My girlfriend used to be thin and hot but got fat and won't excercise?

[Anonymous]

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I could only get her to go to the gym for a month but she gave up and refuses to eat healthy. I tried to go with her bc I've always worked out but no dice.

• To make things worse she's on antidepressants and has no sex drive. So what little i do get laid its with someone I'm not even attracted to anymore who doesn't even want to be having sex.

We broke up over this (and many other things) but are back together because we have a kid and bc dating new people nowadays is a nightmare (because everyone sucks, probably including us too, if we're being real).

I'm trying to water my own grass but it's not looking much greener on the other side either.

I don't know what to do.

[Oliverlogan263]

Bro, that's a really tough situation you're in. I get that the physical attraction thing is a major issue, especially when your sex life is already struggling. It sounds like a pretty miserable situation all around.

The fact that your girlfriend has put on weight and won't stick to a fitness routine is frustrating, I'm sure. And if she's dealing with mental health stuff on top of that, that makes it even harder. It's not an easy problem to solve.

I know you said you tried going to the gym with her, but maybe you could try a different approach. Like, suggest doing more active date nights or fun physical activities you can do together as a couple. That way it's not just about her working out, but something you're both invested in.

The antidepressants thing is a whole other beast too. That can really kill someone's sex drive and make it tough to stay motivated. Encouraging her to talk to her doctor about it could help, but you can't force her to do that.

Ultimately, it comes down to whether you're willing to stick it out and try to work through this with her, or if it's time to cut your losses. Neither option is easy, but you gotta do what's best for you in the long run, you feel me?

If you do decide to stay, just focus on being supportive and positive. Don't harp on the weight or nagging her to work out. That'll just push her away. And keep working on yourself, bro - hit the gym, pursue your own interests, and don't neglect your own needs.

And if it's truly not salvageable, don't beat yourself up. Sometimes these things just don't work out, no matter how much you want them to. Just be honest with yourself and your partner, and do what's right for you.

I know it's a shitty situation all around, but you got this, man. Just gotta keep your head up and do what's best for you. Let me know if you need any other advice!

[Anonymous]

You could do like a lot of women do by putting your happiness first. Me sing dump her. You don’t have to accept it. Was she on antidepressants before you met her? The good thing is you two aren’t married so you don’t have to deal w that? Or are you married to her? You need to have a serious talk w her because this isn’t going to last. What’s she depressed about? Her sight gain?

[Asker]

Lmao Dude there's nothing wrong with her every woman thinks they have depression. Depression is part of life. I'm depressed she's fat.

Like you're right, we should break up. I mean we did, but it didn't go well for either of us. As much as it sucks, she puts out more than anyone else I know right now. It's more like a "devil you know is better than the one you don't" type situation for both of us at this point.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok but is going through all that misery worth it? Probably not. There’s a lot of other women out there who aren’t all screed up like a lot of them seem to be.

[Asker]

Yeah, like, again, you're totally right. But I'd like to have a new job lined up before I quit the one that's paying the bills.

Also I'm on a testosterone cycle right now and my hand is gonna be crippled if I use it anymore. I NEED sex with an actual woman even if it's only twice a week.

[Opinion Owner]

Then do what you need to do or lived your life like this for the reminder of your days. It’s gotta suck but you have to do what you have to do.

[Apple1996]

Sometimes your partners body might change overtime and you just gotta accept it. Looks aren't everything. Especially since y'all have a kid together her body might not be what it use to

[Asker]

Good personality is not gonna cut it this time.

[Apple1996]

It's not about personality. It's about if you love her

[Asker]

I think I made it obvious this is a strictly a lust thing.

[Apple1996]

It seems like your mindset is the problem

[Asker]

Yeah well unfortunately changing my mindset won't give me "shallow-hal" vision in real life.

[Apple1996]

I honestly think if you had a better mindset, was nice to her and loved her then she'd want to get healthy. Personally i always feel loved and supported enough by my husband to want to workout because I know that he loves my body regardless of what it looks like.

[Anonymous]

Scumbag, low-value men like you don't deserve a good woman.

And I don't understand why you stole that pic from Facebook for this post.

[Asker]

You're missing the entire point

[Asker]

Also *found the body positive plus size model*

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Dude, just break up with her