat in a week and are under 100lbs and that sucks. We gain weight so easy when we get old and its way better to have a gym buddy to eat salad with.

Jay3344 · Answer

So I don’t care if my romantic partner is overweight. I don’t care about people’s weight choices…some can’t really help it and others are just comfortable the way they are. Romantically I would prefer her to be healthy and within a normal weight range. Normal bmi to just above normal.

DextroShade · Answer

Yes, we care a lot because being fat is a deal-breaker for most men. The only guys who will get with fat chick's are dudes who can't get better, but if you gave those guys two million dollars, a Bugatti, and a check on IG they would be getting with fit girls. As for you, you need to lose weight, because by being fat you are telling your husband that is what you think he deserves, and if the man has any self-respect he will believe he deserves better.

Apple1996 · Answer

Only asshole men care about weight. A good man won't notice/care about weight

Raaj4you · Answer

Most of the guys dream of hot and beautiful girlfriend. Even if you marry a hot woman, she will become fat after the wedding. Even if you marry a fat lady, only women will laugh at you. Most of the men don't care if you are married to slim or fat or poor or wealthy woman.

EaterPeter · Answer

What do you mean by do guys care?

Yes, I don't like weight in certain areas and don't like fat woman. I felt same way with my last partner.

Every one gains a little weight here and there. Women gain more to give birth. Some of them can come back to regular weight not all can.

I don't know the fix for last part.

People should seek help.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

i used to be thin. and am 179#s from having 2 babies.

some men like fat women, BUT i feel there is a difference between fat with fullness, and fat with rolls and back boobs.

Most men prefer the former.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Sadly, they do…  So, I know it can be hard but it’s really better for your health, happiness and a relationship to lose weight to the point where you feel confident again.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Gaining a bit of weight is no big deal, I think a lot of people put a little pandemic-weight on. I'd be more concerned if the weight gain could be influencing her health more than anything.

XXblack88 · Answer

Most do care if their woman is fat. Having a partner who can physically keep up with you is way more enjoyable then one that can't keep up with you.

EricSummer · Answer

If she is overweight that's fine with me. She should not be obese though, so there is a limit as of which it becomes unattractive.

PizzaDaddyo · Answer

Yes. Isn’t that why the Roseanne reboot got cancled?

LazerBean · Answer

Of course most of them will care, just like most women care if a man gains a ton of weight.

Nikki1989 · Answer

The total jerks make a big deal out of it, but the good ones are far more open-minded and supportive.

strateguy632 · Answer

yes especialy if we read hindu books that praised thin lady. but if a guy can't find thin he is likely to "accept" a fat.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Not all men but any man that has status does. Fat girls are fine to use as slump buster but shouldn't be taken as serious partners. You Literally have one job as a woman and that's to not get fat.

CreatingWonders · Answer

Yes, being a little puddeny as I like to call it is fine and kinda cute, but if you look like the Michelin man then no.

Being fat is unhealthy and not good for your heart or organs, also you wouldn’t look good naked either.

spartan55 · Answer

I have a weight limit, but not a number. It's how they look.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Yes, men care. I know some may have a fetish or something for fat women but majority of people in general don't won't to be with someone who's fat.

MementoMori777 · Answer

To a certain point, I can do thick women tho, if they have curves then they can be attractive, I'm speaking personally of course

LiamJHayden · Answer

Obesity is the one and only automatic exclusion for me physically. It is not aesthetic, it's practical. I am too physically active for a couch potato.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I sure do, even though I'm a drunk olding man with a high metabolism and issues with the bottom left of my back. I also believe more people care about whether to use the word fat for some lighter toned bullshit.

Angelo75 · Answer

Some men care about weight... others don't. Some men even like women with extra "curves".

Billlewis · Answer

Yes, and I'm usually disappointed if she doesn't weigh at least two hundred pounds.

EmmaMary · Answer

Why have you gained all this weight, and what do you plan doing about it?

zagor · Answer

Yes they do. Some men find fat women attractive, but that is a small percentage. I personally wouldn't date a fat woman, though I've had some as friends.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

You have the power to fix this if you so choose. Men marry hoping you will never change. He's noticed and probably doesn't feel the attraction he once did but still loves you.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

People care about health. So in general most guys and girls don’t see fat people as attractive. It’s one reason people pay for gym memberships and maintain healthy diets.

Avicenna · Answer

Depends how far- overweight can usually still get guys if she is of childbearing age, but not obese.

e232bm · Answer

It probably depends on the guy and what qualities he is looking for in someone.

slatyb · Answer

Yes, we do. I have dated women who were a boy otherwise but have no interest in dating please women.

Sasha0426 · Answer

They definitely do care. They’ll make you so scared of gaining weight and that’s why tons of women are health freaks so their man doesn’t leave.

TrillXHippy · Answer

Do you think they do? Cause I don’t. You wanna ask my brothers if they care about a girl being freaking fat? I don’t care how many girls say we care. I say we don’t

shades777 · Answer

well the fatter you get the more unfuckable you become especially if he married you when you had a banging bod, thats not fair unless your both huge then i say fair game

Pohjolan · Answer

I mean there is some room before it becomes a issue. But yeah men do care especially if its on a level where it becomes a liability. Good news is that being fat is optional.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yeah its a major turn off. Just lose the weight, you should for your health anyway.

DrewJohnson · Answer

My wife has gained 40 lbs since we got married. She's fucking at as hell. Sorry your hubby doesn't think you're fucking sexy.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yeah. You should join Curves for Women. It's okay to gain a little bit, but you should never let it get out of control like a runaway train.

JonesT10Apr · Answer

getting fat is natural for some body type... try to be fit.. is choice... it's better take care of ourselves for our health more important

art84 · Answer

I am not into overweight women it just looks unhealthy.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

No man wants to be seen with an obese woman, just like no woman wants to be seen with a man shorter than him.

Redeye69 · Answer

I do... that just seems to be a turn off for me. You can barely see their vagina at all as its hidden under fat layers and that is a very sexy part of a woman. It just looks unhealthy to me.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends, some girls are still attractive even if she’s carrying some pounds.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely, men are attracted to the physical. That’s starts with the your appearance. Truth is your husband isn’t attracted to you. You are correct. You can fix that tho.

Wise4myage · Answer

You should look into getting on a diet and start exercising, you you feel much better.

Chthou95 · Answer

There's a lot of men (Sadly) that love and take fat women. And there's plenty of other men who don't

msc545 · Answer

Overweight is unhealthy and therfore unattractive.

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