If you’re a bitter person, how do you cope with it?

[Anonymous]

I’m a very bitter, negative, and chronically depressed person.

[luvstoned4him]

By looking within and seeing your reason for being so bitter because trust me... THERE IS a reason. I would know. Once you have found the reason...

The Next step is seeing if what you you are bitter about can be changed, if so, change it, if its a person move away, cut ties, if not then learn to accept but overall deal with it as soon as possible because this is worth your mental or physical well being.

[Asker]

To my memory, it didn’t start until I lost my grandmother to Covid 3 years ago. She was in bad health years before Covid, it just happened to take her out. Even though I know she’s happy in heaven, I miss her deeply every day. I loved her more than anyone else in this cold world. She wouldn’t want me to be like this. I simply don’t know how to climb out of this hole, metaphorically. Thanks for your in depth answer. May peace be with you.

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker I don't think this bitterness at all but sounds more like depression and but if Anger

[Asker]

Interesting point, you might just be right.

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker see a good therapist and get on some meds if you can to improve it. You can even try journaling your feelings. Travelling to places and taking up great hobbies. Most of all just try to not take things so seriously and relax. Spend some time with God /Bible

[Asker]

Thanks a lot and may peace be with you.

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker, no problem. I wish you peace and happiness as well.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I took up mindfulness and grew past it, among other things that I’m sure would sound like hippy dippy nonsense but I was just tired of hating everything and being mad at everything and being sad about my life. It’s exhausting, so I took the steps to make myself an optimist instead.

[Asker]

You don’t know how much I wish I were optimistic. I’m glad you were able to climb out of it. That’s an ability I’ve yet to learn. Any tips?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Figuring out corrective thought patterns and how the first thing you think of isn’t what you really think but what you’re *taught* to think. What follows immediately after is what you really think. Use this to correct yourself, it’ll feel weird and stupid at first but with time you’ll see a lot of results. Mindfulness meditations can also help, learning to recognize your thoughts as separate from your consciousness does a lot of the leg work too.

[Asker]

I see what you’re saying, thanks. May peace be with you.

[Sonorous]

I don't really have to cope with who I am. It's not a hard pill for me to swallow. I fully accept myself. No regrets.

[Asker]

Good for you, be thankful. I hope you never become like me.

[Sonorous]

Don't know much about you but I used to be what your describe above.

[dustybiker2]

Switch your life up. Sign up for some sort of class. Learn a skill. If you better yourself you feel better about yourself, then in turn attract people. = Happier.

[dustybiker2]

Distraction and new things work best.