I have gained so much weight recently and I feel insecure about it. I think my husband doesn't like me anymore. Do all men find overweight women unattractive?
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Do guys care if a woman is fat?
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Of course. Your husband got with you before you gained the weight, it's obvious he loves you, but likely isn't too excited about the changes there. It would really depend on the reasons behind it. Like if I gained a lot of weight, or my wife did, and it was simply from a change in diet, or exercise with no serious injury, go jogging, swim some laps, and eat salad instead of big macs.
It's doubtful that he doesn't like you anymore, but weight is something you can control. Less calories, more moving. The only exception there is something that prevents you from moving, or metabolizing food right.
Talk with him about it, do something about it. I highly doubt he'd turn you down to start walking together, or riding bikes, especially if it is bothering him. Losing weight doesn't have to be spartan like boot camp where some people lose 45 pounds or more in 3 months, just keep doing, and making any progress.
I had to do that when I was younger to gain weight, it's just the opposite now lol.
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I think most guys yes. Specially low-tier average guys. Because these are desperate to pump into someone.
They don’t have anyone else to stick their D-K into so they have to choose a LandWhale.
LMAOOO 😆😆😆😆😆
And this is the majority of them LAMOOO! So you think about that!!
Hotter guys. Men with actual muscles and testosterone and experience. They just choose the best females because they can. They have more options. However if a Hot, Manly Chad finds a LandWhale who catches his eye or his heart somehow. He will too date the LandWhale. The Beluga Whale 🐳 that washed up on shore.And that’s not to say; that this will still make him look bad. People will crush him for this. People will look down on him for this. He will be ridiculed and harassed for this.
. Hot Brad Pitts do fall in love. But they really try not to with Fatties due to this fact alone. Imagine being bullied because of how your partner looks. Over and over and over. It’s tough. He might loose all his male friends for this.
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Some guys demand the girl is skinny and others prefer the girl is skinny and others demand the girl is average and others prefer the girl is average but I find if a girl is not physically fit, and the guy cares about fitness, she needs something to back up her value outside looks. My aunt is obese but filthy rich and very nice and loyal and loving and devoted to her family and she married one of the best guys in the province. I also know an obese woman who married a very good looking man but she made a lot of money at a job where she helps people for a living, and was always joyful and happy because she was a very religious woman and was very caring and loving.
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I'm a fat guy, so I do sympathize, but the brutal truth is that the single most common thing men want in a woman is to not be overweight. It's the most universal thing men answer when asked. Obviously there are some exceptions, but it's largely true.
The thing is, unless you have a major medical condition, you can control your weight. Eat a bit more vegetables, a bit less carbs, and go out and walk 2 miles a day. And go easier on the sugar. That's really all it takes to make real progress. If you can't walk that far at first, go as far as you can and work your way up.
Don't starve yourself, but cut back on snacking and desserts - eat fruit instead. An occasional dessert is fine. - 522 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
The majority do care about a woman's weight. Just like the majority of women care if the man is small and weak/can't defend her against most people.
If you do try to lose weight either by diet or exercise, I'd suggest only doing it M, T, TH, F and have Wednesday and the weekend to relax and enjoy yourself like normal. That is often the only way to stay consistent.
Maybe start a new physical hobby together so you both get in better shape and spend time together making new memories in the process.
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I wouldn't say all men find fat women unattractive. Some men prefer fat women. But I would say that most men don't. It doesn't appeal to me. There is a cultural element to it also. I think black men, for example are more likely to be attracted to fat women. My ex was black and to me she was already "thicker" than the usual women I am attracted to, but she wore it well and was very curvy, no fat on her. When we broke up she was dating a black guy who thought she was way too skinny and wanted her to fatten up! I couldn't understand it, but that was his taste. And it seemed to be the taste of a lot of the black guys who she was friends with when we were together. So I think there is a cultural factor it too.
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Most of them do. They may not say it to us because it can be sensitive or hurtful for us to accept. You said that you have gained so much weight means that you are fully aware of it. Start your weight loss journey slowly but practising a healthy diet and workout consistently. Do not wait until you reach obese level. By then, you need to seek a professional health to help you which costs a lot of money.
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Yes they do definitely. Most guys that I know have said it's all good but they avoid going out in public with their partner bc they feel ashamed of their partner for getting to big; but if a man gains weight they expect me to love them and that's not cool at all.
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They care.. my husband married me when I was fat.. I am still the same weight even after 2 kids.. but he seems to have lost interest in me.. and recently told me I am a 7.5, but if I got fit I would be a 10..
So I told him if I was a 10, I sure as fuck wouldn't be with you to begin with.. LOL this is why I hate men and will always be a bitch to them because they never really love you completely 🤣 -
Yes. There are fat woman who are attractive for some men but those girls have still good body proportion, once they get shape of a wooden barrel, it's over.
Generally thinner girls with body good proportions are considered as most attractive but even thin girls without perfect bodies are better of than obese girls.There is no exception, boys have to make some sport to remain in shape and girls need to take care what they eat to upkeep high level of attractiveness.
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Truth be told, yes, I do.
I've gained some weight myself, and feel less attractive because of it, having been sick the last couple of years, but I've been feeling better, and my increased activity is burning off the extra pounds.
Good luck to you! 👍😊
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Not all men. Some actually prefer bigger women. Two men that I’ve been with prefer bigger women. One would pick at me for being too skinny and the girl he loves now is definitely on the bigger side. He finds her beautiful though inside and out. 💁🏾♀️
If you’re getting the vibe that he doesn’t like you anymore then maybe that’s a conversation you two should have. Other men don’t really matter, just your husband.
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I think everyone cares for the sake of the person’s health. Its not to say that a person won’t date someone overweight but deep down, they’d prefer the person be a healthy weight. I’m sure they don’t even want to intentionally go for someone underweight. The best thing to do is get yourself to a weight where you feel happy and secure. Then you won’t have to question if the guy will care. The first thing that matters is how you see yourself
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Yes.
I find obesity unattractive.
This is mainly a west problem. A healthy person suddenly putting on 50 pounds... that is usually a west thing. Tons of junk food and laying around doing nothing and not getting regular activity just by moving around and living their life.
Yeah, if my girl suddenly gains 50 pounds... that is a big deal for many reasons; health, her investment in the relationship, her lifestyle, my attraction, her diet... tons of issues. - 348 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Yes, if it causes the waist-to-hip ratio to approach 1 or more than 1. Men are hard-wired to find a ratio close to 0.7 most attractive. This isn’t a matter of social conditioning, but an evolutionary adaptation to seek markers of good health and fertility.
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I take care of myself.
She does not.
Kind of gross that she lusts over me, because she can't even be bothered to be active or control her diet expects me to satisfy her urges? Like bro, go after other fat people please. . . . I seriously cannot with you people anymore.
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Yes but guys get fat too and its nice to have a partner who is on the same health journey. I've dated women who ate more in one day than I eat in a week and are under 100lbs and that sucks. We gain weight so easy when we get old and its way better to have a gym buddy to eat salad with.
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Yes, we care a lot because being fat is a deal-breaker for most men. The only guys who will get with fat chick's are dudes who can't get better, but if you gave those guys two million dollars, a Bugatti, and a check on IG they would be getting with fit girls. As for you, you need to lose weight, because by being fat you are telling your husband that is what you think he deserves, and if the man has any self-respect he will believe he deserves better.
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Only asshole men care about weight. A good man won't notice/care about weight
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So I don’t care if my romantic partner is overweight. I don’t care about people’s weight choices…some can’t really help it and others are just comfortable the way they are. Romantically I would prefer her to be healthy and within a normal weight range. Normal bmi to just above normal.
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Most of the guys dream of hot and beautiful girlfriend. Even if you marry a hot woman, she will become fat after the wedding. Even if you marry a fat lady, only women will laugh at you. Most of the men don't care if you are married to slim or fat or poor or wealthy woman.
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i used to be thin. and am 179#s from having 2 babies.
some men like fat women, BUT i feel there is a difference between fat with fullness, and fat with rolls and back boobs.
Most men prefer the former. - 960 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
What do you mean by do guys care?
Yes, I don't like weight in certain areas and don't like fat woman. I felt same way with my last partner.
Every one gains a little weight here and there. Women gain more to give birth. Some of them can come back to regular weight not all can.
I don't know the fix for last part.
People should seek help.
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